sadmonkey

Hey Goldie, I am going through the same thing and my man is the same way - he is very moody and a loner type. I have tried calling and it gets me no where - I guess if we really want to work things out with our guys - we cant call and let them make the move. It sucks, but it may be the only way. Hang in there girl - I know how frustrating it is!!!

I wouldnt ask her, I would just come out and say how you think she is cool or whatever it is that you like about her. COMPLIMENT HER!! And then tell her that you would like someone LIKE her as your girlfriend. That way you arent exactly asking, but it gives you a chance to see how she reacts to that. And if she doesnt like run away or act weird, then go for it and ask if she would like you as her boyfriend. That saves you from looking stupid and putting your pride on the line. Just kinda feel her out first. Anyway thats my opinion as a girl.

I feel you girl, guys need to be more clear on things, they expect us to be mind readers and be able to fix things without their help, but it doesnt work like that. I wish I could give you some advise, but Im going through something like that too and all I can tell you is to be strong and hang in there. Everything happens for a reason, sometimes we dont understand them, but time will tell why they happened.

Me and my boyfriend have been together off and on (mostly off) for a year and a half. We used to live together, but I had to move 1,000 miles away back to my family while he took care of some personal problems. He is going to court to finish getting custody of his daughter. Since I left he has been telling me that we will get back together after court, but he thinks that we should only talk once a week for a short time. I dont understand why he doesnt want to talk to me more and sometimes when I call he gets mad and yells at me that he is too busy to talk and hangs up on me. This has been going on for a while now and it is making it hard for me to trust him. He tells me that there is no one else and that he just cant have a girlfriend right now, but when court is over we can try to be together again. I have said that I wanted to come visit him and he acts like he doesnt want me to. I dont know if this is because he knows if he sees me he will want me to come back and he knows that isnt a good idea until court is over, or if there is another reason. He has told me he doesnt love me anymore, but he does care a lot about me. I need some help to see if anyone else understands what I need to do. Should I continue to try, or just let go. It makes it so hard, cuz a month before I left he was talking marraige and I said something that I didnt mean cuz I was mad - I said something about helping his ex get custody and now he says he doesnt trust me. He also says he wants me to stop calling so much. WHAT SHOULD I DO???? He means everything to me and I dont want to lose him.