willow2900

Hi all; For those who have gotten back together with their ex or at least had a pleasant relationship with the ex after some time how do you forgive what they have done in the meantime? How do you deal with the flings and the rebounds? I am still very new in my breakup (at least I feel so: 6 weeks) but my ex has been "dating" (bedding) someone for 5 weeks. I do feel that with some time we could work this out. In the meantime I am trying to see how I can deal with him having his "single time" without freaking out completely. I am still new with the NC (5 days as I had to see him the other day to grab my items out of his car - very little communication though. No big scenes/drama.) I am going to try and do NC as long as possible but we do work together and all our friends are the same friends. DIfficult. Any stories or advice on how you dealt with the jealousy over the fling (or whatever you want to call it) is appreciated.

Some background: Broke up with boyfriend of 2.5yrs living together in October. Moved out in Dec. Difficult dec as he hid he was casually dating in Oct and Nov and I found out accidentally. It has been 5 days with no contact. We work together and he sent me an email tonight for me to grab some of my items from his car. Do I respond? Do I pretend I didn't get the email? Do I just grab the items and go? I do want a relationship back with him and I am trying not to mess up. Any advice?