CHill

Most of the people who replied to this thing are like......18-30? I think it's safe to say when you're still in high school living with your parents it's a LOT different. I'm 16 too, and I'm in one now with a girl that went to my school then moved the summer after that year, and for months I've been seriously trying to get out of it, and we've broken up countless times. I don't even remember when it started going downhill, but it did for as many reasons as you can imagine. The distance itself, jealousy, not being able to show any physical affection, you name it. Everytime we talk on the phone i can't wait for it to end, and when we see each other we never want to do the same thing. Not to mention all the outside things going on, like looking at all the other couples kissing at school and our friends with good "short-distance" relationships. Don't even think of having anything physical until ur out of the house on ur own because parents are willing to do as little as nothing when it comes to driving you to go see them in the time ur both in LDR. In a nutshell, they dont work out in my opinion. You'll either end up breaking up or hating every minute of not.

Thank you. Anymore suggestions anyone?

Okay, this is pretty much the update from my first post about my relationship problem. About a day after that, we got into another fight about what we were looking for in the relationship, and then about love. She told me that she wasn't sure I loved her, and I asked her how she knew that she was w/ me. She told me she constantly had "outbursts of good feelings throughout the day" (which sorta conflicted with the fact that we have the worst arguments almost every day), and I said that I didn't think that I always felt like that (because I hadn't and it was the truth). And she got really upset and immediately broke up because she couldn't stand the thought of being with anyone that didn't feel the same way about her (even though I really didn't want to break up at all), and told me to look at everything including love and tell her what I thoguht the next day. So the next day (today), I really looked at our relationship and how I felt about everything, asked for a lot of advice from my friends (who said she was wrong for me from the beginning, but were still open-minded this time), and I eventually came to the conclusion that I didnt love her, no matter how much I or she wanted to. When we talked on the phone next (its an LD relationship for those who are new to the story), I told her what I decided, and at first she took it impulsively, and said she would hate it if I dated anyone else soon (which I said I wasn't going to do), and told me it didn't matter whether I did it in an hour or 25 years from now, it would be the same thing. And I told her I'm sorry, but I'm gonna still live my life, I'm not gonna stop dating completely because you don't want to get back with me. Then she ended the conversation. Later I go on my Myspace (a personal webpage site), and I look at her profile, and shes deleted every single picture weve had together, made a new blog that looked pretty much dedicated to me (THE CRAP OF ALL CRAPS), and changed her display name to "Kiss me, Kill me, now you're gonna Miss Me". She does something like this every single time we break up for whatever reason (we were an on-and-off couple for almost a year now), and every time she does it makes me feel like crap because it litterally makes me look like the bad guy. I need to know once and for all if I really am what she makes me out to be. If you need any more information on the relationship to decide, I'll be more then glad to answer.

Thanks. I'll put that into consideration

Okay, I'm in a long-distance relationship with this girl that I've been dating on and off with for about a year now. We both went to the same school when we first became friends and got together for the first time, but the summer after that year she moved to another district about half an hour from where she did before, juuuust enough for her to have to switch schools. We got together again, just throwing all LD caution to the wind and hoping for the best. But (who would've guessed it) after time things got crappy. I look around and I see all the couples having fun n being happy together, and the only way I can bear to stand it is to tell myself "Me and her have something special going on. They'll probably be broken up in about a week." But what actually happens is the exact opposite. We argue every day about the STUPIDEST things, how jealous we get when we do as little as speak about some of our opposite-gender friends (both of us), how we never have enough time to talk because of whatevers coming up, or just plain "I don't feel like talking". In addition to all the arguments, her mom refuses to drive her down here at all because she doesnt want to, and whenever we see each other it has to be my parents to drive me some place near her house (which is like once a month, and theyre starting to get mad that they have to all the time). And when we see each other, (I don't mean to sound shallow or anything), but she doesn't want to do ANYTHING affectionate at all. She doesn't want to go "all the way" until were both 18, and I respect that, but what about just kissing? The last time we made out was about four months ago, and everytime I ask her about it, she goes "Is that all you think our relationship is about?" We're in a long-distance relationship for crying out loud!!!! If I thought that was all our relationship was about I wouldn't be in it right now! But that doesn't mean we shouldn't do it at all! Don't get me wrong, back when we were at the same school we used 2 do it fairly often, it's not like she never ever wanted to do it at all. I don't ever know if all this trouble is worth it anymore. I've asked most of my friends for advice, and 98% of them have advised me to break up with her. I've thought about breaking up before, but I could never work myself up to it. It just seems wrong and really messed up every time I try to, and it just may be. Shes had a rough time ever since the move, but I want to live a happy life too. What should I do? Should I stay with her and try to work things out, or should I break up with her? And how?