serenade

I understand how hard is everything for you at this point of your life. I think that her age has contributed a lot on the situation that you are in now. She is still so young and probably going through a lot of changes, mentally and emotionally. If I get you right, she was only 18 when you first started living in together. What she wanted 2 years ago is far way different to what she wants now. This girl I think just wants to be sure that she can have both right now because she cannot make up her mind still. She didn't want to leave just because maybe she is still in the period of analyzing situation, like what will happen to her if she stays... what if she leaves regardless of your feelings. This girl, I think is selfish and do not deserve a man that is as good as you (like what you have said how you are as aperson). I understand also how much you love her, but did he ever think of your feelings everytime she's with her "friend"? Do you think that this girl deserves the love that you give? If your reason will be for the love itself alone, that you love her and thereforeeeeeee tried to give her the best of everything without expecting in return... still she does not have the right to hurt you that way... and you to be continuously unhappy. She must clear her mind regarding this issue since she is hurting other's feelings and when the feeling is involve, she should do something about it to avoid deeper pain. This girl is selfish, she is hurting you, she is betraying you and you love her. But you have to let her go or be forever unhappy. I know you could still find someone that deserves what you can offer...

Sometimes, guys seem so hard to understand (that's the truth). They find it really difficult to express what they feel. But what they do not know is that women cannot always read their minds. And who will carry the burdens in the end? The ladies of course. This is the story, there is a guy I have known for like seven months now at work. We became friends from the start and I believe he liked me from the very beginning but didn't show any sign. Last December, he called me and we had a nice conversation. He told me he will be resigning from work because his family needed him in Chicago. He left without saying any word but I was not affected since I only liked him as a friend. When he got back on January, he just informed me that he is home now. I didn't have any special feeling for him until this March when he invited me to hang out with him. He treated me really well on that night. We had a dinner then went to bar and listened to music. It was a great night but never thought it could lead to something really special. On our way home, he told me how much he liked me. I never took it seriously, I laughed instead. I couldn't accept the fact that I was beginning to like him too, or more than that. I, as a woman needed a precise definition of what he would like us to be, but he didn't say any word, or at least more than "like". We ended the night with a kiss, and I knew I have felt something for him. We agreed to see again, acted like couples but still it was like me...hanging on to something I don't know. I tried to give him signals that I need an exact definition of what we are now but he only told me that everything is clear. I would like to ask you guys if "I love you" is not necessary anymore for you to conclude that there is a relationship? I am really confused, it is not the kind of relationship that I want. I know that he knows that i like him too, or more than that. Why is he still not saying the words that I would like to hear? Does it mean he is not really into something deeper than just what we are now? What does he want? Should I just let him show that I am happy when we're together and comfortable even after that I know I will not be because of the truth that I am confused? How will I be able to decode man's action and be secure at the same time without hearing the words from him? Thanks...

it is exactly the same situation that my ex-boyfriend and I were in. The only difference I think is that we were together for five years. When I broke up with him, I was so sure that I am not in love with him anymore. But after some time, and saw him really devastated and asked me to come back because he would die... I agree to stay because I felt that I still love him and he deserved a second chance because he is a good man. But I was wrong, it was only a matter of being used to it, doing the things that you always do together... like saying i love you and then kiss and all that. Finally, I realized it was never meant to be, but I can act well and show him that I love him even though I do not because I used to do those things that I know can make him believe that I love him. My advice is try to analyze your girl's feeling, do not be fooled by the things that you would like to feel and happen and the things that can make you happy. Don't think of a certain situation as a good one just because it satisfies your thoughts. Ask her... nothing can make things clearer than communicating with each other. You can always show her your love and your good intention for her, those things really work... a woman's heart is never blind... good luck!