What's a good way to ask for...

[vagrant]

COOKIES!!!?!?!

 

Ok.. just kidding.

 

I guess this is just a variant on the same old question...

 

 

Ok, you've been together for a while, and all or most of the "New" is gone.. you're into the relationship thing. What's a good way to ask for sex? I'm pretty much tired of the same ol' "Hey baby, let's "F". Even initiating sex by kissing seems to be the same ol' same old. I've tried lots of things, and It seems to not work too often. I'm wondering if maybe it's the way I'm trying to initiate?

 

I've tried all kinds of different approaches, they all seem to have a similar effect.

 

What's a sexy way to initiate??

[sweetheart607]

spontinity does it for me maybe just start moving it out of the bedroom or start the foreplay way before you see him send him sexy messages so by the time he comes home he'll be gagging for it.

[tankgirl]

I don't know whether you are male or female. Assuming you are a woman, I'll tell you some things that have worked for me.

 

My husband would sometimes work late. I'd put on a teddy (or nothing at all), some sexy heels and his trench coat, walk into his office, open the coat for a moment, turn around and go home.

 

Sometimes I'll start things by just giving him a neck and back massage, and work my way down.

 

What he loves the most is when he is in bed and I slide in next to him completely naked.

 

I'll sometimes join him in the shower.

 

On the way home from being out, I'll start rubbing his crotch while he's driving.

 

The thing that usually gets me is when he walks up behind me, pulls me in close and whispers how much he loves me and how he thanks God every day for bringing me into his life. He'll kiss my neck and whisper.

 

To be honest, we rarely talk about it, we just start. I especially like to touch him and tease him when we cannot possibly do anything because the kids are around or there isn't time. It puts the idea in our heads and makes it that much sweeter when we are finally alone.

[ghost69]

well, if your complaint is you aren't getting enough, there are some things you can do to change that.

 

start some more compliments out of nowhere. if you think of something, say it. flattery does get you everywhere.

 

also, try and be somewhat aggressive. sometimes a woman needs to be taken advantage of.

[puppypoo]

sent him an email or letter of what you want to do to him, leave him messages through the day telling him sexy things, maybe even go out for dinner and tell him more so he goes insane by the time you get home.

 

or try role playing anything that you both like, find a night you have free and take all the things you need to make it as real as possible

[vagrant]

For Puppypoo and Tankgirl .. I'm a guy

 

Yeah the "taken advantage of" works sometimes... it's had lovely results..

[december]

very interesting i've never thought of it. my bf never say anything to me only the way of his kiss and touch will be the sign of it.

well honestly i do ask him sometime.

[ghost69]

think of some fantasy scenarios. i came home one day and my ex just took my pants off and started doing stuff to me. i was so caught off guard but completely turned on. i forgot what i had to do when i came home.

 

remember in old school when mitch came home and found his wife touching herself watching porn? he instantly started taking his clothes off all into it. minus the two people that came out of the bathroom for the other part of that scene lol.

[Locke2121]

Let her go out shopping or something...when she gets back, be laying on the floor in the livingroom. Have a bottle of wine, some glasses, fruit and cheese on a tray next to you. And a big red bow around Mr. Happy! She'll either laugh her ass off or....well no, she's gonna laugh, but what have you got to loose?