TerryPConcern Posted June 27, 2008 Share Posted June 27, 2008 Hi. I think this is the second time I'm posting a topic here. The last one was in August. Wow. First, please, please don't tell me how to fix things with her. That's all solved, and I don't need any advice on that. That happened last time I came for advice. I'm only providing the information behind everything so that you are up to speed on why I'm feeling as horrible as I am. I don't need advice on her, just on the question at hand. Alright--So last time I was here I had a problem with my girlfriend having done some drinking, and thus breaking a promise to me about not drinking until 21, blah, blah, that's been done with and all. Well, Tuesday, the 17th was our 3 year anniversary. Yes, we've never met in person, but she means the world to me. She didn't call. We didn't talk at all. Seeing as how I made her an 18-page comic, I was very hurt. Turned out the only time she had to call me, she spent with her friends instead. We argued and all, and she agreed to call when she wasn't able to talk, so I wouldn't stay up all night waiting for her, and then get upset when she didn't call. So, since we agreed upon that, we hadn't talked for more then ten minutes at a time. With her job at Burger King 5 days a week at night, and her trying to maintain relationships with her friends, she hadn't had time to have any long, more than ten minute conversations. Then, this week she had two nights off, Tuesday and Wednesday. Monday night she promises to call me Tuesday night and then have a nice, long conversation. She doesn't. She calls me at 1:20am to tell me she can't talk long, and that her friend (a girl who I hate due to her calling me controlling during the said drinking incident) broke up with her fiance. That made things a little better, but it still left me empty. She promised to call me the next afternoon. She had to get her cellphone replaced the next afternoon, and then called to tell me that she couldn't talk as she was spending the night with the same two friends she blew me off for on our anniversary. That was last night. About 11:00, I got off the phone with her. We almost broke up because I felt she wasn't putting enough effort into things--sacrificing a night with her friends for a night with me. That's all i ask--to be more of a priority. But in turn, she wanted me to become more independent. It is a fact that she is my muse--I don't think I could function without her. And with about two friends of my own and no job, I've been spending the past few days waiting for her to call. I'm clingy, paranoid, and can't eat when I'm not on good terms with her. I feel pathetic, and she warned me tonight that I need to develop some more independence or she'll leave me so I get some, even if she has to hurt herself to do it. I need help. I live on Long Island, there's nothing I can find to do--I'm applying for some jobs, but I need to get some more independence. I can't do it on my own--help me stand on my own a little more! So, please, online community, how can I be more independent? ~Terry Price Link to comment
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