Majin19

I can't gain any weight. I don't watch what I eat, and I eat a ton of food. I really don't exercise all that much either - about four hours a week. I do Tae Kwon Do four days a week. I've always been thin, so unless I start eating fat by the bucket, I don't think I'll gain any weight anytime soon. Anyway, I don't think I look all that bad. I've definitely gained muscle from all the TKD, so overall I think I look good.

Wow, sounds like something I could have written. Unfortunately, I can't tell you that it'll get better, but you're not the only one who feels that way. I completely sympathize with what you're going through.

Well, I've been thinking about getting a new hairstyle for a little bit now, but I've been having trouble choosing a new one. I've had this one for as long as I can remember, so I can't really picture myself with a different one. I'm not really concerned with looking 'in' or fashonable, because I don't dress that way, but I do want something that at least looks good on me. I suppose my only option is to go with shorter hair. I'll probably just go get it cut and ask the girl to do it however she thinks it'll look best. I'll miss being able to run my fingers through it, but I guess its time for a change. As for what I've been doing to attract girls, I haven't put all that much effort into it lately. My high school was all male, so I'm not really used to being around girls all that much. And after a few bad experiences with girls in my freashman year of college and at my old job, I kinda gave up for a while. Some advice with this would be appreciated, but you have to keep in mind that I'm really shy at first, and usually pretty quiet even when I get to know someone. I can't just walk up to random people and start a conversation.

Heh, that pic is my from my yearbook senior year of high school, so its two years old now. I just don't have any recent pictures and no access to a digital camera. But I've always had people tell me I look younger than I am. I suppose eventually I'll appreciate that, but it really sucks right now. College girls don't seem to like guys who look younger than them.

I'm really not sure if it's more my looks or my shy/anti-social personality that turns off most people. I've only managed to get ~3 dates, and none within the past year. I also don't have any close friends, but I've always been a loner, so that doesn't bother me. I get along great with two girls at work, a girl I've known for years but never became really close with, and I met a girl in one of classes at school, but it didn't work out with her. So it would seem my personality isn't that bad. So that leaves looks. I posted a pic of me from two years ago on link removed (I know, probably a mistake) and the vast majority of ratings have been 1s, 2s, and 5s. I included the pic as an attachment. I'd really link some honest opinions. As far as what you can't tell from the pic, I'm 6' and ~135 lbs, so I'm pretty thin. Normally, I just wear jeans and t-shirts, and mostly dark colors (black, navy). Wondering if my choice of clothing might also have an effect. I'd really appreciate any advice.

A little over a year ago, I met a girl in one of my college classes. We talked a bunch in class, and hung out occasionally after class for a little bit, but when I eventually asked her out I got turned down. So I saw her today for the first time since the class ended, and we talked for just a few minutes. At the end of the convo, she mentioned she had a job on campus, and that I should stop by sometime. Does she mean anything by this, or was it just her trying to be polite?

The first one was in one of my college classes, so I knew her for a semester before asking her out, but we hung for maybe a half hour or so occasionally after class. The second and third girls were from a previous job, and I had known each of them for a month of two before asking either one. Finally with this last one, I had just met her at my current job this weekend, and asked her out the second time we talked. Sure, I hardly know her, but I thought it might be better to make my intentions known right off the bat. I've hardly asked anyone out because I'm rather shy and kind of a loner. I can't just approach random girls and ask them out. Also, I went to an all guys high school, which probably didn't help at all.

Within the past year, I've finally worked up enough courage to start asking girls out. Every time I have, all four girls haven't been able to turn me down by just saying no. The first girl said maybe, which prompted me to ask a couple more times, and I got the same reply. So once I got fed up with that, I moved on. The second girl initially said yes, but for some reason didn't realize that I asked her out on a date (I can't imagine the problem was with me, as the other three all understood, and I've asked them out in pretty much the same way), and once she realized what I meant, told me (over AIM) that she had a boyfriend already, but wanted to be friends (which was a lie). The third one actually went out once with me, but after that didn't return my phone call. The second time I called, some guy answered saying he was her bf. So after that I stopped trying, and two weeks later she told me it was her friend just playing a joke, and she had just found out. However, when asked if she wanted to go out again, she just maybe, so I decided to move on. Finally, the last girl I asked out said yes, but them texted my saying she should have told me when I asked, but she already has a bf. Why can't girls just say no to my face instead of playing all these ****ing games, which are much more painful than a simple no?

Well, I've asked a girl to go out to a movie before, and while I meant it as a date, she didn't see it as one. While in your situation, I'd assume it would be a date, it might be something you'd want to talk to him about before you go.

I'd much rather be loved, as right now I'm in the opposite situation, and it sucks.