ChrisR

You are right, applying certain formulas would not be helpful here. Anyway, I have a strong feeling that she will dump me pretty soon

This is what I was thinking too. Get her convinced of me, so that her friends do not have such a heavy word to say regarding this relationship.

Ok, but isn't it too early to involve friends? I mean we know each other for 2 days. Shouldn't this be happening after date 5 or 6?

Hello! I've been dating this girl for 2 days succesively. Things were quite ok. On the third date (yesterday), she wanted to bring two of her friends (girls) along. I was not comfortable with this, so that I ended up making some excuse and letting her go with her friends out. Yesterday night, I asked her if we could get together today and enquired about her evening plans. She told me that I she meets some friends and that I should come as well. So, I asked spontaneously what she's doing in the afternoon and got her accepting a trip with the boat on the lake. After she agreed, she told me that I could also join her this evening with her friends. My question is: why does she bring her friends so early in? I have two versions: 1. I was pretty boring, so that she wants her friends to lift her mood, hoping that in the mean time, I get more entertaining 2. She likes and wants me to integrate in her friends circle and also wants her friends to check me up and share their opinion on me Maybe there are other eligible answers as well. Everything was so enjoyable until now...bah... I don't even know why I am so uncomfortable with meeting these new people. Maybe I think that I'll be isolated in discussions, because they know each other better? Could be. I am thankful for any advice! Regards, Chris

@heloladies21: I liked your answer, it helped

Thank you for your replies.I appreciate your support.

I cant understand this.If i break up with someone, I *do* have reasons, objective/ subjective ones."I do no not know why I broke up" is impossible for me to comprehend.There is a reason behind any human action, especially an important one.A spontaneous "Lets break it up" decision, without any brain activity, is not really possible.And she didnt say "Lets break it up"...she said "I dont want to see you *ever* again"...thats a bit more harsh...

Hello dear members of the enotalone forum! I had a relationship of about 5 weeks.Everything went amazingly fine.The harmony in the relationship was excellent.We discussed about everything, we laughed about anything, it was great.There was absolutely no sign of tension between us.It started to be a symbiosis.Suddenly, after 5 weeks, she told me, out of nowhere, that she never wants to see me again.I asked her why and she said that she cant even figure it out.She told me that she will tell me, when she finds out.So, I started analysing what went wrong, but I couldnt find any major error I made.I tried to find more out from her friends, but they were as informed as I was on this matter.I fell in a depression, I couldnt understand why she was treating me this way, what did I do wrong.Was it even my mistake?If you are looking for things that could've triggered the split, you find many issues about yourself, many imperfections.Every day, they become more and more.This selfdestructs me more and more, day by day.I told her this, but she didnt quite care.I wonder why she left me.Any advice is appreciated. Thank you, Chris

Nevermind, we split one month after this post

Why do not have some girls the courage to say what they think?They want badly to express themselves,but they simply cant sometimes.Why's that?

Come on,i know WHY i care for somebody,its so easy to express your feelings,if they exist.If they dont,you dont have anything to express and do not know how to answer.Correct me if i am wrong.What details do you need?

We have great discussions together and get along very well,but she rarely asks stuff about me,like she wouldnt be too interested about how i feel and think.Sex is great.

I asked her and she said that she does care about me.When i asked why,she had no answer...

How do I know if my girlfriend really cares about me,of my person?Is there a set of subtle question,test-like,i can ask her?

Date 4 went much better than i expected.She was much more open.I touched her leg and went down to her bottom.She seemed to not have something against it.But in the end,still no kissing,i didnt even bother to try,i felt she wouldnt want it...damn...

I guess so (but not much,not that i would have an idea what "much" would be ) I know that you're right,but i dont like it ... I guess that patience is the key (bla bla ) ...

Thanks Redroses.However,it isnt so easy to kiss her forehead.When try to move towards her head,her head moves kinda backwards,like she wouldnt want it.Also,it seems a bit funny for me to kiss her on her forehead.I will try it.Hey,i'm willing to try anything

Well we dated 3 times so far,so i could say we are the beginning...You guys gaved me a good advice,thanks. There is another thing,i guess i made a mistake regarding this matter.I confronted her with the problem which is disturbing me and i tried to squeeze some reasons out of her why she doesnt let me kiss her on the lips (i kissed her on the neck,she had no negative reaction).Then she told me i shouldnt keep asking about this and that she doesnt feel like she wants to be kissed.Then i made a joke of the kind "What the heck,were you abused when you were younger".She didnt find it very funny (Yea,yea,i know,shoot me ).I just wanted a valid reason why she didnt want a kiss on the lips.Probably i am moving too fast (bad me,slap,slap).Is it really a mistake to want to know everything?

I started a relationship with this girl.She likes it when i hold her tight in my arms,but when it comes to kissing,there is a problem.She sais she is not feeling she wants to.She didnt tell me why,she just told me she doesnt want to.I dont understand why...ideas? (Tricks,hypnosis,voodoo stuff )