My bf and I have been LDR the entirety of our relationship. We originally met playing a video game (lol how silly is that? ) and have seen each other many times over the years.
We talk everyday, at least 2 times a day on the phone. We email daily and txt message all the time. We had a rocky period about a year and a half ago wherein I broke up with him. Not nicely either and by doing so we did not speak at all for about a year. I thought about him from time to time (constantly at the beginning of the break-up) over that year of no contact and missed him but I didn't think I was cut out for an LDR. Anyways, about 8 months ago we reconnected and the relationship has never been better. I guess because we both had a chance to date other people and grow–up. If anything the time to evaluate how important we are to each other has been a blessing.
Here is where I need advice...I love him with all my heart. We have talked about marriage and me moving to the US to be with him. I want to marry him. There is no question I want to be with him BUT, my mother always said, "Never marry someone you haven't lived with". There really isn't the possibility of "living" with him for any extended period of time. I would only be able to get a tourist visa for 6 months, I could not work during that time and if I wished to stay after that time I would have to be married by the end of that 6 month visa (even then I don't think it's a sure thing). Can a marriage work if we have not lived together?
I know ultimately this is a question only I really know the answer to but I need reassurance that I am making the right decision. Or, alternatively, if this may be too big of a risk to leave my country, family and job for love.
I just want to know if my fears are normal