friendinneed Posted August 16, 2008 Author Share Posted August 16, 2008 my mom already noes cuz she saw the bruises, so she would tell me to tell someone, but its hard to no who to tell Link to comment
stella74 Posted August 16, 2008 Share Posted August 16, 2008 What did your mom say and do when she saw the bruises? Did your mother realize the bruises were from your friend's father abusing her? Link to comment
friendinneed Posted August 16, 2008 Author Share Posted August 16, 2008 well i said when i figured out "my friends friends dad abuses her" and then we had a track meet and the uniforms are no sleeved, and my mom was helping out there, and she had soooooo many bruises... Link to comment
stella74 Posted August 16, 2008 Share Posted August 16, 2008 It's still not clear to me what your mother said or did after she saw the bruises. Did you talk about it after the track meet? Link to comment
friendinneed Posted August 16, 2008 Author Share Posted August 16, 2008 yea, and i wouldnt tell her anything so she said "i no somethings going on about that, and i want u to no that u should tell somebody, u could save her life..." Link to comment
stella74 Posted August 16, 2008 Share Posted August 16, 2008 She's leaving it up to you to tell. She knows you'll do the right thing and she supports you, but she doesn't want to get involved herself. So I would say you don't need to talk to your mother first, unless you want to tell her. You said you don't really trust the counselor. Why is that? If you tell a teacher, the teacher will tell the counselor or some other social worker on staff. Then the school would talk to your friend and might talk to the family. They would then contact child protective services if they found enough evidence of abuse. By law, school employees have to report suspected cases of child abuse. Or you or a parent can call child protective services on your own. Link to comment
stella74 Posted August 16, 2008 Share Posted August 16, 2008 Actually, I just re-read what your mom said: "i want u to no that u should tell somebody, u could save her life..." Maybe she meant she wanted you to tell her. It's hard to tell. Link to comment
friendinneed Posted August 16, 2008 Author Share Posted August 16, 2008 i dont trust the counseler because we think she would FREAK out and we would have all these meading and the whole school whould have to go to them and they would talk about it and bring in speakers and a whole bunch of other stuff and the whole school would find out who was abused and things would just be bad also the counsle is weird and i dont would completle understand the situation oh and i'll proble tell my mom the whole story Link to comment
stella74 Posted August 16, 2008 Share Posted August 16, 2008 I'm sorry, but I actually laughed out loud when I read what you wrote because I know there is a possibility that might happen. How about if you call child protective services tomorrow and explain the situation? You don't have to give your name and you can ask for advice. It sounds like it's a good idea to tell your mom. You can tell her after you call child protective services or you can talk to her first. The most important thing is tell someone. Good luck and let us know how it goes. Link to comment
Stars_n_Guitars Posted August 16, 2008 Share Posted August 16, 2008 i dont trust the counseler because we think she would FREAK out and we would have all these meading and the whole school whould have to go to them and they would talk about it and bring in speakers and a whole bunch of other stuff and the whole school would find out who was abused and things would just be bad also the counsle is weird and i dont would completle understand the situation oh and i'll proble tell my mom the whole story So what if there's stuff like that. What if there is someone else in the school that is going through the same thing and is scared to talk about it too? that would give them the opportunity to come forward! Link to comment
Stars_n_Guitars Posted August 16, 2008 Share Posted August 16, 2008 omg, thats serious. thanks 4 telling me, how long were you mad at her? me? not very long. Someone else may be mad longer than I was. I just looked at it from her eyes. She cared about me enough to tell someone that I may kill myself, I saw that it would hurt her. I wasn't mad for more than a day. I worked with the girl too. She was my best friend. Link to comment
friendinneed Posted August 16, 2008 Author Share Posted August 16, 2008 ok i hope that she will understand the same way. we tried calling child sevises but i didnt go through Link to comment
friendinneed Posted August 16, 2008 Author Share Posted August 16, 2008 u guys have been great . any more advice ? Link to comment
stella74 Posted August 17, 2008 Share Posted August 17, 2008 Child protective services may only take calls during week days, so try again on Monday. Link to comment
friendinneed Posted August 18, 2008 Author Share Posted August 18, 2008 ok thank you guys so much. Link to comment
stella74 Posted August 18, 2008 Share Posted August 18, 2008 Were you able to get a hold of them? Or did you talk to your mom? I hope things went okay. Link to comment
friendinneed Posted August 19, 2008 Author Share Posted August 19, 2008 we weren't together today so we didn't call today. were gonna call tomorrow. Link to comment
stella74 Posted August 20, 2008 Share Posted August 20, 2008 If you read this, let us know how it goes! Link to comment
friendinneed Posted August 28, 2008 Author Share Posted August 28, 2008 We all talked to our counciler. Link to comment
saint132 Posted August 29, 2008 Share Posted August 29, 2008 Child Abuse just piss"es me off if I were you Id just give her dad "that basterd" a warning "HURT HER AGAIN I"ll MAKE SURE THE HOSPITAL WANT FIX YOU!" and Im serious, personal I would never forgive someone like that. but hey you should tell her that you love her and you"ll always be there no matter what! but please if this continous, stop her father before it becomes too †late†.... even if it means killing him. Link to comment
friendinneed Posted August 30, 2008 Author Share Posted August 30, 2008 We talked to our counciler. She was called down to the office after that and refused to admit anything...same with her dad. What should we do? She got pulled out of school for an hour by her parents and got in trouble for us doing the right thing. Help...... Link to comment
Seraphim Posted August 30, 2008 Share Posted August 30, 2008 I think social services would have been a better idea, they have to make an actual investigation. Link to comment
healthseeker Posted August 30, 2008 Share Posted August 30, 2008 I agree...get it to child services...they will investigate. You have to understand she is AFRAID to admit to it and you are doing the right thing. Has she told you anything since this happened? Link to comment
Seraphim Posted August 30, 2008 Share Posted August 30, 2008 Yes of course she is terrified and so is the father cause his nasty ass is gonna be found out. He should be taken out .................I can not say all I want to on here, but you get the idea. Call social services. Link to comment
friendinneed Posted August 30, 2008 Author Share Posted August 30, 2008 were just kids. and our counciler told us that if it isnt that bad..social services wont really do anything to help us. they might just ignore the case all together. this is alot drama for us to handle and we dont know if we can do it anymore. her parents told her not to talk to one of us because we told. Her mom knows now but wont do anything to help. ????? Link to comment
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