we have a abused friend. PLEASE HELP???

[Seraphim]

Try making an anonimous call to the police.

[healthseeker]

Do not give up.

[chocolate-cake]

Please keep trying to report it, convince your friend it will stop if she comes clean.

[friendinneed]

ok, she just said that her dad doesnt do that anymore because (were guessing) he's terrified to get turned in if we see the bruises again. our friend was rely mad at us because we told and was grounded for 9 MONTHS!!! but now she is ungrounded and just recently found out the whole story and said thank you!!!! this has actually worked out well..

[thedman]

It's certainly good if your friend isn't being hurt now, but that's no excuse for what happened to her before. Also, her dad is probably going to start it again. I would still call up Child Protective Services and explain the whole thing to them.

[Seraphim]

Yup, he will start once he feels safe again.

[friendinneed]

i hope he doesn't... that would suck, but the rest is up to her, she's still a little mad but she'll get over it i hope...

[Roxy Rose]

By not speaking up the only person you are protecting is her father.

[stella74]

I'm glad things are working out well for now. As the others have said, though, her father may start up again. I don't think it was right of the counselor to discourage you from contacting child protective services. It's up to them to decide how the serious the case is or not.

 

If you notice any more bruises on your friend, please tell your mother and also call child protective services. It's only a drama if you try to handle this on your own.

[friendinneed]

ok.. it's been about two months since i told our counselor. everything is good now, but everytime our friend wears a sweater we ALWAYS question her, she doesnt like it, but thats how we know nothing bad is going on.. unfortunately i do believe that her dad will start up again.. i'm not going to tell anyone because that is up to her, which she promised to tell her mom if he did because she believes 100% that he's not going to go back to his old ways. now he just yells a lot but that's better than being hurt, right?

[stella74]

I'm so glad she has friends like you. Keep checking in on her. It will help. Unfortunately, getting yelled at is often just as bad as being physically hurt. It depends on what is said and how it's said. Some types of yelling can be verbally or emotionally abusive. Try to talk to her about what he says to her when he yells. The most important thing for you to tell her is that this isn't her fault.

[Plymouth]

Yeah I agree with the above post.Its so easy to get into a cycle of thinking it's because of you. Support her and perhaps encourage her to have a look at some literature because they can be really helpful in making you step back from your situation x

[friendinneed]

ok, she is not being hurt at all and things are going very well.. she's not being hurt and her grades are getting a lot better because she can actually focus on them.