NewPhillyGuy Posted April 11, 2008 Share Posted April 11, 2008 This is bad, but I don't feel like I need to rush anything. I like her, but I just haven't felt "it" yet. Is that really a big deal? Link to comment
ghost69 Posted April 11, 2008 Share Posted April 11, 2008 if after this date you don't feel anything with her, i'd find another girl. what are you doing on these dates? Link to comment
darkpumpkin Posted April 11, 2008 Share Posted April 11, 2008 Not in my opinion. When it feels right make the move or she will when she want you to make the move. Link to comment
ghost69 Posted April 11, 2008 Share Posted April 11, 2008 ^^^^^^^^^DP you have already explained you will wait for attraction and what not. i will not. Link to comment
itsallgrand Posted April 11, 2008 Share Posted April 11, 2008 How do you mean "it"? A few dates without even a desire for a kiss? No physical attraction? Link to comment
segor56 Posted April 11, 2008 Share Posted April 11, 2008 kiss her tonight. She's going to start to wonder.. Or don't and move on.. Or tell her you thinks she's beautiful and wait for her to kiss you. Link to comment
Mlost Posted April 11, 2008 Share Posted April 11, 2008 There's a difference between what the OP has, of not feeling "it.", and feeling "it" but being slow and easy about not acting on it. All the dates I've been on, I can tell after the first date if there is an "it" there, in terms of wow I really like this person. If there isn't even a small spark there after 2 dates, then maybe you're just not into her. Link to comment
NewPhillyGuy Posted April 11, 2008 Author Share Posted April 11, 2008 It's not that I'm not attracted to her. I just haven't acted on it yet because I'm kinda shy. Link to comment
ghost69 Posted April 11, 2008 Share Posted April 11, 2008 ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhh. i thought you meant you weren't feeling her. just go for it. you should be calm. she keeps going on dates with you. she is probably checking her breath or something wondering what is wrong. it's you. do it. Link to comment
NewPhillyGuy Posted April 11, 2008 Author Share Posted April 11, 2008 ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhh. i thought you meant you weren't feeling her. just go for it. you should be calm. she keeps going on dates with you. she is probably checking her breath or something wondering what is wrong. it's you. do it. few days ago, ghost was like UR GETTIN SOME BUDDY! LOL! ...and I still need to kiss her first. Link to comment
ghost69 Posted April 11, 2008 Share Posted April 11, 2008 few days ago, ghost was like UR GETTIN SOME BUDDY! LOL! ...and I still need to kiss her first. well you aren't if you aren't making moves. i thought you said you were really feeling her. i thought for sure you'd act on it. guess ghost was wrong Link to comment
NewPhillyGuy Posted April 11, 2008 Author Share Posted April 11, 2008 well you aren't if you aren't making moves. i thought you said you were really feeling her. i thought for sure you'd act on it. guess ghost was wrong I will make you proud, Ghost. LOL. Link to comment
stella74 Posted April 11, 2008 Share Posted April 11, 2008 Have you tried being physically affectionate in other ways, to try to ease you into the kiss? Like touching flirtatiously or holding hands or putting your arm around her shoulder or waist? Link to comment
ghost69 Posted April 11, 2008 Share Posted April 11, 2008 I will make you proud, Ghost. LOL. plant one right on her cheek at least? you get that far? Link to comment
NewPhillyGuy Posted April 11, 2008 Author Share Posted April 11, 2008 Have you tried being physically affectionate in other ways, to try to ease you into the kiss? Like touching flirtatiously or holding hands or putting your arm around her shoulder or waist? I've touched her hand a few times, but that's it. Link to comment
ghost69 Posted April 11, 2008 Share Posted April 11, 2008 I've touched her hand a few times, but that's it. *slaps forehead* i'm waiting to be proud man. don't be so shy. once you get over shyness you end up like 'that wasn't so bad. i was scared of that?' you almost end up questioning yourself for being shy. Link to comment
stella74 Posted April 11, 2008 Share Posted April 11, 2008 I'd go with Ghost's suggestion and kiss her on the cheek. Also, try to be more physically affectionate in some of the other ways I mentioned. It will help you feel more comfortable with her. Then the first kiss on the lips will come naturally! Link to comment
Crazyaboutdogs Posted April 11, 2008 Share Posted April 11, 2008 if after this date you don't feel anything with her, i'd find another girl. what are you doing on these dates? It is funny to me that you have to kiss someone by the third date or else it spells doom and gloom...yet by the third date you don't even know enough about the person to know whether or not you want a relationship with them. You have to get some tongue action first and then decide if the person is worth of a relationship...too bad...a lot of times it can take a few more dates before there is a spark. Link to comment
ghost69 Posted April 11, 2008 Share Posted April 11, 2008 It is funny to me that you have to kiss someone by the third date or else it spells doom and gloom...yet by the third date you don't even know enough about the person to know whether or not you want a relationship with them. You have to get some tongue action first and then decide if the person is worth of a relationship...too bad...a lot of times it can take a few more dates before there is a spark. who said it spells doom? if i'm feeling a girl i'm going for it. why wait days and weeks to show affection? Link to comment
darkpumpkin Posted April 12, 2008 Share Posted April 12, 2008 ^ Because you actually get to know someone first, know what they like. Take it slow and see exactly what type of touching they are comfortable with. Link to comment
Crazyaboutdogs Posted April 12, 2008 Share Posted April 12, 2008 ^ Because you actually get to know someone first, know what they like. Take it slow and see exactly what type of touching they are comfortable with. Exactly. It is like choosing fast food over the fine dining experience. Most people prefer fine dining when it comes to food but prefer the "fast food 'in and out, shoddier on quality'" menu when it comes to dating and relationships. Link to comment
CallingAllAngels Posted April 12, 2008 Share Posted April 12, 2008 As a woman, I feel it necessary to chime in here... If you don't feel comfortable with a FULL OUT KISS, at least give her SOME kind of "more than a friend" kind of kiss on the mouth...you know what I am talkin' bout. You don't have to slip her the tongue, but man...if after 3 dates I got nothin', I would really be wondering what the hell was goin' on. Just go for it...it's a kiss. I'm sure she won't bite. For her sake... I wish you the best... ~Alllie Link to comment
NewPhillyGuy Posted April 12, 2008 Author Share Posted April 12, 2008 Well, I'm back and I did kiss her. Link to comment
CallingAllAngels Posted April 12, 2008 Share Posted April 12, 2008 Well, do tell..how did it go??????? Link to comment
NewPhillyGuy Posted April 12, 2008 Author Share Posted April 12, 2008 Well, do tell..how did it go??????? Ok, here's the high-level. First, we had dinner. Next, caught a movie. Movie was good, but now thinking back, I think a bad idea for a third date, because we can't talk. I was sitting there thinking like - damn, I'd rather just be talking to her to try and get to know each instead of watching this movie. After the movie was over, I walked her to her car, and was thinking - ok, I'm going in for the kiss - lol. She looks at me, and asks me if I was planning to go home or if I wanted to do something else, like go out for some drinks. I said sure, and that was a great idea, because we got to talk for another few hours. I walked her to her car again after that, and that's when I gave her a hug and short kiss. Link to comment
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