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Well as of this morning everything is a little better. He tells me that he don't want to leave and that he still loves me but is a little distant. Don't want to talk much and seems to still be a little angry. I hope that the worst is over and that everything will be alright. Thanks to those who left messages. Anything was helpful. I'll keep you all posted on us. Thanks Guga

Hello, This is directed to all the people out there who know some ideas on my problem. Well this is whats going on. Today I had a fight with the man in my life. I don't have a clue as to what may of started it. I think that it may be a hormone thing as all women can relate to getting upset for no reason around that time of the month. I said some things that I really didn't mean which lead to a day of not really speaking to each other. I spent the day alone in my room trying to vent while he spent the day drinking his problems away. (which i didn't know about until much later). Later this evening he said that he was leaving in the morning because he came to realize that he didn't want to have a relationship where he was being walked over. (again because of what I said to him). This then led to a few words between us, which weren't so pretty. I don't think that one argument can change the way a person really feels about the other. I know that he said a few bad things but I don't see him for any less of a person. I can't see how he can base a four and a half year relationship on one fight. He didn't say one word until later when he was a few beer in the bucket if you get my drift. Was it the beer talking, does he really mean what he said? I have no idea what to do and I don't know whats going to happen tomorrow or how I should approach the situation. He knows that I'm deeply sorry and that I love him soooo much. I think that I should just leave him alone and wait to see what he has to say in the morning. He has said a few things before when he was drinking and was fine the next day, but he has never said that he was going to leave me. I seem to be going on and on about this but I really don't know what I should do or say that will benefit the both of us. I didn't build on the last five years to have it all fall down around me. Please peoples get back and drop me a few lines on what you think is the best possible solution. Anything whould be greatly appreciated. GUGA P.S. this forum has worked in the past for me so Im going to try and put some faith in this again.

hey everyone this is the latest. i am so confused as to what to do next. i've been keeping the no contact rule and yesterday he sent me a snotty email telling me how down that he was cause he had nobody to talk to and had nothing to do. he also went on to ask what i was going to do with my life. if i was staying around or if i was moving away. then later i had another email telling me that he was sorry about the last email. then he added me to his msn. i don't know what to think but it has given me a little hope that he does want to talk. i figure that if he didn't want to talk to me them he wouldn't add me to his msn contacts. i'm in a place where i want this to work out so much. he did promise that he would come back to me. that he needed some time. but that was almost 5 weeks ago. i was beginning to think that there was no hope. and then this. is he possibly coming around? what should i do? please tell me something people cause my mind and heart are floating. guga

Hey Thanks for that bit of advice. I'm here as well in this old life. I came back for him. Not because he asked, but because I love him. And he gave me the hope that he will be back. I am 23 and hes 27. And I don't thnk that I have any problems with another girl. We promised that we would be true to each other and that we didn't want anyone else. I know that I have to call to figure something out. I have sent a few emails to see how everything was, but that was it. He never responded to any of them. But hes a very to himself who holds a lot in. He never had a relationship that lasted over five months. I was his first serious relationship. We had everything going for us and he never gave any sign of bad things to come. I just don't know whats going on. I have spent the last month figuring out what I should be doing. I don't think that I diserve this. I never did anything wrong. We live in separate places but about an hour away from each other. We also have mutual friends that I keep in touch with over the internet. The only things that I know about him are what I heard about hiim over this. I heard one day that he was going back to the life that we left. That really got to me and I sent him an email asking if it were true and letting him know how hurt that I was because of what I heard. He got back to it. First time that I heard anything from him in a long time. He told me that he wasn't gone anywhere and as for everything that we have been going through that he didn't know what to say? That he honestly didn't. i still don't know what he ment by that. So I responded by asking him what he ment and he never got back. I feel that if he didn't want to see me anymore that he wouldn't of told me that he was still there. Does that mean anything? Am I making any sense? Well sorry to babble on. When I do this I think of many things that I can tell people to give them a little more insight about whats going on. Please do get back with anything that you can offer. And if you have anymore questions then feel free to ask away. Thanks Guga

Hi there. This is my situation up to now and I need as much help as can be offered. Please don't pass this by. Please add something. I have been involved with the love of my life for the last two and a half years. We met in college and ended up starting a serious relationship that was everything. We ended up as living partners for over a year and a half and everything was wonderful up to about a month ago. We ended up taking the next step and moved on to a new place to find jobs and to start a real life together. Everything was really good. We hardly faught, (the normal couple arguments), and we were so into each other. But one night it took a dramatic change and left me with a heart that still hurts so bad. He came home and one thing led to another and before things were said and done things were awfull. We ended up fighting over somethings that were really stupid and we said things to each other that we really didn't mean. He told me that it was over and that he was moving home. I left because of the heat of the argument and felt really bad. I decided on coming back the next day to apologize and let him know that i still was there for him. We both felt really bad about what had happened and we both made up. But instead of breaking up we decided on taking a break from each other to see where our thoughts were. Two days later we were on our way back to our old lives. We travelled a long distance and spent the next week together. Everything was great. A wondeful trip where we got to talk about what was bothering us and how we really did feel toward each other. He promised me that he would be back and that he needed some time to think. He told me that he still loved me and cried before we left each other. That was four weeks ago. I had no contact with him since then except for a few casual emails. I havn't seen him or spoke to him on the phone. I feel like I should jump and call and see how hes doing. But I don't want to pressure him or make him run away further. I don't know why hes taking so much time, he knew how hurt I was when we left each other and he made a promise. I hope that it wasn't an easy way to leave me. False promises. I don't know what to be thinking. I just need some input from others that may be feeling like I, or have advice to offer from past experiences like mine. Or even someone who just wants to help. I really want to see whats going on. Its so hard not knowing. I do know that I can't leave myself feeling like this and that I am going to end up calling to see whats going on. If this isn't going to work then I need that closure instead of being here dangling by heart strings. I need to know what the right things should be said to him that will get my point accross without making him feel sad or anything. If you read this far then please take the time to consider my situation and leave me with some information that may me usefull. He was everything to me and still is. I love him and miss him so much. Hes seriously what I think about all the time. Even when I try to get him out of my head he somehow manages to find his way back in there. please help guga Only you yourself can do what needs to be done. Follow your heart and evrything will happen the way its ment to.

well this is the story up to this point. first off i want to thank all the caring people who actually took the time to come on this and offer me advice in this time of need. it was a blessing from all of you. i still havn't seen my other since we left each other almost three weeks ago. and i havn't called. but i sent him an email about us and wondering what was going on with us. he left me with no sense of what was to happen to us. i sent him this email because i am hearing from mutual friends that we were broken up. this leaves me to believe that hes telling others that we are since i havn't told anybody about my feelings. and i've also heard that he was moving away. for all the girls out there i know that you feel that this would be a wise decision since we all need to know in times like these. i have nothing left but the feeling that this is over and that this is his way of escaping us and what we had. you know the easy way out. but i've learnt that i am better then this. it was a hard road but i am doing better and i don't want to be involved with anybody who has to sit and think if this is really what they want. so if i don't hear from him then oh well. hes really not the guy that i thought that he was. his loss cause i know that he'll never find anyone that will treat him any better then i trested him. maybe just as good but never better. so i have that in my heart. he was and is the love of my life. but i'm starting the process of moving on. so thats that up to now. and for all who think that life can't possibly go on after a realtionship has ended. well i'm living proof that there is. just keep faith in yourself and everything will be fine. regards guga

well here the latest. i found out through a so called friend that my other is moving away. i don't know what to do or what i should say. this is where i wonder if the no contact thing should stop. why would he do that to me without telling me first. i really need to know whats going on now. please help and let me know what i should do. should i forget him an dmove on, should i call and find out whats going on. i really need help with this. please get back to me with advice. hopeless

hey there i know what your going through. my situaton may be a little different but i still relate to you. people may say that your young and that you have a whole life ahead of you but how does that help. you still feel like your world is tumbling down around you. i can relate especially to the fact that you love the family just as much. i miss my boyfriend family just as much too. i know how much it hurts. at least you can see them. i can't at this time. all i can say is what i've been hearing from almost everyone. give it time to see where you and your other are. see how the time apart was better for your relationship. if he loves you then he will miss you and he will call. just don't push it and bug him. thats what i am trying to do now. even thought it hurts its the best thing that you can do right now. keep faith and everything will fall into place. everything happens for a reason.

i know that space is definitly what he needs right now. but i feel like he should know how i feel. i guess that he does anyways. but i feel that there are 2 people in the relationship and that i deserve to know what hes thinking. i will give it time but how much? i can't wait forever. i don't want to keep feeling this way. i've been asking advice from everyone that i know and they all keep telling me to give it time but that i can't wait forever. i've also been told to wait 2 weeks and then make it a point to get together to see him and find out what is really going on. but i don't know if thats a good idea either. why do realtionships have to be so hard and confusing? ahhhh!!!!. lol. when a person tells you that they love you still then that has to mean something dosn't it? there are so many questions in my mind. by all means whoever reads this post please get back to me with something. too much advice is never enough when your in this situation. thanks. lost without him

well this is what happened. i really don't know. he came home and he thought that i was mad but i honestly wasn't. i told him that. it was like he wanted the argument. he kept everything going till he got what he was looking for. we had an awful fight about a lot. like we needed it. we were so mad that the relationship was bascially over. i left him because of the high emotions that were going around. i felt really bad and came back to see him the next day. it went from being over to taking a break to see where it was going. but we still had the love. as i was packing to leave he cried and my emotions were sent flying. we then spent the next 4 days together traveling back to our home town on bus. everything was great. he still told me that he loved me and that he would think about me all the time. we were still very close. kissing and cuddleing the whole way. when we left each other we said that we loved each other and that he would call when he was ready. that was 9 days ago. i havn't heard from him at all, only a few emails. and they were jokes. but its tearing me apart. i love him so much. its affecting everything that i do. i can't eat, sleep. i always cry and i never prayed so much for us in my life. its hard not knowing what hes thinking, or what hes even doing. especially since we live about an hour away from each other. i just miss him so much and i need some sort of healing for myself. i need him so bad. he is my life, the greatest love i ever had. we were dating for 2 and a half years and my life did a 360 in a matter of days. any advice you can offer? should i call, should i see him. should i wait longer. i don't know what to do. i miss him so much.

2 weeks ago my boyfriend and i had a fight and ended up moving away from each other. now i have no contact with him at all. he said that he still loves me and that he wants us to stay true to each other but i don't have a clue about anything thats going on. i'm just waiting for him to clear his mind. i find it so hard being away from him but i don't want to scare him or bug him by always calling or emailing. i really need some advice on what to do next. if theres anyone out there who can help then please do so. lost without him