sanders2021

I just went through something like this about 5 weeks ago. Granted, my relationship was only a year and a half, but she was my first girlfriend and my first love. I saw myself spending the rest of my life with her. For the first few weeks, I was exactly like you. Completely heart-broken. Everything reminded me of her. Yes, everything. I still talk with her, and I can tell that she's moved on. I have not even come close to getting over her yet. I still love her and want her back, and I feel like I would do anything to get her back. I don't know, maybe I will. If it's meant to be, it will be. In any case, you need to get out with friends, or just get out of the house and do anything. Over the first 3 days that she broke up with me, I didn't eat and didn't sleep even once. I lost 8 pounds in 3 days. It's not good. You have to eat. There is no reason to do this to yourself. You're both just human beings trying to live your lives. You didn't need her before you met her, and you don't need her now. If she can break up with you with no remorse, you deserve better. It's hard to realize now, hell, I haven't even realized it yet, but you have to know that you will get better. We're all here for you, man. You'll be fine. Sooner than you think.

Dude we will. Everyone will get over this. We're strong- * * * mofo's. We can do this, brother.

Yeah, that's what I tell myself, too. It's the worst feeling ever. I try to surround myself with friends. A lot of my friends are going through the same kind of thing with their girlfriends, so it's nice to have them to talk to about it. I just miss what I had with her so much. It was so perfect.

I know in the end she probably isn't. She was just my entire life for a year and a half, and my first girlfriend. To see her doing this * * * * just absolutely kills me. Especially with facebook, I can see all the guys hitting on her and the pictures she posts of parties and her with different guys. It's * * * *ing killing me, man. But she's my best friend. I pretty much shunned all of my friends while I was with her so that I could spend time with her. I just don't know what to do. I can't focus on school, I can't sleep, I can't eat, I can barely finish the workouts at track practice. This * * * * is * * * *ing up my whole life, man. I scheduled an appointment with a counselor for Wednesday, but I don't know if I can wait that long. I don't know. This is just destroying me.

I feel your pain, dude. I'm in the same kind of situation. It's sooooo hard to not contact them, and I'm failing miserably at it right now.

My girlfriend and I broke up about a month and a half ago... going to different colleges, need to meet new people, etc. I was not fine with this and had a bit of a break down, but I had been getting better over the past few weeks. I was just holding out hope that sometime down the road we'd get back together. It was the only thing that made me feel good. Before that, I was having constant dreams about her, couldn't sleep for more than 4 hours a night, constant panic attacks. It was bad. We remained friends, and over the past few weeks she has been talking to me more. She started calling me "sweetie" again, and telling me she missed me. She started calling sometimes just to talk. She would text sometimes. I was feeling great. I really thought that she was starting to regret her decision and that she wanted to get back together. Exactly what I wanted. Until two days ago, my friend told me that she had been grinding with some guys at a party. He also told me that she got really drunk one night and made out with some random guy. Before she went to college, she was absolutely, 100% against drinking, and now apparently that's all she does. She just seems like a completely different person. When my friend told me that I really, really freaked out. I was getting dizzy, light-headed, my arms were going numb, I couldn't speak without stuttering. It was a really bad panic attack. I was seriously contmeplating hurting myself. I didn't know what to do. I just wanted to die. I have cut myself in the past once, and I realized how stupid it was. However, I really wanted to just * * * *ing die that night. I didn't want to be alive anymore. Instead, I met with some friends of mine and I got drunk (I've never drank before). I know this was probably not the best idea but it seemed like a damn good one at the time. Now I'm just feeling totally depressed. She doesn't know that I know the stuff she's been doing. I feel like I have to talk to her about it, but I don't know how or what to say. I'm afraid that if we talk about it, she's just not going to talk to me anymore. I don't want that to happen. I just want to be with her. I'm still holding out hope that we can be together, and I don't want to ruin it. Any help or advice or anything you guys can offer me would be great. I'm just having a really, really tough time with this. Thanks so much. Mike

We are still remaining friends. I talk to her on the phone sometimes (maybe two or three times a week), we text sometimes, we communicate via email, and we talk online. I just miss her very much and we agreed that we would like to keep the door open for something down the road. This just kills me, though. I can't stand being apart from her, and I feel like she's gotten completely over me by now, and may be seeing someone else. This just devastates me. I don't know what to do.

We had been dating for a year and a half. She's going to a different college than me (we're both freshmen starting this year) and she thinks that the distance (about two hours apart) will be too much and she just doesn't want to be in a relationship in college. I spent almost every day with her for a year and a half. She would come over to my house every day after school, we'd spend the weekends together, we spent our entire summer together - we were basically inseparable. I seriously don't know what to do. This was my first girlfriend ever and I am extremely emotionally attached to her and to our relationship. I have such an urge to call her and talk to her but I know that she will just get upset and that this will ruin any chance I have of maintaining a friendship with her. I really did love this girl with all of my heart. Please don't rip on me for this, I am seriously not in a good place right now. I have had trouble with depression in the past and I am feeling extremely depressed right now. If anyone could offer some advice or anything, it would be greatly appreciated. Thanks, guys.