Firequeen

Yeah, he works on the department next to mine. Our customers ask me for whatever they require and if I can't help I have to ask him. Theres no way round not talking to him.

Well its not really that easy because we work together and neither of us will willing give up our job - we can't afford to. I try to go to places he won't be but he always seems to turn up. I feel like theres no escape.

Some of you may remember me posting recently about my bad tempered ex splitting up with me and having a holiday booked to London with him. Well we decided to go to London even though we'd been split up a couple of weeks. I previously expressed my concerns that a friendship wouldn't work but we had to forge one since we work together. Anyway, the weekend went quite well, we had fun and didn't argue although I felt sometimes we got a bit closer than friends which was sort of confusing but the reason I'm posting: On the way home, it was my ex's birthday and we got into a petty argument which resulted in some name calling and hurt feelings. To cheer me up I went out with a friend, we were in this bar for ages when he walked in, I ignored him (because he said earlier he didn't want to talk to me) but he text me saying "aren't you gonna wish me happy birthday?", I decided to be a decent person and went to wish him happy birthday (even though I already had) but he started shouting, calling me nasty names, threatening me and allsorts then went home. Well I nipped round to his house to try and get him to chill and he shouted at me calling me everything under the sun until the really early hours of the morning til it was too late to go home and he made me stay (I didn't want to but theres no arguing with him when he's in a temper). The most confusing thing is he cuddled me all night, comforted me and even called me his old pet name for me, then got out of bed then continued to yell at me for ignoring him in the bar!! Well he drove me home and we had some very crossed words on the way. Less than an hour later he texts me to apologise, I waited 3 hours to text back (cos I was busy) saying he shouldn't have shouted and he replied being funny with me! I really am at the end of my tether. I ignored him the week before last because he was acting weird with me then at the end of the week he text me in a sad mood saying he assumed we weren't friends anymore because I have other guys (dunno what he meant). He was difficult with me at the weekend so last week I didn't contact him then at the end of the week he text me in a sad mood again and came to me looking for comfort. His moods are all over the place! When I was out last night there was this guy I've been casually talking to who was coincidentally in the same bar, he was talking to his friends and I was talking to mine but my ex blew up because we were in the same place and he didn't want us to get together! It really is wearing me down, he doesn't want to be with me but he doesn't want me to find anyone else. He doesn't want to speak to me but then asks me why I'm ignoring him. The worst thing is one minute he's yelling his head off at me, telling me I'm the worst person in the world then the next he's trying to comfort me. I feel like theres no way to get away from him, I can't even go out, last night was the 2nd time I'd been out and seen him and he'd caused drama. He told me he was going out in the city so I went out in the town ... and he turned up in town!! Someone help me, I really can't deal with him anymore

Well I phoned him last night. I know, NC but we had to get things sorted out first. He said he wasn't even sure if he wanted to go anymore and shouted at me =\

Well that does make me feel better however he told his friend he's got a date in the week. I know the girl and as far as I know she has a boyfriend so I confronted him and he said it was just her and his friends going to the cinema but his exact words to his friend were "we're going on a date and if A = Moon and X = Steve, then A + X = X>A" (whatever that means) I'm really confused

Well Friday at work I tried to act like I wasn't bothered and ignored gim but I noticed he looked all sad and kept staring at me with soppy eyes. He asked me to go on a break with him and I gave in. Then the tables turned and I got confused and a bit sad and he seemed to be happy and not bothered and thats how he's been ever since. I can't understand him.

Well we agreed to friends at first then I told him we should probably just cut ties because it was too hard for me but he insisted on friends and going out once every couple of weeks. I only gave in because I have to see him at work anyway.

My ex and I were together for 2 years, we were inseperable and planned on spending our lives together. I'd been confused lately about whether I was happy with him - I would have never split up with him I just voiced my concerns that we were taking eachothers company for granted slightly and needed to shake it up a bit. Well he told me he'd been thinking about splitting up with me on Valentines day but promised we'd work hard at it and wouldn't. Right up til the last minute he told me he loved me, even Sunday morning then he split up with me last Sunday night. Well I was heartbroken, I we promised we'd make it work. Honestly I thought he'd come back though because when he dropped me off after picking up my stuff from his house he kissed me and he said he was thinking about whether to take me back or not but he didn't come back so I spent last week getting over him ... until Fri and Sat when I saw him at work and just burst into tears. He didn't even seem to care at all, he wasn't sad or ignoring me, he just spoke to me like he would any other person so I asked him today why he didn't care and he said "Well I've been through it before" but he wasn't with his ex aslong as me and she cheated on him with his best friend so I can imagine he'd be glad to get rid of her but our relationship wasn't bad, although there was a bit of confusion, I still loved him up to the end and I believed he loved me too so I don't understand how he can claim to get over it so easy. I know Wed night he told his friend he missed me but that soon seemed to pass. Well I don't know what to do, we've agreed to be friends for the sake of working together although I find it very hard. We also have a trip booked to London for the weekend that was too late to cancel, we decided to go still but I don't want to be miserable all weekend. Everytime I see him not caring it hurts more, I'm not crying over it anymore but I'm left very lonely and confused to whats going through his head. He said we'd stay best friends but he's been quite cold towards me. I'm really confused. Anyone got any advice or support to help?

Well I've been that girl before so I can give you my advice - they probably knew eachother when you were together but as soon as you split up she went to him to try and block out the pain and because she didn't want to be alone. When you've been with someone a long time you can become dependant and feel like you need someone there immediately to fill that gap. Chances are she isn't that bothered about him and isn't really over you.

Well that sounds great but the problem is we work together so I'd still see him fridays and saturdays. I work with one of his best friends and cousin too so its not just easy to cut him out my life.

Yeah see last time he was confused about the relationship and after only a couple of days of NC he realised he missed me and asked for me back. My friends said I should have said no and found someone else but I guess I'm blind because I love him with all my heart. It does seem quite similar this time as he's still kissing me and saying 'come round friday' and 'text me tomorrow' but I know I shouldn't hold out hope even though I am.

Hi everyone, i've been looking at these boards for a while now but only recently decided to sign up and post. Well my boyfriend of almost a year split up with me tonight. We had a slight breakup a while ago while he was going through a stressful time and didn't know what he wanted but he got back with me after 6 days. Anyway recently he's been telling me he loves me more than ever and even discussed having kids if we're still together after uni ( whoa) but tonight he tells me he isn't sure he wants a relationship and split up with me again. Problem is I don't know whether to be upset because I don't know if it will be like before, last time I was totally heartbroken but the whole time he was still hugging and kissing me and stuff then we even slept together like when we were in a relationship until this guy at work advised me to do NC which I did (for about 2 days lol) and was just starting to get over him when he asked for me back. Anyway rambling now lol but before I left tonight he said sorry, we'd still be the best of friends and kissed me goodbye several times, what do you reckon, repeat of last time?