My boyfriend's Pornography use has come in-between our relationship.
With a limitless supply of Pornography at his fingertips, the monotony of 'me' has become unstimulating. Due to him fulfilling his own needs, I feel cheated out of a satisfying sexual experience and my desire for intimacy isn't met. I try not to take it personally but I am often left feeling undesirable, which is a huge turn off.
I dress in lingerie, I try to be sexier and switch things up playfully, however, I have been rejected due to him having already satisfied himself. It's disappointing, off-putting and difficult not to take it personally. He has a high sex drive, just not with me.
Despite feeling hurt, I have tried to understand and shake off feelings of inadequacy: Porn is a way to satisfy himself quickly with a variety of fantasies with no partner to consider. It's easy. It's lazy. It's effortless.
When I picked up the courage to talk to him in a non-confrontational manor, his immediate response was that he would stop and that was the end of the conversation- But he didn't stop. He now just fulfills his own needs in secrecy, often concealed with lies which makes matters much worse. The lies are irritating and I feel like he puts his desires before my trust. I am disappointed.
After weeks of feeling like I had been dismissed with a lie, I spoke to him again. He said:
"This is a subject we are not going to agree on. I watched Porn while I was single; It meant nothing then and it means nothing now."
There's a lot more to a relationship than sex, but this situation is really grinding me down. Advice?