Hey. I'm really no expert at this but I'll try to help ya.
1. What exactly do you consider a "real kiss"?
2. There really is no right time for french kissing. It sort of just happens. If you've kissed her continually and havn't used your tongue at all yet, then maybe you should make the first move. You never know, she might be shy and never tell you.
3. Once again, making out just happens. If you are kissing her, let's say, on your couch when your home alone...and you both start getting touchy feely with each other...if she doesn't feel like it's right, then she'll most likely push you away. That doesnt mean she doesnt want you. It just means shes not ready to make out with you yet.
4. Don't even worry about sex yet. Kiss her first.