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okay I have posted 2x on here about my ex. But heres a little background. My ex and I broke up late september. We were in that Romeo and Juliet type of crazy love for the past year. Inseperable. We fought, but loved each other soo much and still do, BUT a couple of days after we broke up she slept with some guy and everything spiraled out of control I would just call her to hang out and get some lunch to talk about what happened cuz I adored her and was in denial for a while. It was awkward though I would not call her, but she then I would have 10 missed calls on my phone, etc. I tried to play the no contact, but i wanted to see what she had to say. It was all BS. I was fed up and wanted to just get away for a bit so I decided hey why not go home since I have a couple of days off work and hang out with friends I alienated for a year, because I missed them and my family. So I jumped on a plane depressed about the sitaution with her, but elated to see my family after not seeing them for almost 6 months. So when I get home my phone rings and its her. I answer after the 3rd missed call. So she asks if she can come to my place to grab her things and I explain im not home and im gone. Shes like where are you and I resitate and say Im home. She starts balling her eyes out. Explaining to me we could of worked things out, etc. I got sucked back in. She would call me while I was home and we would talk and then I would hang up and I get a text saying you forgot to say sumthing on the phone. I respond huh? and she texts back you didnt say I love you. I was a wreck with this girl playing my emotions. I could not believe in my wildest dreams this could happen to me. So once I returned I was so torn with what to do. So things were going in every direction possible. We would fight. I would tell her to stop talking to that kid if she wanted us to talk, etc. Finally I call her once and her phone was off. I went nuts on her voicemail for just playing me, etc. She called me back and told me she was dating this guy and I needed to leave her alone. I totally accepted it. So the no contact goes into effect. Maybe a week or 2 later I send her a email explaining that I would like my things back. I told her my friend would stop by work and the exchange of possessions would occur. She agreed after a little email bicker on valuables, but it was done. The day I sent that email I changed my phone number, deleted my email accounts, etc. I felt liberated I was finally out of this web of decite. The next day my friend called her about the exchange and relayed to me that she was distraught asking if I was okay, because my number was changed, etc. He told her I was fine and that we both had to let it go. That night I came back to my room to get ready for work. I felt I had a obligation for some reason to tell her I was okay, because during our breakup I felt some severe depression and my moodswings were out of control, because of how she acted towards me and the breakup. I called her on a calling card. Wow!!!!!! So I call her and we start talking shes balling her eyes out. It was never over for me she tells me. I would never have changed my number on you. Trying to out blame on me. So I live in a dorm complex and she use to live a floor below, but moved out. While I was on the phone I heard her come to my door and knock. I told her I was not opening it, but I couldnt let her feel the way she did without me explaining myself. She tells me how she loves me and shes done with this guy. How we can make it work. She was a emotional wreck. Telling me how bad she screwed up, etc. I told her I had to go to work and we would talk later. When I get out of work I see texts from her like You are missed and loved. I cant wait to hear your voice. I was like how did she get my number. I call my friend after work like my ex got my number. He reveals to me she was drunk and calling him like I know his number, but forgot the last 4 digits. She saw my number written down and myboy gave her the rest of the numbers, cuz she was telling him we were getting back together!! The next day I call her private and am like i care about you, but you hurt me way to much. She told me she broke up with that other guy for shure. I couldnt believe it. Is this girl playing me or for real?? We had sex and then we both realized things need to go slow. I cant even picture myself with this dating her right now,but when I kick it with her I still go in to hug her goodbye or a peck on the forehead and shes like no. Im like are you kidding? One day your crying at my door how you want me in your life and the other you wont even hug me. I havent kissed this girl in 2 weeks except when we were drunk. I know I can not change the past and this girl is still my best friend, but how slow is too slow? We kick it. Go to movies and chill, but when were on a couch shes on the other end and I question myself like what am I doing? Recently I have been thinking since Ive been kicking it with her if its just better to ignore her totally and just ignore her pain. I loved this girl and now I cant even get a hug. Shes leaving for california for 4 days this weekend. So these questions and doubts are getting stronger because I will not see her. Has anyone out there dealt with the extra slow return to physical contact? With her gone this weekend should I contact her at all or just start putting my mind in the zone of totally ignoring her? I love and care about her, but my welfare is far more imporant to myself than hers.

soo I posted a email my ex sent me a couple of days ago...I was good with NC and then she called me three times the day she sent me the email. She left me messages on my phone about returning the gifts I got her for her bday. So I finally called her back-no answer. She called me back later that night and I told her I was clear with her intentions and I respected her. I also told her some of the email seemed like bs, like emotionally unstable and what not, because I was always there for ans she didnt say much, bedcause she knew I was right. I told her she was too young and needed time to grow as a person and I wish I was there for her and then I told her I wish she could of grown with me and she said she was while we were dating. So she started crying on the phone and I held my composure as much as I could. Then she asked me if she I wanted to grab something to eat. I agreed and told her it was better to talk in person she also agreed. We ate and began to talk. I was relaxed and told her I could do no more. I love her and she made her decision. I told her she really hurt me and she agreed and said she was vunerable to the situation she was in and made me feel better by explaining answers to me. I told her no matter 5,10,15 yrs down the line I knew I was going to marry her and she didnt say anything cuz she I know she felt thew words I said. She also told me that by us sitting and talking theres a good chance we could keep moving in a positive direction. I care about her and honestly I dont want to get out there and sleep with other girls. I need to relax physically and mentally, but waiting for her to figure out if she wants me blows...She told me she doesnt want a bf and I when I think about it I dont want a gf either right now, but like all ex's I have that slight glimmer of hope something could work. I want to be her friend first of all and learn a lot more about her than I have in a year. Also she was talking to this other guy right when we broke up and when we were talking she was like I am not going to get into a relationship with him, but shes always at his apartment. Shes using his car all the time. She always drinking now and calls me this morning and after 2 missed calls I was torn whether to answer and she told me how she was so drunk she wet herself in her sleep. I couldnt believe it. That was not the girl I dated! So I am trying to play the no contact as best as I can, but I figured a couple days ago just to ask her to go out for lunch and check out a museum exhibit 2morrow. She agreed. I dont want to talk about us period or about this kid, but it frustrates me shes always at his house and now is telling me we are moving in a positive direction??? why stay at his apartment with his roomates and who knows sleep in his bed if you told me youre not going to get into a relationship with him?? I love her and care about her, but I am at a lose with what I can do. Im thinking 2morrow could go great, because we wont be talking about us just enjoying each others company and then I am not going to call her until she calls me. I dont text or call her anymore. when I see her we just chat and then she calls me like hey how was your day, etc???? I am so confused with what I should I do and it sucks, because I feel like I should go into the grieving period and I keep falling in and out of this stage with her decisions. I want her back for shure, but what can I do at this point???? ](*,)

check this out: I posted some things about my ex on other posts and heres a message i got from here today on facebook: Message: Brandon, I"ve called you twice today to return the gifts. You aren't picking up my calls, or returning them. You are hurt and upset, I understand where you are coming from and I respect that. However, all of these gifts need to be returned. I'm not going to keep them, it's not right. I know you really spoiled me on my birthday, and I appreciate it...but you only purchased those gifts because you thought it would win me over. I can keep presents that were given to me for a benificial matter on your part. I know that all you have wanted is to love me, and me love you the same. You have been put through hell this past month and its not right. I don't know what I want with my life at this point. A lot is going on in my head and I'm experiencing a lot of emotions. This month has been insane w/ school, dog, money, apartment, emotions and much more. I really don't know whats going on in my life, it scares me. You have always been there for me, and I have always been there for you. And I don't want to see you in pain. I love you more than I've ever loved another guy and it hurts me a lot more than you think to see you suffer like this. You have been waiting for a month for me to come back to you. And you've tried everything you can to make that happen. It just cant happen Brandon. I am emotionaly unstable and I just want to be around people that make it easier for me to figure out who I am. You are in far to much pain to listen to my problems and understand what I am experiencing. And It kills me. You have been my best friend for over a year, and I cant even talk to you about my emotions. It's so . Anyway...I understand where you're coming from w/ not answering my phone calls. I know where things are heading at this point. You are probably going to shut me out of your life like you did to your ex. If thats the decision you make, I respect it. I just want you to be yourself again. And if it means you have to 100% block me out of your life, then so be it. It's probably best for the both of us. We had an amazing relationship and we brought a lot out in eachother Brandon. Thats a blessing. You have so much going for you right now it's unbelievable! I wish I could be there to hold your hand every step of the way to your success, but unfortunetly...im unclear with what I want in my life and you cant keep waiting. I love you and I know what you need to do for yourself to move on...I'm not mad at you for that. I'm not taking the tags off of any of the gifts and when you decide you want them back, they will be sitting in their bags with the tags still on them...I promise. Regards, Brianne what do you guys think?? for shure I am moving on, but do you think she is just confused?? or just done with me totally?? I know by this email im pretty much out of the equation, but how many of you guys have gotten emails or have had girls write this to you and then come back to you? She told me shes never loved another guy like me and I am just bent on thinking if she will ever comeback?? I want her for shure and am going to give it time, but is there a chance this girl will come back to me. Shes 20 and needs time to grow, but last week she was telling me she knew she was going to marry me and have my kids. Also I didnt buy her the gifts to get back with her I did them, because I loved her and wanted her to be happy on her birthday.

Im in the similar predicament bro....it sucks, i was with my girl for a year and she banged one of my boys best friends...look at my post, but these suggestions help on here alot...i feel soo much better after realizing how these girls can dog us out. I was talking about marrying her, getting a place together, etc. No contact is the best way and Im going to stick to it. Its hard, I live in a dorm room a floor above my ex and I see her on campus. To know I put my whole heart into her and she crushed it makes me ill, but other girls will apperciate you so much more and never cheat on you or doing something behind your back. Dig deep and realize you have the strength to overcome the situation. Read the art of happiness by the Dalia Lama Ive been reading it since Ive been broken up with my girl and it has helped immensely.

Thanks for the advice....its a dishearting situation and i know im her safe house....my heart wants her, but my mind was made up a while ago...im gunna do what you guys suggested and say f*** the bs. It sucks getting your heart broken and honestly if she came back to me I dont know if I really would want her back....anyways check it out I got her a bunch of gifts for her bday and I took a hit in the pocket when I could of paid of my credit card....Is it justifiable to ask for the belongings back?? I mean this girl did me soooo dirty...any thoughts??

so I dated my ex for a year and I love her to death. We broke up about a month ago. We were at a bar and got into a fight and i left and my friends roomate consoled her and hugged her that night. The next night we got into another fight and she slept in his bed. I went to his apartment, because i was friends with his roomate and was crying my etyes out about us being done and he saw me in that state and that night he went out with her I found out and couldnt believe. I found out after a week of not talking to her that she slept with him. She told me everything and I was sick to mty stomach. She wanted to work things out and I did too, because I loved her, but i cant forget about her sleeping with him. Since then a month has gone by we have slept together and told each other we love one another. She even told me she wanted to marry me, but when im around her and try to kiss her or hug her she pushes me away. So her birthday came around on october 20th and it was her golden birthday 20 on the 20th. This day meant so much to me and her and I figured if she was talking to another guy why would I get involved. She was so upset I didnt call her at midnight. The guy she is talking to took her out to a steak dinner and got a hotel room for her and she told me they didnt do anything. I was fed up, but my heart still wants her and I want her back so I went out and did a few things for her. Im having dinner with her tomorrow night. I talk to her, but i dont know what to do. She stays at this guys house and tells me nothing is going on. When I see her though I have this overpowering feeling of love for her. I miss her and am depressed about this situation. She was my first love. Im 24 and shes 20. She told me if I made plans on her bday with her she would of been with me, but I hate the fact she talks to this guy. When I saw her yesterday and gave her the gifts I bought for her she told me she loved me and kissed me. Now she just got an apartment with his best friend and I dont know if i can take that cuz the guy shes talking to will be over there. I work at a nightclub and I dont see her fri-sun. When were on the phone sometimes she gets ignorant and says * * * * like why do you want to be with me when you know another guy put his * * * * in me and I want to go nuts, but Im more mature than that. I just cant fathom how one year went so bad in a month. She even told me she almost got married she was so drunk to this guy. Shes been drinking a lot and I dont know what to do. We were so close like practically married for a year. With each other non stop. We made living arrangements so we could spend time with each other and now I live alone and I get lonely and sad and it sucks. She sends me messages like she loves me, but shes talking to this guy. I even went to a therapist, because i was so distraught. I wanted to marry this girl and now its gone. Im not sure what I can do anymore. One day she loves me and than the other shes not answering my phone calls. Do I not talk to her anymore? Im hooked up through this network called facebook for college students and girls hit me up and shes gets angry at me. She found out my password and deleted all the comments from other girls. Its a awkard situation. Any advice would be apperciated.