Ladies I think I been making another mistake, should I keep this to myself?

[ConfusedDater]

Telling a girl who I haven't met yet face to face that I was stood up by a previous girl I was talking to online?

 

 

Just keep that info to myself for now on?

[kuiks8]

yes....somethings are better left unsaid..

[barbielovesmac]

yes....somethings are better left unsaid..

 

agreed. i don't even know why you would think to mention something like that?

[Whiplash Girl Child]

And the purpose in telling her would be?

 

People usually don't want to hear complaints about past dating / relationship incidents. Actually, they don't usually want to hear about the good things either.

[ConfusedDater]

Yeah I know, I'm a IDIOT. I just find ways to sabotage my dating chances

[kuiks8]

you're not an idiot...no one is saying that..we're just giving you tips for next time...

[Crazyaboutdogs]

I agree that next time you shouldn't say anything about it although I do understand how irritating it is to get stood up and you really don't want that happening again with someone else.

[Hope_Springs_Eternal]

dont tell her things like that because she will wonder why the other girl stood you up and why she didnt want you, then she'll get to thinking she wont want you either if she thinks the other girl knows something she doesnt.

 

Does that make sense?

[annie24]

no, you shouldn't have told her. i once had a date scheduled with a guy who was going to be driving in to see me a few hours away. he said something like, 'you're not going to back out, right, at the last minute, because i don't like people wasting my time.' i said no, of course not, but then decided to cancel the date (not at the last minute though!) the way he said it just kind of scared me, like he had been burned in the past, and i would be punished for the mistakes of a previous gf. not a good feeling. i'm not the kind to break plans, once i've made them, but since i figured i couldn't 100% say i could make it to the date, i decided to cancel it. too much pressure!!!

[BetterKarma]

Did the conversation go in that direction where she asks, when was the last time you got stood up? Then, maybe you should tell her.

 

Otherwise, don't give out negative info about yourself. I hope you don't just say those things out of the blue. That would be very off-putting to any potential dates.

[JadedStar]

Definitely a turn off CD. Live and learn. Lessons for the future.

[boo121]

yeh keep it to urself mate

[CaptainNapalm]

Don't ever say that. You can say things like that after a few weeks of successfully dating her maybe if you guys are discussing say previous experiences from online dating then yes it would be appropriate to mention then if you want but not before you meet her. That would be crazy lol.

[hers]

Sometimes it can be a funny date conversation, like "any disastrous dating stories?" or something like that, but before even meeting, definitely no....

[Brightest Dark]

I don't think what you actually said is that huge of a big deal. It's not like some deep dark scary secret. On the other hand I guess it could make her think you meet up with many girls from online and she's just the next in a line. You should maybe avoid talking about any other girls or dates to be safe. Just talk about yourself, and chat with the girl you're talking to, and forget about people outside of this equation.

[ghost69]

ask us before you think of telling people unnecessary information. i could have yelled at you about this already.

[annie24]

I don't think what you actually said is that huge of a big deal. It's not like some deep dark scary secret. On the other hand I guess it could make her think you meet up with many girls from online and she's just the next in a line. You should maybe avoid talking about any other girls or dates to be safe. Just talk about yourself, and chat with the girl you're talking to, and forget about people outside of this equation.

 

i agree, it's such a turnoff. i went on a date where the guy told me that he's dating 4 other women. i was very turned off. of course, i assume that guys are dating others, but i don't want to HEAR that i am bachelorette #5. doesn't make me feel special at all.

[kitkat1215]

it's always good to not talk about relationships or dating, in my opinion, failed or not.

[AuthenticAuthor]

Talk about the good, and only mention the bad when someone asks.