Clementine orange

talks too much, talks too loud, talks about themselves too much.

tells me about their previous bad relationships.

rude, obnoxious, game playing,

high maintenance

rascist, sexist

obssesed about their weight

stupid, unambitious

The list could go on

Coffee is good too. Or breakfast?

Nothing ventured, nothing gained dude. In my experience, if she is interested then it really doesn't matter what you ask her to (within reason) and if she isn't then the same situation applies.

I didn't know the entire history of your relationship before giving advice. It sounds to me like he has had his chance (more than once even).

Forcefull kiss is not right - or even legal for that matter.

I agree, your foot needs to be put down, my new advice - avoid him at all costs.

For every person out there who say's "I'm tired of being single", there is someone who is saying "I'm tired of being in this relationship".

You gotta go where the boys are, be friendly and be inviting.

Your signature says it all....unfortunately.

It is terrible to play games (such as making your self a scare commodity) but your options are limited at this point.

could be psychological - I'd be talking to a psychologist perhaps. Don't enjoy sex? Then you are missing out on something. Plus your partner is.

Woah, take it easy on this guy.

Why on earth would you ask him how many other girls he had been with since you broke up. Don't ask the question if you are going to be disturbed by the answer.

Plus he finds you irresistible - how is that disrespectful?

"everytime you look at me and smile i have to kiss you, and i dont think that will ever change" (ahem, lame)" How is that lame? Some might find that rather romantic. Geez.

he dogs me! i was so offened I thought I was pretty "with it" but what the H does that sentance mean?

The drunken ramblings of some ex is a red herring and not relevant to the situation at hand. Don't be distratcted by this.

Women and their various damaged self esteems!!!! Very annoying. Thanks for nothing Cosmo and the media in general.

Lock2121's advice is great - if you have the patience

san101ca's advice is probably what I'd do.

I've been in this situation before and found it infuriating. It is also a reflection on how much she values you as well. ie: if she thinks she's "nothing" well then you are the lover of "nothing"....that makes you less than nothing.

Email the photo, say something light and flirty in the body of the email and then ask her an innocent question to make it easy to respond to the email. If she is interested then she will write back (answering the question) and asking you one. Go from there.

Or maybe mention that you will be going to XYZ show (in the same vein as the one you met at) and ask if she will be going and "maybe I will see you there")

Or tell her that you owe her a drink because she made such a great suject on the picture.

DON'T just come right out and ask her for a date - take the back door. Be light and funny and teasing. Look like a pro.

Be prepared for it to go nowhere as well, and if it does then don't care.

That's my advice

You can't change people, you can only change yourself and your attitudes towards something.

What you can do is make him hate you.

Contrary to others advice here, I would lighten up and use positive reinforcement.

If you have a relationship where the only thing you fight about is this, then you are a lucky, lucky girl!

Sex is a way of really quickly bridging the distance. It is the ulitmate expression of "I missed you sooooo much".

Enjoy it - I'd worry if you got together after not seeing each other for X amount of time and you didn't have sex.

LDR are funny that way. Torture when you are away, bliss when together, rinse, repeat.

Well, I been feeling kinda crappy (for lack of a better word) the last few months, physically, emotionally and mentally drained and I’ve been trying to find reasons for this. One thing that I’ve been doing a lot of recently, that I didn’t do before, is visiting the enotalone site. I go here a lot, not just to post but also to look around. It was getting a little obsessive I think, and I’m wondering if it is having an adverse effect on my mental health – that is reading about all these problems and agony all the time. I know once in a while one reads a happy posting but let’s face it, most of them are pretty angst ridden. I think all this was getting me down.

thereforeeee, I think I will give this a break for a month or so. Just to see if that makes any difference. I know I was using it as a procrastination tool as well so that’s not good. So I’m going to take a break.

So thank you and good bye (for now)

1.) Thank you and good bye to the wonderful moderators of this site, I think we underestimate how much work it is and what a gift of time and effort they make. Including the one (who’s name I’ve forgotten – sorry) who kindly deleted a quoted comment of mine that was written in haste and was an embarrassing rant.

2.) Thank you and good bye to those who have responded to me or commented on my comments. I appreciate the gestures, it’s nice to be noticed! We had some great debates and information and experience sharing.

3.) Thank you and good bye to the couple of guys in my age group who I have formed a kind of camaraderie with. I wish we could all get together for beers and nickel ante poker on my back porch.

4.) Thank you and good bye to those who PM’d me out of the blue – nice surprise and also to those who gave me “reputation” points. Nice!

5.) Thank you and good bye to that one poster who was usually totally annoying and irritating but once said something that was so funny that I almost peed my pants after I read it and still giggle helplessly when I think of it.

6.) Thank you and good bye to the female poster who I had developed a secret mini crush on. You’re just a sweetheart and I know you will find love, not with me I’m sure but with someone. I wish you the best.

7.) Thank you and good bye to those posters with the extreme views – it taught me that the world is a big place and with many different ideas – all valuable. It taught me tolerance.

8.) Thank you and good bye to those who were brave enough to post questions about some weird sex/emotional/mental problem or whatnot. It makes the rest of us who have various and sundry problems seem as not quite so alone.

9.) Thank you and good bye to whoever came up with the idea of “NC”, one of the most effective and strongest healing concepts out there.

10.) Thank you and good bye to the Canadian posters who mentioned their nationality and made me proud to be one. No offense Yanks, Aussies, Kiwis, Brits (and “other” but Canada rules! I’m sure each feels the same about their country – meet you at 2010 Olympics in Vancouver!

Yeah, some guys just don't get it. There must be an "ignore" button or equilivent on that website.

They guy probably emails everyone more than once.

He is replying because you replied. Those on-line dating sights are a total jungle. It brings out the worst in everyone.

Post us a pic so we can judge, that and quit looking in the mirror so much

PS: I've had a nose job with no regrets

girls who wear fashionable prescription glasses... omg.. so hot.

"Men don't make passes at girls who wear glasses" NOT!!!

What he ^ said.

Don't be surprised if you find what you are looking for here.

We are all looking for something it seems ....

The Human condition

Amazing but true fact: Sometimes women don't feel like having sex. Even if it's your birthday. Even if you are all ready to go. They also don't feel they want to, or have to, explain why (especially at work)

Get used it.

Try masturbation or cold showers!

Sorry, I'm a guy with a guy's perspective but I think I know what I'm talking 'bout Willis

Girls who wear hats. Not baseball caps but actual hats like touques or berets. If she is carrying a moleskin and wearing doc martins then I'm there!!!!

quirky rules!!!

There is also the saying that "married men live longer but in reality, it just seems like longer"

Masochoist: "Come on! Hit me! Hit me"

 

Sadist: "NO!!!"

LOL

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My point here is the same: I think he wasn't interested enough.

Why:

1. He decided to just text her the explanation

2. He backed off way too easy when she was angry

3. He was sleeping with her and dating someone else (possibly sleeping too) (looks like she's shure he was lying)

Maybe he just backed off because he doesn't like women who go into high drama. I am tempted to bail at the first sign of clingy, controlling, prima donna/diva type behavior (and believe me, I've seen lots). It's possible he was looking for an excuse to ease his way out of this arrangement anyway. Sleeping with someone you work with? Not a good idea.

Single, tolerate it. I've had my share so I do know what I'm missing out on. I guess I just got sick of the games and the drama and the attempted manipulation (yeah and the occasonal successful manipulation). Oops, that's kinda cynical isn't it? Meh

I would see alot more "action" if I put any effort into it but I don't. Lazy, tired and burned out maybe

Meh (again) who needs a heart when a heart can be broken.

Hair gel, like cologne and stolen kisses - less is more

Hold your head high and know that you are a better person than him. He will get what's coming to him - and his little skank upstairs too. This is a certainty.

If/when you do meet, I would say nothing - silence is so much stronger than words could ever be. (though a dirty look would certainly be well placed)

Be strong and sorry to hear this.