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He sounds like a delicate princess. Honestly I'd be so turned off by this guy there isn't a chance in hell I'd ever be able to have sex with him again. My ___________ would dry up faster than a raindrop in the desert.

I've always wondered what goes through a man's mind when he's doing this. What is he hoping to achieve? The only thing I was ever able to come up with was he was trying to make the lady in question feel insecure. I can't think of a single GOOD reason why a man would do this.

I've found that by far--and I mean BY FAR--the #1 problem behind men not being able to find a date/relationship/what have you, is not their looks or even their personality, it's the fact that they simply don't know what women want.

I don't know, you sound like a sexual god with a magic ***k , I'm surprised more women aren't begging for sex with you.

And frankly I've never had a conversation with anyone where a comment on my friends' attractiveness would be natural and not inappropriate. Something is definitely not right here.

I'd tell him that his faux concern for her wellbeing is touching but she has enough men rushing to be by her side when she's in a funk. He sounds a bit like a clown and for all your claims that the relationship is "stable" it doesn't really seem like it. I think for now I'd quit mentioning her to him in any context and see how things proceed. What she does and says is none of his business anyway.

Well, it certainly doesn't look good. And given that you've caught him "flirting and lying about things" in the past, it REALLY doesn't look good.

Bottom line is a quality man will never do this.

Kind of like Johns might do with prostitutes? You may want to start thinking with the head above your waist and avoid "breastaurants" because this sounds sketchier and sketchier the more you post about it.

I wondered that too. I don't know, but I have a couple of theories (and I am working off the assumption that the claim of these women being simply "friends" won't actually be believed by us): 1) to let us know we have competition so we can up our game? or 2) to raise their value in our eyes i.e. "look at all these gorgeous women I associate with." Regardless, I think it's in extremely poor form (and yes, immature) and turns me off to the point where it is a 100% instant dealbreaker for me.

I would be completely turned off by this (actually it has happened and I have been turned off by this, because they were not "friends" they were pics he downloaded from womens' profiles off of a dating site). It's up to you how you feel about it, but it sounds like it makes you uncomfortable (as it did me) so don't be afraid to take a pass as you have nothing invested at this point.

And let me add that the "no drama" thing is nonsense and can be translated as: "I'm going to treat you poorly and you better just shut your mouth and accept it." No thank you.

Could be, although "from what I hear, men are . . . " suggests he/she doesn't really know much about men and is looking for mens' input. At any rate, in that case would this leading post with pictures of food suggest he is on a forum looking for a woman to cook for him? This whole "Anonymous" thing needs to go as it only encourages trolls.

It also helps to know that what women are looking for in a man is not necessarily the same as what men are looking for in a woman. A lot of men just assume "I'm not attractive enough" when the problem could be something else entirely but they only focus on that because a woman's appearance is what's important to them.

Instead of jumping through hoops to figure out what men want, maybe figure out what YOU want and focus on that?

And how can you even tell what people are wearing on Zoom? Looking at all those small fuzzy pictures I can barely figure out who is who lol. Heck they might be naked, how would I know?

Honestly I would stop obsessing about "dream girls" and girls who live 200 miles away and focus on finding someone you actually have a chance with.

But you'll derail it with paragraphs upon paragraphs about your looks/weight? How many wealthy yet unattractive men do you see with hot younger women? A lot right? Miraculously the more $$ a man makes the less his attractiveness matters lol. Funny how that works. Not that you want a gold-digger, but what does that tell you? That there are other things just as important or even more important? Again, you wouldn't want someone who was only interested in you because of money; similarly do you want someone who is only with you because of your looks? My point is don't over-focus on one thing. Downplay your negatives and accentuate your positives (your intelligence, for one). Everyone is going to have positives and negatives; identify yours and proceed accordingly.

Your use of the word "partner" is ironic as he is anything but. Don't even consider marrying someone like this. The chances of it ending in divorce are approximately 100%. You think it's easier said than done to break up NOW? Wait til you have to shell out for a divorce lawyer and give the ex half of your retirement and other assets because he has none.

Who knows what his motivations are. It's possible that he's just feeling you out to see if you're going to have time for a relationship (with him). Or yeah, maybe this is his "out." I suppose you could just ask him what he's thinking.

"If I catch you cheating" blah blah blah IS a threat and an unnecessary one, as well as the language "as long as you stay faithful I'll be faithful to you" I mean, what? Why do things like this even need to be said? Also, the tendency to give her permission to do things i.e. "so wear what you want. I'll let you know if it's revealing or not and if you choose to wear it that's fine" is definitely controlling. Maybe OP should send this awful message to this young lady so she can see who she's dealing with and move it along.

lol if some guy sent me a threatening message/text/whatever like what is described in the first post, I would dump him so fast his head would spin. (I wouldn't mention anything about "dumping him faster than diarrhea" because that's juvenile and in extremely poor taste)

AMEN!! Let the man masturbate for heaven's sakes!

He sounds delightful. 😐 Good riddance. Never put your life on hold for a man (or woman) especially one as unsupportive as this. I can't imagine anyone would advise that you stay with him.

I don't see it is a referendum on mens' intelligence or lack of, but rather a Supply and Demand issue. I guess I'm more surprised that women would pay $5.00 to be objectified when we can literally step outside our house on any day of the week and have it done to us for free. I can see why the men are charged so much. Otherwise if it were $5.00 for the men, there would be lines out the door and around the block and miles down the road.