I need some advice to get my girlfriend of almost 3 years back into my life. It was while I was on vacation for a month with my family overseas, that she decided she didn't want a boyfriend anymore. She emailed me telling me that she wants to be alone, needs time, and didn't want the stress of having a boyfriend anymore. Needless to say, it made me feel miserable inside, and totally ruined my vacation. I can't understand how a girl, who i know loved and cared for me so much, just wanted to do this. I must admit, we've had a lot of bad times, but we've had good too...but she just highlights the bad. there is something about her where I just can't let her go. Being overseas for a month, I had a chance to go through a lot of self evaluation, and I then knew that this girl was my life...
The day I called her when I got back, she treated me like S**t! She put me down, told me we had no future, and she never wants to see me again, doesn't love me, and we won't get back together, and the only way so is if it's meant to be....she keeps saying she needs time and space.
If all that is true then why did she agree to meet me only a few days later. It didn't seem like anything was wrong! We had a great time. I caught her calling me 'baby' twice and she even kissed me at the end of the day...still telling me she needs time. but when i got back home, she called me and told me to 'move on' and that I need to find someone else. I'm getting so many mixed signals that its driving me crazy! I love this girl. The biggest mixed signal is that she's still wearing the promise ring I bought her 2 years ago...now if she didn't love me, then why is she wearing the ring? Is she testing my love, to see if i'd stay no matter what the situation? Is this applicable to the quote, 'if you love something, set it free....if it comes back to you , it was meant to be, if not it never was..." Some how I feel as if this is a test, and that gives me the drive to keep loving her...let me know.
