VladTepes

You see, I'd suggest that. I'd have no problem in bluntly asking her out. But we've been in this "friends" thing for a bit. It's dangerous grounds. She might only want to do sexual things with relationship partners. But I can't just say "let's date" right now or she might get the idea I'm only saying it for sex. I'm not, but if I were her, saying something like that after doing what we did would seem rather...... convenient to the situation. Bah!

Okay so I've known this girl for a couple of years. (we'll call her kim) We didn't really hang out, just more like acquaintances. We knew each other. Well a couple of months ago, we started getting closer. I never really thought much of it but with each day it went further. At the start, one of my friends (who is dating a girl) asked said friend if she wanted to go to the movies with him and his gf. She said yes and then she turns around and asks if I wanted to go too. I say sure. It's just a movie and a friendly invitation. A week or so later my guy friend asks if I want to come and hang out and I said sure. He says "why don't you bring kim?" I'm all..... uh...... okay. He says she told him no thanks she didn't want to go. But when I asked her, she said yes she would like to go. Well things start going up and up from there. Until about a week ago we went to the movies and she put her leg on mine and asked me to rub her legs. I complied and long story short, she took my hand and put it on her crotch. Later she said to stop and moved my hand. A couple of nights ago, she was over at my place and long story short I performed oral on her. I asked several times during the leading up if I should stop and she insisted no. And there were breaks in when I was touching her. So she had ample time to change her mind. So the next morning we wake up and I take her home. She then sends me a message saying that we can't ever do that again. It was nice and she did orgasm but It will ruin our friendship. And she starts to dislike guys she fools around with and she wants to be my friend. My problem is, how the hell do you go back to being just friends after something like that. No offense or anything, but just friends don't let guys do things to them like that. I can understand if she's embarrassed or something. I'm shocked we did that too. But it's pretty insulting to me to say we can only be friends.

What do you expect. It's romania. The country is ruined now. It's been occupied so damn often. lol

sometimes. But he was once my King and his castle still has the metal spikes in the courtyard.

lol Different Vlad Tepes. I don't have a metal rod. mine's kinda spongey and tan.

Whoa now. I have several lady friends who I have boughten custom panties for. And we are just friends. They all thought it was a very special gift and being custom, very sweet of me. And I'm talking about thongs. * * * * that has my name on it or a joke or something dirty. And they still loved the gift. They tell me almost everytime they are wearing them. And no I'm not a manwhore, he * * * * * or whatever you want to call it. I'm just a regular guy. And the women are just regular girls. They're not sluts and we don't have sex. We're just good friends who can be goofy and sweet. Sometimes men and woman can be very good friends and not let things like sex rule their thoughts.

I don't know. A friend sent it to me but man did it tug on the heart strings. It really is true in it's words though. That would be so painful if that happened to me so I have to start taking more chances. I posted this here so maybe it would give some people some courage.

10th grade As I sat there in English class, I stared at the girl next to me. She was my so called "best friend". I stared at her long, silky hair, and wished she was mine. But she didn't notice me like that, and I knew it. After class, she walked up to me and asked me for the notes she had missed the day before and handed them to her. She said "thanks" and gave me a kiss on the cheek. I wanted to tell her, I want her to know that I don't want to be just friends, I love her but I'm just too shy, and I don't know why. 11th grade The phone rang. On the other end, it was her. She was in tears, mumbling on and on about how her love had broke her heart. She asked me to come over because she didn't want to be alone, so I did. As I sat next to her on the sofa, I stared at her soft eyes, wishing she was mine. After 2 hours, one Drew Barrymore movie, and three bags of chips, she decided to go to sleep. She looked at me, said "thanks" and gave me a kiss on the cheek. I want to tell her, I want her to know that I don't want to be just friends, I love her but I'm just too shy, and I don't know why. Senior year The day before prom she walked to my locker. "My date is sick" she said; he's not going to go well, I didn't have a date, and in 7th grade, we made a promise that if neither of us had dates, we would go together just as "best friends". So we did. Prom night, after everything was over, I was standing at her front door step! I stared at her as she smiled at me and stared at me with her crystal eyes. I want her to be mine, but she isn't think of me like that, and I know it. Then she said "I had the best time, thanks!" and gave me a kiss on the cheek. I want to tell her, I want her to know that I don't want to be just friends, I love her but I'm just too shy, and I don't know why. Graduation Day A day passed, then a week, then a month. Before I could blink, it was graduation day. I watched as her perfect body floated like an angel up on stage to get her diploma. I wanted her to be mine, but she didn't notice me like that, and I knew it. Before everyone went home, she came to me in her smock and hat, and cried as I hugged her. Then she lifted her head from my shoulder and said, "you're my best friend, thanks" and gave me a kiss on the cheek. I want to tell her, I want her to know that I don't want to be just friends, I love her but I'm just too shy, and I don't know why. A Few Years Later Now I sit in the pews of the church. That girl is getting married now. I watched her say "I do" and drive off to her new life, married to another man. I wanted her to be mine, but she didn`t see me like that, and I knew it. But before she drove away, she came to me and said "you came!". She said "thanks" and kissed me on the cheek. I want to tell her, I want her to know that I don't want to be just friends, I love her but I'm just too shy, and I don't know why. Funeral Years passed, I looked down at the coffin of a girl who used to be my "best friend". At the service, they read a diary entry she had wrote in her high school years. This is what it read: I stare at him wishing he was mine, but he doesn't notice me like that, and I know it. I want to tell him, I want him to know that I don't want to be just friends, I love him but I'm just too shy, and I don't know why. I wish he would tell me he loved me! I wish I did too... I thought to my self, and I cried. I Love You

just say "heh oh well, rather know than always ponder"

Honetsly I don't even care about age. I befriend many ages from young to old. Some teens are quite mature and some adults are rather immature. I look at how one acts, not how old they are.

Don't. I know you want to, but honestly don't do it. The same problem always happens. Worklife and personal life always conflict. Any problems you have in life with the 2 of you will come to work. And if she says no or you break up, working there is going to be pretty drab. Just be a friend and leave it at that. The number 1 rule I give anyone about dating, is don't date co-workers.

Okay, could not take it any longer, I wanted an answer. Despite the fact that I could've ruined our friendship, I forced her hand. I told her she had to tell me what was wrong or I'd have to get managment involved as it was racking my brain at work. So she starts freaking out on me about * * * * here and there and turns out she thought I was attracted to her. She's almost twice my age. I started laughing and told her to stop, asap. She stopped talking and I told her that I didn't think of her THAT way. I mean we were always very flirtatious with eachother, but it was all in good fun. She went beet red and started to apologise for assuming something so absurd. I told her that she should've asked me long ago what I had in mind when we flirted. Because all I thought of it was 2 adults having a little fun at work. I had asked her during one of her breaks if she'd like to join me for coffee and catch up, and she thought I was asking her out on a date as I never asked such things when we worked together. I told her it was because since we worked together, there was no need to go for coffee, we talked while we worked. And since we no longer worked together, I had no idea what she had been up to and was simply being friendly. I said I loved her to pieces as a friend, but as a potential mate......... we are just way too different on a relationship scale. She felt so relieved and soooooooooo bad. She couldn't stop saying she was sorry and how things between us will be fine again. I tried to make her realise that she should've just talked to me about her uneasiness before cutting ties. See what happens when you keep things to yourself? Oh and another thing. Be careful who you flirt with at work. Or atleast spell things out if you are flirting with someone.

It wasn't just I who had noticed her change. Many people noticed her decline in happiness. It wasn't completely directed at myself, just most of it. And it was very unlike her. She's normally the kind of person when something is wrong she is first to say so. Rather confrontational. Her behaviour was completely out of character. I still sense something is wrong, as do others, but I've already dug myself deep enough. I want to help her, but can't.

Well I'm having problems with a friend at work. I have known said person for almost 2 years and we are (well were) really good friends. Almost best friends infact. Well my friend transferred to another area of the job and to me, it was as if she was moving away. We don't see eachother outside of work, as we lead different lives outside. At work we are perfect together, but outside.... not really. Anyways... I tried hard to keep our friendship alive by stopping by to see her before my shifts started and she did the same for me before her shifts started. But as time went by she started to slow her greetings and she seemed different then I remembered her. I asked what what wrong and she said "nothing" but I could see she was upset about something. I don't like to see my friends sad or down so I decided to keep doing my part to make her feel like she had a good friend. But days turned into weeks and she just kept going down hill. She had pretty much stopped saying hi to me or even acknowledging me. To say the least, seeing a friend so down really hurts and I could no longer even enjoy myself at work. I was always sad to see her down and eventually decided that I wanted to quit my job and leave while things there were still semi good memories. Still being a friend I told her first and suffice to say, she wasn't happy at all. Infact she was quite pissed off. I tried to explain that I was no longer having fun at work and that I missed the way things between us were. Well suddenly she puts me on her * * * * list and I'm fully ignored. Suddenly people who saw us as the best of friends start asking me what is going on between us, as we aren't the same as we were. (Our deep friendship was pretty much known to all at work) To which my reply is "I don't know" as I don't. Finally after many MANY people keep asking me, I decide to ask her straight out what the hell is wrong. But she won't even give me the time of day. Finally I had enough and asked management if they could help me out somehow and they said they would intervene as it was now affecting the workplace. So she gets called up to the office and we have a little meeting. She says that I made her feel bad because I was saying I missed her and was no longer having fun at work. I try to explain that my intentions were not to hurt her, but to express how much I missed her. She says that she understands and says I'm a nice guy and all is forgiven. So days start to pass and she is no different towards me. She's still ignoring me. She says she's too busy to say hi anymore yet when other people say hi to her, she has all the time in the world for them. Well I go up to her and ask if we can talk and she says she's busy. I said I don't care, It's important and I confront her with everything I notice. She says that she is pissed off still that not only did I make her feel bad, but that I also had her called to the head office and confronted her there. Well what the heck am I supposed to do? I try to explain to her my intent and she says that it's going to take time for her to forgive me. Forgive me?! I never did anything wrong. I'm so miserable at work now and just want us to be friends like we were once before. She even says that she's pissed off that people keep asking her what is wrong between us and she blames me for that too. I never once asked a single soul to talk to her on my behalf. If they ask her, it's because they want to know. Well she says that she'll forgive me in time but if 1 more person asks her what's wrong between us, she says that's it, don't ever speak to her again. I think this is BS in how I am being treated. I so badly want us to be friends again. I love her to pieces. But I don't deserve this. What am I supposed to do? Stand up and stick to my "haven't done anything wrong" or swallow my pride and let her have this? This sucks.