ladykross

Well, I hate to tell you-I did that. For four months we had no computer or internet. I thought we had finally kicked it. We have been back online for 23 days and he already started back up. So much for treating him like a child and grounding him. Cyber Sitter??? That is one I have not tried. I think I just might. Thank you!

You know, I don't know. Every man that I have ever dated or been friends with has cheated on thier other halves. However, I have heard that there is a very rare and exclusive form of human male that believes in the concept of monogomy and even pratices it. I have only met one. My father.

I understand your feelings-I am going through very similar things just now. If your husband could not be honest with you and tell you up front about something he was doing, there is a problem. I think that if it was so innocent, then it should not have been hidden. My husband has done (is doing) the same type of thing and gets very angry when I confront him. He swears it is nothing (absolutely not adultery) but he knows that I would over react and that is the reason he does not tell me about his "online friends". Trust your gut instinct. You know him best. Do you feel like something was wrong with this? Think of when you were a kid- and you had the "good touch/bad touch" talk. It applies to everything. Sometimes you just know that something is not right, even when there is nothing really wrong. It could be two friends, just talking. Ask yourself what is that really bothers you. It is the fact that he has hidden this? Or the fact that the person was a woman? Or is it something else entirely?

I have been married for one year, (with him for three) and I am at a loss as to what I should do with this marriage. My husband is a stay at home dad who searches the internet for "Adult Friend" Sites. He actually contacts the women. I do not know if he meets them, at this point I really do not care. This has been an ongoing problem for the three years we have been together. I have tried talking, leaving, threatining, everything I can actually think of except divorcing him. I know he has had physical affairs, and when I catch him (either cyber or actual) he denies it and denies it until I show him proof. He always tells me how sorry he is. I know he is not. He has ruined my credit with spending habits and caused a great deal of anxiety in our relationship (and my family as well). My daughter loves him so much-I just can't bring myself to separate them. And I am pregnant again with his next child. I want this to stop. I want things to get better-but he will not go to marriage counseling becuase he thinks "nothing is wrong with our marriage". If there was nothing wrong, why the other women, the lies and the money spending issues? I do make sense, right? I have no friends now, becuase of this. They all hate him, so I do not have anyone to talk to. He does not hit me, but I still feel like I have been beat up. I am only 26, and I feel so old. So I guess what I am asking is this: Is there hope? What can I do to make it better? Can I make it better? ~LadyKross