anonymous_gal

Well, you said that she flirts with other guys, so maybe she was flirting with you, but you just didn't see it. She sounds like the type of girl who is just out to have a good time with a bunch of different guys, don't let it get to you. Just respect what she told you, but still try to be her friend. Let her know that you are there for her when she needs you.....and who knows, maybe she will end up falling for the decent guy that you are.

Okay, I posted a topic earlier today and I got some good responses, but I just wanted to see that if I could have a good time with my boyfriend of over 5 years, so I went to a little party he was having tonight. Tonight one of his friends was cracking my bf back (and my bf knows that I am not the biggest fan of this friend) so I said "hey crack my back too", so he tried and then my bf got into a pretend fight with him. But it didn't look pretend, so I started crying bc I couldn't handle it. My dad always fought and it hurt me. So, I started crying and my bf didn't like that and he said that he was just kidding. Well, there was this girl over ther too (bc it was a mini-party, but her bf was there too....except he looks up to my bf and he never says anything) and while I was upstairs drying my eyes I heard my bf talking. So I decided to listen to him. First, his frined who cracked my back said that "I am sorry dude, I couldn't even get an erection by sleeping w/ her". So my bf said that he understood. Then, I heard my bf say to the girl (while everyone else was talking), "But I could get an erection by sleeping with you....ooh, don't do that to me!!" I couldn't believe it!!! Then everyone was leaving to go to another party, I didn't want to say anyhting in front of everyone so I told my bf that I wasn't going, so he got upset and decided to stay too. I confronted him about what he said and he got all defensive and said that I couldn't take a joke! Earlier that night people were talking about him and he said to me, "Close your ears!" Now he said that he was joking, he drove me back to my dorm drunk and said that he couldn't handle me anymore!! He said that I can never take a joke! But I can't joke about that stuff. He alos tole me last week that he caught that girl cheating on her bf!! Plus, she is alwasy starring at him. So, he broke up with me and basically said that it was my fault!! I guess I am asking if I should be mad about what he said? I was heartbroken when he said that he could have an erection with that girl! I can't handle him even being jokingly intimate with another girl! Am I wrong to be mad about what he said?? PLEASE HELP ME!!!!!!!

I have been with my boyfriend since I was in 10th grade of high school, I am now a junior in college. We were both high school sweethearts, and now we go to the same university. He is 21 and I am 20, and I think we are heading in different directions. He is always telling me how he cannot communicate wiht me. I tell him how I always feel, but he cannot seem to do the same. He says that everytime I am around him and his friends he cannot handle it. He shuts down bc he says that I am constantly watching him, which I don't feel is the case. Ever since he turned 21 he has just partied. Next year he wants to move out of state to get his master's degree. He is always telling me how he cn't wait to get away. I am just so sick of him always telling me how depressed he is with me. Everytime I try to leave him he tells me the next day that everything is fine and he didn't mean it, but I think I am fed up with it now. I just really don't know what to do. Sometimes I think that I am so happy, then other times I don't feel that way. I think that I am more miserable than happy, but I cannot leave him for some reason. I guess I just feel comfortable with him. I try to tell myself that I will get over those feelings, but I just don't know. I really do love him, I guess I am just confused and sick of him always telling me how I bring him down. Desperate for advice!