Spawn

too much drama & violent behaviors, right? see if you can avoid it, money can be earned later, your safety is most important

On 8/28/2023 at 4:59 AM, LotusBlack said:

She is separated and living with her daughter apart from her ex and is in the process of pursuing a divorce, I believe.

OP and the woman are currently just dating and he’s posting here asking advice on whether it may be too soon for the woman and if he should hold back from investing too much at this time given the circumstances.

exactly how can you advice until she comes out of the marriage first, the person dating the married or separated woman is in a vulnerable situation, basically she can just close this and move on to somebody else. There is trust deficit in this situation for sustainable relationship, a future can be discussed when both are single and dating without any baggage.

you got involved knowing she is married and not divorced, so why didn't you go for singles?

its more to do with sex here not much of love.

stay at safe distance, chat if you feel ok with their behavior, I would not even allow them to come closer to kiss on cheeks or give even a hug to be honest. Be alert, if they look like coming closer just back off, this needs practice though, try doing it with your best friend and then with a somebody who is just an acquaintance . People are not required to come close if you are not that known to each other no matter which culture you are from.

sorry replied to a old post...

well sometimes we just have to go through the bad apples to reach the best one 🙂, over a period of time when things don't change, the brain or heart or may be both start finding fault in ourselves to make us believe this is the reason for rejections. It's a bummer to go through all this but do keep trying, take a break from dating to refresh on something else personal to you, while you are back into dating just don't have sex until you are ready for exclusivity. Even then its not a guarantee that things will work out, relationships just fall apart for n number of reasons, so why beat yourself over it...let it go!

No but ex's do take a stroll ( read stalk) over your social media profiles and absolutely love to see the nice happy pictures of you with your current one enjoying expensive vacations 🙂

Don't chase now chase after 3 days:) go binge watch Manifest season 4 for a change...

basically you need to relax and don't worry on the whys for now.

We finally end up with very few friends (or many foes like in case of a politician 🙂) so why worry.

if this friendship is draining you out with your health, time and energy, then its the best decision of your life to let it go, use that time to nurture yourself with all the things that could help you grow as a person.

it takes a while, you both were just starting to know each other, she pulled the plug for her own reasons. that's a good learning experience i say.

Sometimes these serious questions so early in your dating phase can put either of you off, just keep going with the flow, keep it fun, once you become exclusive the answers to your questions will all be seen in your actions and behaviour.

by not responding he thinks you will go crazy for him i bet he is like this with many, just move on. We don't want these kinds around us 🙂

if you are so fixated over sex i feel you will loose all interest in her once you actually are done with it. Happens , have a open conversation with her about the relationship being exclusive. Am sure she has her reasons for not taking it to that level.

lol creepy and really something you should forget and move on, watch Netflix or prime instead you will get more entertainment 🙂

Nothing good for you if you get in touch with your ex but there is something missing from your current relationship causing you to think about your ex. You sound like you are still clinging on to some hope of reconciliation.

No there is nothing to salvage, you were just out of a relationship and it was really bad timing by both of you but you both wanted it so this happened and ended too fast. 

Just stay single and focus on your life. Don't go back or try to reconnect, usually it just makes things more messy as it never did start on a good foundation.

whatever you are doing with WhatsApp, last seen feature, setting it to nobody and then to making it visible again being so aware about all the timings etc all amounts to manipulation. Seek a therapist, it has already crossed some lines here. You are way too much obsessed and really showing signs of unhealthy patterns of engagement.

you are a normal person i think majority have gone through this including me, as time and experiences happen during school, college and profession, these reservations and the sense of being alone in crowd just fade away, it takes time, each take their own time. Some needs help, all of these is normal. When we start comparing ourselves with people around who literally are the centre of attraction at most places or may be at ease of mingling around with people we start thinking hell i have got huge problems. Just let it all go, have you tried taking up some hobbies/activities or joining some volunteering group? Say yes to new things sometimes these can really surprise you about yourself.

if you both want a very good chance with this relationship, meet up after divorce and when you both are in good space happy single, if it has to happen it will....but not like this when you both are in mess and just trying to heal from past relationships.

both are not relationship material and you are not in a good space to be in a relationship. Let them go, the miscarriage and all the abuse will surely have messed up with your health and mind. Take a break from both, block them and start fresh, it what helped me during my lowest phase, the only thing that stays with you is you and your truth. Take care.

in person it would be a different feeling, just meet up and be ready for any surprises, try to get a nice pair of adidas shoes just incase you feel like running 😉 ....this brand lasts long so will help save costs in future as well. Amazing feeling when we run from trouble and a nice pair of shoes really makes it special.

i feel staying as friends with your ex has not helped you move on at all. Cut your contact with this ex and get involved with your own life.

Living life without her is an option you should seriously consider.

never go back to people who show you how crazy and mad they are in real life. Many of us relate to this behaviour with our exes, we finally do realize mental peace is better than living with such crazy partners.

well you have some personal issues to sort here and until then it would be really good to stay away from relationships and alcohol/getting high, we all know our limits. Break up with your bf, if he is a genuine honest dedicated bf telling all this would really hurt him for sure. 

i think you can help yourself by taking a big step back, may be take a vacation 😉 the breakup & all the attention can be overwhelming so chill for a while with your group of friends, switch off social media, get involved in some new hobbies or activities, don't date for sometime, just enjoy your single phase for a while. It usually helps clear the mind and refresh perspectives

Congratulations on being single, its the greatest feeling of freedom but not for a long time though 😉

Wish him a speedy recovery, glad he had his helmet on, a real solid helmet he got there.