seky25

Don't be scared at all! First of all, if it is not yours, then why is she telling you about it? It's not your problem. Obviously, she has feelings for you still, and not the real father if she says he is a jerk. maybe she expects you to feel bad and be there for her to help her with the baby or something, but again, it's not your problem. If you are in love with someone else, then don't let her ruin it! Even just stressing about it with your girlfriend could cause some problems, because you sleeping with someone else and any talk of a baby at all is not something she would want to hear. Also, being with someone you don't love your first time is the worst, and there is a lot of regret, believe me, i know, but once you are with the one you love, you forget all about that bad time. To me, the first time with the one you love is your real first time if that makes any sense at all. Everything will be okay.

I've been with my boyfriend for almost 4 1/2 years and I have the worst jealousy problem. When we first started dating, I wasn't like this at all, he actually was. I know he would never cheat on me, but I can't help the way I feel. His ex cheated on him many times, so I kind of understood at first that he is just normal to get jealous. He would always ask if I talked to any guys that day, or get mad if he saw me talking to anyone, so I got suspicious and started asking back all of the time. It started to bother him though. He would always tell me that he doesn't even talk to anyone, but later I found out about a bunch of girls he talked to at work. I don't care if he talks to them, but I know the way he acts with girls; he flirts and doesn't realize it. One of them was an acquaintance of mine who when I found out she knew him, her response was "Aww! You're going out with him? He is so sweet!" If he doesn't talk to anyone, then how does she know how sweet he is? Also, a girl from work called his cell phone one time, and there's so much more. I even get jealous when he hangs out with one of his friends and their girlfriend. Part of it, I feel left out not being there too, but mainly I'm afraid because I can't keep an eye on him. At one point in our relationship, if there was a guy he was jealous of, he would tell me that he didn't want me talking to him anymore, so I would stop. It came to the point that if I saw a guy I knew somewhere, I would look at the ground just so he wouldn't start with me about "who is he? You're other boyfriend?" Well, I would always ask him the daily questions still, and I finally started telling him that he couldn't talk to those certain girls either, and he replied, "I"m gonna talk to them, they're my friends and I've been friends with them for a long time." Ever since I found out about all of these girls and told him that if I can't talk to people then he can't either, he said that he doesn't care who I talk to, he's grown out of that stage, and I need to learn to trust him. We've been together for a while and I love him so much. It bothers me so bad that I'm still like this, and it seems like I cause all of the arguments because he's "not" that way anymore. I want to grow out of this stupid stage, but its not even just him, it's everyone in general. I feel like I can't trust anyone. I've been backstabbed and blackmaled too many times, and I feel like I can't trust anyone, not even my friends or family. Now I feel like me always being jealous is making him care less about me, which is why he never gets jealous anymore. There's so much more to everything, and I need someone to talk to, so if anyone knows what I'm going through or can give me some advice, please let me know.