Parsley Posted June 21, 2008 Share Posted June 21, 2008 Heya I'm going to visit my boyfriend monday after next for a week, for his birthday. We'll obviously be going out, and thereforeee seeing his friends, and he's not going to want to just keep me company all night - it's his birthday! While I think his friends are great - I'm a very very shy person if I don't know someone. This wouldn't matter too much if my boyfriend didn't have the habit of leaving me to 'chat with the girls' while he goes and talks about manly things like drills and boobs and whatnot. They're lovely girls, but no matter how lovely they are, being in a group of girls who are all fantastic friends and trying to feel comfortable and involved in the conversation is one of the most intimidating and difficult things ever. They're not unfriendly to me at all, I just feel very much like the outside. This will only be the 2nd time I've met any of his female friends. The first time two of them were really good at making me feel comfortable...unfortunately, since then I've found out that my boyfriend used to be crazy about one of these girls, and while I don't not like her, I know that I'll find it quite difficult to stay comfortable. Do you know what I mean? Meeting an ex your boyfriend still gets on with is what it is essentially. I don't have any problems with him being friends with her...just my own insecurities make me paranoid sometimes. So...what can I do? Besides get drunk. That worked last time, but the hangover was ridiculous, and I don't really want to have to get smashed every time I see them lol Anybody else out there suffer with shyness? I try so hard to join in the conversations, but my mouth dries up and I feel my heart beating a drum solo and every ounce of my strength is focused on making sure I look happy, and not like I just want to run away. It's not too bad when it's just me and the boyf, and all his male friends, but it's just that whole thing of girl groups. They might not necessarily want to make you feel excluded but it just works out like that regardless doesn't it? Thank you...in advance. xxx Link to comment
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