Caterina Posted August 10, 2008 Share Posted August 10, 2008 It seems like there is something about me: even nerds think that they can play mind games with me! Link to comment
annie24 Posted August 11, 2008 Share Posted August 11, 2008 maybe they sensed that you weren't all that into them and they got out of there? Link to comment
Snoopy24 Posted August 11, 2008 Share Posted August 11, 2008 hmm, no because I wouldn't pursue someone I'd have to settle for, thereforee they couldn't reject me. Link to comment
purpleduckie Posted August 11, 2008 Share Posted August 11, 2008 as much as i hated to admit it, yes, it has happened. it's usually the only time I get dumped. heh... yes, does a number to my ego. It needed the beat anyway. Too arrogant! Not to mention, a really crappy move on my part. Link to comment
Divine_Malice Posted August 11, 2008 Share Posted August 11, 2008 Yeah, it was my ex fiance, but it was for the better. ha Link to comment
Caterina Posted August 11, 2008 Author Share Posted August 11, 2008 maybe they sensed that you weren't all that into them and they got out of there? He's not that savvy/intuitive. At least I did't think he is. Thing is, he plays games. He says he wants to go out but then never calls. The time I call (when I'm bored), he turns me down. Maybe he was, and its his way of making a one-up power play...of elevating himself over me b/c of my true disinterest...maybe you're right. Link to comment
Cognitive_Canine Posted August 11, 2008 Share Posted August 11, 2008 Well, personally, I think it's good that you got humbled. We all like to think that we are in "leagues". We even go as far as to think that asking someone out is doing them a favor. However, you get what you give out. Maybe you won't size this guy up to be less than you in the future? Or any person, for that matter. Just cause the guy is geeky doesn't mean he's desperate. Link to comment
Caterina Posted August 11, 2008 Author Share Posted August 11, 2008 I don't know what you mean about "got humbled". ALl I ever do is get rejected by people I fall for. Now I even get rejected by nerds. If you mean "by humbled" that I've had my face ground into the dirt, then yeah, I have -- but I don't see how its a good thing. Link to comment
Cognitive_Canine Posted August 11, 2008 Share Posted August 11, 2008 I don't know what you mean about "got humbled". ALl I ever do is get rejected by people I fall for. Now I even get rejected by nerds. If you mean "by humbled" that I've had my face ground into the dirt, then yeah, I have -- but I don't see how its a good thing. i mean humbled because you sized this guy up as being lesser than you. Link to comment
DaBladeRoden Posted August 11, 2008 Share Posted August 11, 2008 Yes, that's why it's important to not lower your standards. Cause it'll only hurt more when you are rejected by someone whom you think "How could she possibly reject me!? Look at her!" Link to comment
bulletproof Posted August 11, 2008 Share Posted August 11, 2008 I don't know what you mean about "got humbled". ALl I ever do is get rejected by people I fall for. Now I even get rejected by nerds. If you mean "by humbled" that I've had my face ground into the dirt, then yeah, I have -- but I don't see how its a good thing. I agree that a humbling was needed. If you see people as "more" or "less" than you, you might have a really negative outlook in general, and that might be what's affecting your dating. It's really not such a nice thing to call anyone a nerd. Link to comment
fastball2113 Posted August 11, 2008 Share Posted August 11, 2008 no, i have never been rejected by someone i'd only settle for...i dont settle Link to comment
morgane Posted August 11, 2008 Share Posted August 11, 2008 i have been rejected so many times it's not even funny hahahahah but i never really care afterwards, i guess i'm happily single. Link to comment
annie24 Posted August 11, 2008 Share Posted August 11, 2008 I don't know what you mean about "got humbled". ALl I ever do is get rejected by people I fall for. Now I even get rejected by nerds. If you mean "by humbled" that I've had my face ground into the dirt, then yeah, I have -- but I don't see how its a good thing. yup, i agree, does sound like you needed a humbling. i also don't think it's fair to be *SHOCKED* when a guy you percieve as less than you breaks up with you. maybe he sensed you were treating him as 'less than' so he decided he didn't like it anymore. maybe he met someone more compatible with him? Link to comment
Caterina Posted August 11, 2008 Author Share Posted August 11, 2008 Okay, so what gods do you follow were the ones who deemed me worthy of being humbled by this guy? Are you seriously saying that the reason this happened was some karma-related spiritual thing instead of providing me with some rational reasons for what he was thinking? Do you think that hearing I needed to be humbled and you're glad this happened to me is why I came to this board? If I wanted to hear about yada yada I deserve this-that, I can just go talk to some nuns who tell me I got what I deserved. Link to comment
annie24 Posted August 11, 2008 Share Posted August 11, 2008 well, i'm very sorry that these nerds did not worship the ground you walk on and bring sacrifices of gold and exotic spices and nectarines to lay at your feet. Link to comment
JadedStar Posted August 11, 2008 Share Posted August 11, 2008 It seems like there is something about me: even nerds think that they can play mind games with me! the problem might be in that you had a superiority complex and it came back to bite you in the behind. Lessons learned - don't think you are better than anyone else. Link to comment
Cognitive_Canine Posted August 11, 2008 Share Posted August 11, 2008 don't worry. I think that this is a crime that a lot of people commit. Myself included. However, we shouldn't put people in to places on the dating totem pole. If you truly liked this guy, you wouldn't be settling. Link to comment
Caterina Posted August 11, 2008 Author Share Posted August 11, 2008 well, i'm very sorry that these nerds did not worship the ground you walk on and bring sacrifices of gold and exotic spices and nectarines to lay at your feet. Finally you get it. And some grapes to. Fat ones, no shrimpies. Link to comment
JadedStar Posted August 11, 2008 Share Posted August 11, 2008 Okay, so what gods do you follow were the ones who deemed me worthy of being humbled by this guy? Are you seriously saying that the reason this happened was some karma-related spiritual thing instead of providing me with some rational reasons for what he was thinking? Do you think that hearing I needed to be humbled and you're glad this happened to me is why I came to this board? If I wanted to hear about yada yada I deserve this-that, I can just go talk to some nuns who tell me I got what I deserved. I think all of that was over the top thinking but i tend to agree that there were lessons to be learned here. Because this guy was not as good looking as you, so you think, the fact that he might have dumped you because it wasn't working out is so horrific? If you could read your posts outside of yourself if someone else had written them i think you would see the superiority and snobbishness of it and would probably agree with the respondents. How horrible to think you were 'better' then him and how dare he break up with YOU. Link to comment
Cognitive_Canine Posted August 11, 2008 Share Posted August 11, 2008 Okay, so what gods do you follow were the ones who deemed me worthy of being humbled by this guy? Are you seriously saying that the reason this happened was some karma-related spiritual thing instead of providing me with some rational reasons for what he was thinking? Do you think that hearing I needed to be humbled and you're glad this happened to me is why I came to this board? If I wanted to hear about yada yada I deserve this-that, I can just go talk to some nuns who tell me I got what I deserved. but you shouldn't even be hurt if you were settling to begin with. It isn't helping your situation, but, in general, thinking someone lesser than you in dating is a bad habit to get into. Just for future refernce. I mean, I wouldn't want to date a guy who considered himself better than me. Link to comment
Caterina Posted August 11, 2008 Author Share Posted August 11, 2008 the problem might be in that you had a superiority complex and it came back to bite you in the behind. Lessons learned - don't think you are better than anyone else. Its not that I technically thought I was better...its that I thought that by normal standards, I'd be much higher on that totem pole and so losing me would be too much of a risk since I was lowering my standards for him and he was getting higher than he could normally. I didn't think I was better except by normal measuring standards that have to do with wealth, looks, etc Link to comment
JadedStar Posted August 11, 2008 Share Posted August 11, 2008 He's not that savvy/intuitive. At least I did't think he is. Thing is, he plays games. He says he wants to go out but then never calls. The time I call (when I'm bored), he turns me down. Maybe he was, and its his way of making a one-up power play...of elevating himself over me b/c of my true disinterest...maybe you're right. Or, maybe he was going to settle for you and got cold feet. Link to comment
Caterina Posted August 11, 2008 Author Share Posted August 11, 2008 Okay Mom and Da- I mean, ENA people, thanks for the great advice. I got what I needed, you made your point. Link to comment
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