My gripes probably aren't very different than most of the threads in here, but I need to get this off my chest and I figured if I could get fresh perspectives too it couldn't hurt.
I'm afraid that my issues with trust are going to hurt the relationship I'm in. I hate the feeling of unease and I'm not typically jealous. The person I'm seeing now was in the middle of seeing two other girls when we first got together, but we weren't serious or exclusive at the time so it didn't really bug me. This was almost a year ago.
We've become more serious within the past two or three months and we've gotten to know eachother very well. I know that his past shouldn't influence our relationship but recently I found out that he'd saved pictures and conversations he had with these other girls on his computer. They're dated exactly when I knew he was seeing them and didn't find anything more recent than four months ago, but I find myself being a little worried that he may still have feelings for these other girls.
When I found out the other two girls he was seeing were unavailable to him because of circumstance, it made me wonder if his interest in me was only because I was convenient. One lived thousands of miles away and the other got a steady boyfriend. I asked him if I was just a backup and was reassured that the feelings he has for me are genuine. He tells me he loves me.
Still I can't shake the feeling that he's only interested in me because he can't have the other girls. You know, "the love the one your with" thing? It's terrible and I know that everytime I question his fidelity and trust it's damaging to the relationship. I don't know what else to do.
Thanks for your time and advice.