Robert013

Can't you block his number through your phone service? It is not your fault. A relationship breakup involves both of the participants to some degree. It is very hard but the people on ENA are hear for you. Use it to be strong. You have to get through day 1 it can be the hardest one of all. Do not contact him okay digitaldiva.

Day 6 She sent me a text message last night that said " I think there might be a couple pairs of my jeans at your house". That was it. I ignored it of course it was a bit hard last night. The mornings seem to be a little harder why is this? The problem is we already did the exchange of items a month ago. I looked everywhere there aren't any of her jeans at my house. Is she just trying to suck me in or test me? My problem is that I am contantly asking questions to myself that only she can answer. This needs to stop now. How do I stop asking myself questions? The good thing about the fact that she contacting me and I ignore it is i feel in control. I can start to heal now that i have some control and dignity. This is a good thing.

Day 5 My last post was Friday morning. Well the weekend was easy at times but hard during others. I went to my sisters with my son for the weekend in Lake Placid NY. The four hour drive there was not pleasant in the least. Four hours of time to sit and think quietly not good. I tried to drowned it out by blasting the music and singing the lyrics out loud. My 7 year old son thinks I am nuts. I had so much built up when I arrived I felt like I was going to burst. So I imediatlly started pouring it on my sister she did not mind and then I was calm again. Saturday we we packed the day full of activity. First we all went on a short 2mile hike on a relatively flat trail. Then to a kids carnival in downtown lake placid. We then went to a farm and took a hayride to go and pick pumpkins with an old college friend and the kids she was babysitting. These kids were a handfull. We then all went out to dinner. This was nice I have not been out to a nice place with any other adults since the breakup. I need to get out more. I was sad and angry when i was at the farm. All I could think about was why are you not here girl? How could you miss this? Then i started to get sad thinking about all the other events she will not be apart of my son and my life anymore. I really missed her then. I really wanted to break contact to let her know what she was missing. I fought it. Sunday we went on a great hike up a mountain to lake. Exercise does wonders for keeping your mind of contacting them, and also releases your emotion. Then the ride home another four hours this was not as bad because I had been releaseing my emotion all weekend I felt like the monkey was off my back. Then there was sunday night after getting home my son and I took the dog for a walk around town. We saw her car at a strange house. This is where the new guy lives. This is where she has been staying and not being honest about it. This is all I could think about. I was feeling so good and then she just can kick you right back down in the dumps. I am so mad at her for taking the easy way out by just finding a replacement to fill the void that i left. I wanted us to go through this together. If we didn't get back together then at least we wouldn't try to hurt eachother any more than we had to and move on with some class. This is how I feel that she is doing this just to hurt me more in an evil way. I do know that there is no replacement for my son to fill that void in her heart. He is a beautiful one of a kind all around sweet child. She will miss him dearly.

Thank you. I will be back to post on Monday wish me luck everyone I fear I might need it to get through the weekend.

They are in northern New York. I am going to Lake Placid.

Start of day 2 I had a decent night last night I acually had some sleep. This is surprising because yesterday I morning I told her to not contact me and that she was not welcome at the halloween party we had planned before she broke up with me a month ago. I stayed in LC for to long and it just hurts to much. To much to fast. I need my space. That is whaqt she asked for originally now I have to give it to her. I was with a women friend last night and she helped me out. She gave me a slap in the face with reality. She said "you are the most exciting person to hang around. She said I have a great sense of humor, a great job, a wonderful kid, a kick ass apartment, you are the most motivated person I know, and very atractive, you will find someone someday that is a better and more atractive match, and you need to be happy because you have your s**t together". It is what I nead on a daily basis. I am going to visit my sister this weekend in the Adirondack mountains. Hiking to the top of a mountain should keep my mind on track. Getting away will be nice.

Well I am back to day 1 I sent her an e-mail that said " I think it is best if I go to destination alone on halloween. I would apreciate it if you would not contact me anymore, and I will do the same for you. Thank You". At least I feel better about letting her know she is not welcome to join me anymore. I think I am in for another sleepless night. Oh well

I am on day 2 of no contact. We had plans for halloween that were made before she dumped me. She mentioned she still wanted to go with me during the three weeks i spent in LC, but only as friends of course. I want to stay on no contact but I do not want to hurt her feelings about the Halloween bash we have attended together for the past 3 years. Is it wrong to not let her know that I am not going to bring her when as of right now she still believes I am? I really do not want to contact her. I am under suspicion that she is just using me for the 8 hour round trip ride and a free place to stay at my sister's house. Also she will most likely ruin my night. What to do?

Day 2 of NC Last night was hard I would wake up about every 2 hours with a rapid heart rate, and nothing but horrible thoughts. The urge to text message in these moments are very hard. I think the reason is that I have been in LC for 3 weeks now and we would text message each other a few times every day. I do not recomend LC at all after the breakup it makes it hard on dumpee witch is me.

I have done everything that you have said not to do Superdave but it has only been a few weeks is there any chance that NC will still work or at least have an effect? We were together for seven years so a month apart is nothing, but I did make all the wrong moves.

I am only on day one again and it seems like I cannot get out of this loop. She keeps doing things to hurt me and swomehow she makes sure I find out. She has not been honest about a single thing since she broke up with me. How do I ignore everthing and make it through at least a week? This is hard when you really love someone.

Thanks hulk7280 that is great advise.

She contacted me on Sunday and I responded this is extremely hard for me to do. I feel like everytime she contacts me it must be an emergency or there is something wrong. The longest I have gone is 5 day's any suggestions?

I actually broke of all contact 4 day's ago, but I saw her in the pub last night and she asked me a question. I will start the challenge from today. If I see here in the pub but we do not have any conversation and i keep my distance this counts as no contact correct?