Chris_the_Stampede

I'm telling you this as someone who's been there and understands the situation. Don't give her another thought. Sometimes women (and I'm sure guys are the same way) will say something like "I'm just not ready to go out with anyone right now." And then, while you wait patiently for her (or him) to "be ready", some other person shows up and steals them right out from under you. The fact that she didn't tell you about this guy and how she apparently blew you off only shows that she doesn't show you the kind of respect you deserve. I'm definitely not saying you should be mean to her, but as for dating, I would just let her go chasing after this other guy. You've got better things to do than worry about her. Maybe she'll realize how rude she's been to you, but let her figure it out for herself.

Take it from someone who's been single awhile himself, its not worth worrying about. Even if you've been alone for awhile, dwelling on it too much will only make you feel worse. The best thing to do is just to pick up some interesting hobbies and such, and try to enrich your own life more. Become a more engaging person and try to enjoy life for what it is. Being this kind of confident, happy person may get you noticed by girls. And if it doesn't, then don't sweat it. If your life is fullfilling enough, you'll be fine without a girl.

I wouldn't even worry abou this online girl. She sounds kinda nice, but for all you know she might be getting serious with this guy she was going to see. I'm not saying thats the case, but it may very well be. The best thing to do is just keep up the online chatting and see where it goes. If things work out between you two and you get to know each other better, thats great. But for all you know, this girl could already be attached at the hip with someone. Thats the problem with online girls/guys, you never really know 'em. Just stay cool and let things work out naturally. Either way, things will work out and you'll be fine in the end.

Somehow, I managed to go my first two years in college and still not find a girlfriend. I had plenty of dates, but none of them ever materialized into something more (It also seems like 99% of all college girls are already taken). That used to bother me, but I realized one of two things. Either Ms. Right simply hasn't entered my life yet and I need to just wait for the right time to find her, or I'm simply destined to be alone forever (not counting my friends, of course. I have tons of great friends both guys and girls) I might find a great girl this next semester at school, or I might not. If things continue the way they have, then I probably will be single another year. But the way I look at it...who cares! Its ok to be single, at least I don't have that ol' ball and chain weighing me down! I can at least take the time to that would be spent with a woman and focus it on things like my hobbies and interests. Heck, my golf game is getting better each day with the time I've been able to put on the links. I know its easy to get depressed about being single (and a virgin), but there's no sense in it. I still get down about it every now and then, but life could be alot worse. It's best not to think about the opposite sex much and just let life do with you whatever it may. I've read about guys getting into deep slumps and even cutting themselves, and I can see where they are coming from. But take it from me guys, its not worth it! I'm 20, and know that I'm too young to be going grey or loosing hair over some woman. To all you single fellas out there...go out and enjoy life...don't let all those happy little couples out there get you depressed. I'll bet all those guys who are attached to their women can't go golfing or fishing whenever they want!