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I won't go into too much detail since I feel pretty uncomfortable mentioning this, but a girl I have a pseudo-LDR with has trouble climaxing by herself, and I've offered to help by being in a voice conversation with her the next time she tries, except I have no idea at all what I should say or do I could really do with some advice about this, I can get very shy when talking to people voice-to-voice too, which certainly isn't going to help.

I can't help it if most people - because of their personality, hobbies and interests - don't seem as if they'd make for good friends. Though I guess there's no harm in trying to make friends with everyone anyway, to be comprehensive... And thursday, thanks for your reply. Even though I am introverted and keep to myself, I wish I didn't, I'd love to be one of those social and oh so popular people, I'll take your advice and try to find something new to do in life to see if it's just boredom. I guess I'm jealous of more popular people either way, which I'll need to get over one way or another.

Most of my interests and hobbies are antisocial... I don't think I've ever had a passion for anything that lasted more than 1/2 a year. I've thought about trying to find hobbies to get involved in so I at least have things to talk about with other people, but I've kept putting it off, I should try and think about that some more. In any case, I meet plenty of people through university, and while I've made friends with a few, I rarely have any interest in getting to know others any better.. I don't know if that interest is something I can actively change.

Hey everyone, I've been feeling very lonely and depressed for the last few weeks/months, and I'm not even really sure why, and what to do about it. University is a good source for continual stress, and I've never had a lot of friends, but enough close friends who I can talk to about things. I don't think I'd feel any better if I simply had more friends, well maybe a little better, but I don't think it'd fix the lonely feelings. Like I said, I don't really know why I feel lonely, I don't have much interest in getting to know a lot more people, and besides the level of friendship I usually want from someone is unrealistic - Preferably I'd want to have a lot of friends where I can talk to them, and them to me, about everything, but most people aren't even like that... I can talk more about any of this is anything wants to ask questions. The main reason I'm posting this is because I don't know what to do to make myself feel better about things, if I did I could actively work towards it. I've seen psychologists plenty of times but most of the time our discussions end up on other aspects of my life.

I'm only after a friendship though, I'm sorry if I didn't make it clear enough in the original post. I don't have those sort of feelings for her anymore, but her friendship still means a lot to me - we used to be very close friends and I'd give anything to have that back. I really appreciate your responses Robowarrior and Momene, I wasn't expecting many replies! And sorry that what I said before was misleading.

Hi eNotAlone, Half a year ago, I fell in love with a girl, a few years younger than me, who I was really close friends with at the time. I felt they deserved to know that I liked them, though after I told them our friendship hit the rocks and she didn't want to talk to me for months. After a while I got over her. Eventually we apologised and started talking again as close friends, leaving what happened in the past. Unfortunately that only lasted a few weeks before, well I don't know what, but I haven't been able to talk much with her recently, even though I'd like to. Her friendship means so much to me and giving up on it isn't something I would be prepared to do if I can help it. She's been busy with a lot of things recently and so perhaps expecting her to feel like talking to me more than once every few months might be an unreasonable expectation for me to have. Most of the conversations we have had lately have been very one sided, with the conversation focused almost entirely on her, maybe because I've been too worried about losing the friendship if I talk too much about myself instead of letting her talk about what she wants to. I would have a great deal of trouble with the idea that there's nothing I can do to fix things up. Any advice is very greatly appreciated!