I have been with my girlfriend for three and a half years now. She is 13yrs older than I, has two children, and lives with her mom and sister at the present time. She has been divorced twice. In the three and a half years we have gone through a whole lot. We have broken up twice in that time which was her decision. The first time was because she was afraid one day I'd want a child of my own since she can't have anymore. The second break up was because she was afraid that I'd wake up when I'm 35, ask myself "what am I doing with her," and leave her.
Now the situation we're in now has nothing to do with her and I as a couple. Right now her brother is going through a very rough marriage that involves two kids. The marriage may be over for him. My girlfriend won't talk to me about what is going on because she feels that her brother doesn't want his personal life discussed. My girlfriend is so stressed and depressed that she doesn't even want me around. She's doubting all relationships now. She has not broken up with me yet. When her and I are around each other anywhere she won't talk to me but for one word answers, but she'll conversate with other people smile and laugh. I think she just does that so people don't know she's troubled, but I don't know. It hurts to she her talk and laugh with other people and not say much to me at all.
Her and I talked a couple days ago and she just doesn't want to be bothered with anyone at all even myself. She said she needed space and that me even calling her, stopping by for ten minutes, or watching her kids sporting events is not what she wants me to do now. I tried my hardest to reassure her that I'm here with her in this relationship forever and I won't leave her. So now I'm giving her the total space she wants and not bothering her at all. It hurts to not see her, and scares me even more that my relationship could be over. I don't want that to happen, but I don't know what I can do. I want to be there for her in her tough time, but she won't let me.