Lost in fairytales

It's really hard to make yourself like someone. In fact, I don't think we have a choice over who we fall in love with. It's all due to weird chemicals that happen in our brain when we get stimulated by certain people. If he is just not your type, and you don't like him romantically...i don't see where this relationship is going. On the otherhand maybe you do like him deep down, it's just that because he is already your boyfriend, you wanted more from him. If that's the case, concentrate on his good asserts and appreciate it. What is the most important thing to you in a relationship? Often two good qualities are contridictary, and cannot co-exist on a person. It's up to you to decide which one of the qualities is more important to you. Hope it helps.

Only known him in person for a month and he wants to move in?? That is a very big gamble, and i wouldn't do it if I was you. Do you really know what he is truly like? I agree with heartlessromantic, it's critical that two people in a relationship have things in common and do activities together. People are separate being, and everyone should have their own lives. Interestingly, it's always the mystery behind a person that intrigue people to get to know a stranger, and if you are always together, that mystery will dissolve very fast -- before true bonding and affection takes over. So i think it's always smart to leave a little personal space between you and him. Take time to appreciate one another and fall deeply in love, then move in together once you are certain about him.

Hrmm. Ectopic pregnancy and tube removal is really bad. I hope you were there to comfort her. Was she seeing her ex before this new turn of relationship or during? If she was seeing her ex when you two had pure sexual relationship, then maybe she likes you now. Do you like her? But if she wants to two time, then you definitely did the right thing dear.

Thanks for the reply heartlessromantic. We used to hang out quite a bit in the holidays after high school graduation. I heard from my best friend (who threw me became his best friend's girlfriend) that he used to like me then. At that time, I stopped to like him because I was afraid. And many years later, I found myself going back to the same person time and time again it's so annoy. I don't have a flirtatious gene, and he doesn't seem to have neither. I don't know what i should do. Confession may ruin our good friendship, yet if we both remain silent, sooner or later one of us will get a partner and move on. I don't really want to miss any more chances with him. Please help. Every bit of thoughts/advice is much appreciated: [Why is it that problems always seem easier to solve when it happens to other people. ]

I've know him for over 4 years now (since senior high), although we don't see each other much, but everytime we talk, it's always really friendly and warm. Every birthday, he would give me something really sweet and thoughtful, such as a hand made birthday card, or a sepcial gift from overseas when he was travelling. Then I would always find myself liking him after my brithday, but when i tried to get him to hang out, he would always refuse. And I am terribly confused. Just last week, he had a really small 21st Birthday party, and I was the only female friend he invited, (other females are his friend's girlfriends). And during the night, he looked out for me, and even noted that there was this song I used to really like. I am really touched by his thoughfulness and sensitivity. However, history tends to repeat itself. I sms him a couple of days ago, asking him to hang out, but he cleverly dodged the question with a simple "good night". I am really really confused by the male species. If he is not interested, then why does he notice so many of my details? Why does so many sweet and personal things for me? Yet, if he's interested, why is he running away? It seems the harder i push, the faster he runs. Does true male friends really exist? Because if they do, he's 1 in a million, and I am very lucky to have such a good male friend.