I dont want to hurt her...

[mysocalledlife]

Hi, my problem is me and my g/f were messing around and i was (sorry if i get detailed) fingering her and she is pretty tight. Well we talked about sex and im about an average 7" and 5" in girth but I am afraid of hurting her anything that can help me out.

[Beec]

The first time a woman has sex, it is probably going to hurt. After that, it may if the guy is well-endowed. Two things should help: lubricant, such as KY Jelly; and letting her be on top. If she is on top, she can more easily control the rate at which penetration occurs, getting use to it as it enters.

[Ash]

Her being tight should not cause any problems provided you're careful. The first thing you should do is make sure she is ready for sex. You should spend a reasonably long time fooling around first as there are physical changes that happen in a women as her body prepares for sex. One of the most noticeable is that she should become fairly wet. If this doesn't happen, then I'd advise having some lubricant on hand. Just take it nice and easy, and don't push too hard. If everything is well enough lubricated, you should get there no problem.

 

If she's a virgin, there may be some passing pain, and a small amount of blood in the beginning. That's normal. The discomfort shouldn't last, and there will be very little bleeding. If you have a big concern, then maybe you could consider only going so far the first time, and waiting for your second time to fully relax and enjoy things. I think you'll find though, that continuing on in your first time will be perfectly okay and enjoyable.

 

You're within normal dimensions, so that in itself should not be a major issue. It is possible that you find certain positions may cause discomfort due to the angle and depth of penetration. If discomfort or pain does occur, simply try something else and end up with a position she's comfortable with. For example, you could consider letting her be on top so she's more in control of what happens.

[ameliamolly]

Go very slowly, use lube and let her be on top so she can find a position that is comfortable for her. Reassure that it's ok for her to find one that feels good to her. Tightness from virginity will be painful at first for her, but soon you will see that this will go away after a few times. Some women also get tight when aroused, so don't be surprised by this and enjoy it. 5" in girth, huh?

[bexcelant]

In some cases, I have read that the hyman needs to be surgically alterered by a doctor so as to not have pain. This isn't a usual case but some women just have to seek medical help first so you might want to think about that.