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He’s told you in a very straightforward manner that he isn’t giving up porn. If this is a deal breaker for you, you need to walk away, completely and permanently. He’s made his choice, now you need to make yours.

If you want to know what he’s thinking, you’ll have to ask him. I honestly would just let the whole situation end. Continuing would just mean you’re enabling his cheating and puts you in a bad spot.

What the relationship is between him and his girlfriend is defined by him and his girlfriend. It’s got nothing to do with what year it is.

Cheating is cheating, and that’s what he’s doing if his girlfriend doesn’t know about it. Sounds like he’s just using you for sex. It would be wise to stop being intimate with him and find someone who’s not already spoken for.

That’s something only he can answer, so you’re going to have to ask him. If he’s not willing to communicate with you, then you might want to stop being intimate with him if it’s going to make you confused and unhappy.

Very erratic behavior. Not something you should have any interest in or desire to pursue. Block and delete.

This is a mess. Nothing good about it. Block and delete.

No one was out of line, imo. It was just something silly that happened. Another day, another dollar as they say.

Texting sucks. Call her, and if she doesn’t answer or return your message, you can let it go.

Generally, no. Not that it’s never happened, but it’s not usually the first thing on my mind when meeting someone for the first time.

He wasn’t willing to communicate with you, so there’s not much to talk about. Let it go. Give yourself time to heal.

He’s obviously comfortable with it, so there’s your answer. What the two of you are doing is not a heterosexual activity and you both know it. Not sure what the mystery is here.

…count your blessings.

You should seek a legal remedy, asap.

Follow your gut. If something seems off, which it does, then there’s a very high probability it is. Big red flags here. Heed them.

You can’t be the owner of other people’s actions, or lack thereof. You made the effort, they didn’t respond. You will find this often in life. People are generally self-centered beings. It’s got nothing to do with you. You can’t spend your time on people who don’t reciprocate. Not worth it.

From your description of yourself, you sound like a genuinely kind person. There’s nothing wrong with that. There should be more people like that, but it’s rare. You also sound like you’re somewhat introverted and shy. Nothing wrong with that either. Find people who share your interests, passions. They’re out there, you just have to make the effort to find and connect with them. But if you don’t want to, that’s ok too. There is no wrong choice, just knowing what you want and following your desires.

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Putting your focus on what would please someone else enough to make them want you is like shoveling smoke. Instead, spend that same time and energy knowing what you want, and then do that. If, once you’ve established that, someone comes along who fits in your life, great. If not, it doesn’t matter because you’re already doing what makes you happy.

Love is the strongest of the emotions. The heart can feel it, but the mind can never understand it. The meaning of love is entirely subjective.

The fact that she’s too far away to begin with is irrelevant to the big red flags everywhere. Block, delete, and choose better going forward.

Don’t be the owner of someone else acting like an asshat. It’s not about you. Forgive (or not, whatever feels best to you) and forget. Laugh and move on.

It remains with you.

I know it hurts now, but he did you a favor. You deserve better than a one sided relationship and once you’ve moved on from this, you’ll be free to find someone better suited to you.

Stop placing value in what others think about you. It’s none of your business. Acknowledge the beauty within yourself and embrace it. No one on the face of the earth has as much ability to know yourself as you do. Make peace with this simple truth and rejoice in it.