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Please try and keep strong I know it's really hard but try and let him miss you Im going through hell at the moment and am on my third day of no contact and I really am trying to be strong.

He sent me a message this morning to say he went to his councilling yesterday and told me how much he misses me yet he wont speak or see me I just dont understand. Do you think I should start NC I just dont want him to think Im turning my back on him.

Thanks for your replies the anti deppressents he has stopped are Citroplan and he's adament he stopped them 4 weeks ago and the Morphine I just dont know whether to believe him. He still wont see me but still say's he need's time but he also keeps sending me messages I just dont know what he wants.

Hi everyone, Im at my wits end and really dont know what to do my boyfriend of three months says he need's some space the reason being he get's scared when he gets to emotionally involved, beacause he has never really gotten over his wife having an affair 5 years ago he said she has destroyed him emotionally and physically. We have some really lovely times together and Im heartbroken because he says he still wants to be with me but has so many problems, he cant show his affection physically but he is so loving and caring in other ways, anyway he has told me he has been addicted to Morphine and Anti deppressents for 6 years, and now he has met me wants to do something about it. Thats when he said he needs space he has started to have councilling last week and tells me he has stopped all his Morphine and Antidepressents!!!!. can you really do that after all those years?? I dont really know whether to believe him or not I dont really know much about addictions. He has txt me but wont see me he says he cant face me and wants to sort his problems out at first but I really dont know what to do Im not sleeping or eating properly I really want to try and help him through this

Has anyone please got any advice ?????

I can give him time it just upset's me he cant speak or see me he's actually seen someone today about his problems so hopefully he has took the first step. Hes had a disc removed from his back which is much better now but he's still taking the morphine.

I have been looking at the forum and it has helped me so much in the last 6 months, since my marriage broke down after 25yrs. My husband was having an affair I found out and could not forgive him as he had done it before, in the end he pleaded with me to come back but I had already moved on with the help of reading stories on here. So my problem now is I met this guy in November I really thought Id met the love of my life, we have so much in common its untrue everyone said Id met him to soon but I fell deeply in love with him and I know he cares for me deeply, anyway just after christmas he seemed very distant and says he needed space, he has lot's of issues with emotions is on anti deppressants and is addicted to morphine which he takes for a back problem. He says he could never committ to me while he has these problems, so we had a very long heart to heart I tried to talk him into getting help but he said he had tried last year and didnt see it through his last relationship he should have been getting married and called it off because of the way he is. Anyway he said we should have some space which I respected I didnt contact him for a week then he sent me a txt message telling me he had an appiontment to see someone, because he wants to get it right this time its as though he wants me to wait in the background but it's tearing me apart he's txt me again on valentines day and left red roses and a card on my doorstep he wont speak or see me I just dont understand. I would be grateful for any advice you can give me.