Guy's who are attracted vs.interested

[ladeedah]

Is there a way to tell if a guy (lets say he's shy) is just physically attracted to you or actually interested in you as a person and likes you as well?What is the difference in his behavior?

[Thunderforce]

The difference in his behavior is ... that if he's actually interested he will try to persue you or at least wants to know what you favorite meal is, what kind of music you listen to etc. etc.

Shyness won't keep him away for getting to know you if you are receptive!

[psychoanalytical]

From a guy's perspective, probably the best way for a girl to find out would be to just flirt a little and ask him out.

I mean, guys are pretty simple... if he is attracted to you he'd probably take the hint straight away.

[BManMcFly]

here's a reasonale assumption :

 

If a guy is talking to you, pays attention to you, goes out of his way for you in any way, or makes a point to keep in touch with you, he is AT LEAST physically attracted to you most of the time ( OR emotinoally attracted), there is no concrete guideline to say he's interested in you as the complete package, Guy's are simple like that, but we like totry and keep a woman second guessing how we feel about them.

[Leonhart]

I would consider there to be no difference. But that's only going for me. If I'm attracted to a girl, I'm interested. At least, for that moment anyway.

[GettingBetter]

I'm going to say that for most guys, (physical) attraction is probably a component of interest (the whole package)--and probably larger components for different guys (to some, it might be all of it). Now, to me, if a girl is really nice, that will improve my attraction to her... but still, I have to be at least somewhat attracted in the first place.

 

Now, how can you tell if he is just physically attracted or not?

 

That's a hard one to tell, since most guys probably don't even know the difference. Moreover, I'm sure it will vary among different guys.

 

But I would give a girl I'm interested in more opportunities / the benefit of the doubt / a second chance, etc. I wouldn't for a girl I'm just physically attracted to.

 

Now, sadly this speaks volumes about my past relationships, which usually haven't worked out. But, if I ask a girl out who I'm just physically attracted to, and she says, "Maybe" then I won't ask again. But, if I ask a girl out who I'm actually interested in, and she says, "Maybe" then I'll give it a while and then ask again.

 

Now frankly, I'm not sure why I just told you this, because telling a guy (especially a shy guy) "Maybe" after he's gathered the courage to ask you out isn't the most considerate response. And I guarantee there are some nice guys out there who wouldn't give you a second chance, even if they are interested. But just look for similar situations.

[ghost69]

physical attraction shows my interest. once i get to know the person better, then the mental happens. it doesn't just happen.