Interesting. He has expressed something like performace anxiety in the past, when I teased him about perhaps having a threesome one day if he was into that. He isnt, and doesnt want to share me even with another girl. So ghost, I am not worried about there being someone else, he is the type who would end it with me if I wasnt the one he was thinking about. He is just more of a cuddler, he loves to fall asleep spooning. He never turns that down. I wondered if it is partly bc he is older? But still, he's a guy
Yeah, its not great he went through my stuff. I'm really a private person. He did tell me that he has huge trust issues due to his past relationships. I have nothing bad to hide, so i worked past my feelings on the matter and instead am trying to find a way to prove that he can trust me. He really wants to, but we have disagreements about how much I am supposed to be talking to my male friends etc...it is one of our issues. It does hurt me, though.
We have a very realistic view of each other, since we were put in a very ugly situation quite soon after we got involved. Its my admiration of his reaction to that situation that made me love and respect him as deeply as i do.
Other than that, we only fight if we dont get enough time together.
I guess it is just the natural rhythm of a relationship. Its unrealistic to think that we will talk as much as possible all day for the rest of our lives I talked to him and reminded him it is a choice - whether or not we keep that initial spark. Since then, he has been emailing more often and being sweet like he used to be.
Maybe I should post over in the jeaousy section to see if theres anything to do to help him trust me.