Breathless

I have recently gone through a break up in my life, and that in itself has managed to change the complete direction in which my life was heading.. I have lost my partner, who was my best friend, my lover, my everything and i really dont feel that there is anything in this life worth living for... I am back living with my parents now in the counrty and I hate it. I have no friends and at times i stuggle to believe that anyone really cares about me... I seem to cry and cry till there are no tears left, I seem to have emotional breakdowns every hour of the day... I cant go on living my life in trears... whats the point???

very true, sometimes love just isnt enough... YOur yourng though.. Time heals all wounds... Your off to college so and an endless amount of fun awaits you... Your only human of course this will have some effect on you....

speaking from someone who is hurting after a break up a long relationship i cant honestly say i know how your feeling... I myself am stuggling to deal with things.. But I believe that taking baby steps is the best way to cope... Everyday if you take just one step towards happiness you are a step closer then the day before.. I dont think that revenge is the right answer i think he will end up resenting you maybe even hateing you, and i think deep down this is something that you already know... Im not sure that there is anything i can really say that will make you feel better, break ups of any nature are hard and hurtfull, weather its with a married man or not... Love is the strongest emotion there is and when you loose that you feel as though you have lost a part of you... like your world has come crushing down around you... You jmust go on though.. Remember baby steps.... I hope that everything works out for you, and you go on in your life to find absolute true happiness with a man that wants to be with you and no other....

Thanks, to all those who replied... I really appreciate the advise... The idea of setting a specific time line and giving him time to decide is great... Im actually travelling down to see him this weekend and am going to propose this to him... NO SEX though, just talk and come to some type of an arrangement... I honestly believe that he does love me, but hes hurting he needs to trust me again and know that I wont leave him... As hard as it is for me, it time for me to give him the space that he needs... Lets hope that I listen to your advise and my own and take the next step along this long road.... Again, guys thanks so much for the advice... I really do appreciate it.... I will be back after the long weekend ( we have one hear in Austrlaia ) and post an update.. NO doubt i will be a mess all ovre again, but i need to take baby steps in order to make myself feel better.... Jade XX

I can understand what your saying and it makes sense... Your right its not RAPE, he wouldnt do that... I just dont understand why if he doesnt want me, why he doesnt tell me to go away.. Why he asks me to wait for him... He told me that its not me that he doesnt want, its a relationship because he needs to get over the hurt... Whenever I tell him that Im going to walk away he begs me not to... he says that he just needs time.. But he doesnt know how long... Is he telling me the truth, or is he just wanting me to hang around for his convienence... I would think that after 3 years together and sharing a life together he would have a little more respect for me then that.... I dont know, maybe im wrong... I have been wrong in the past thats obvious...

so what your actually trying to tell me, is its ok for him to use for sex when ever he want, to keep stringing me along, to treat me however he bloody wants.... I dont think its ok for him to do this at alll... I said to him all i needed was a break to figure out what was right and what wasnt... Now he just treats me however he wants... Im sorry that was harsh and well i just dont agree.... But I guess that is your opinion and you are entitled to that.... But like i said i thought i was doing the right thing... I needed time to know what i wanted, and he needed time as well.... I guess its all my fault... I deserve everything i get... YOUR RIGHT>>

hmmmmmmmmm... Well i guess where do i start.... 3 Mths ago I broke up with my partner.. We were living together and working together and things just were not going to well... We were spending to much time together, Working just meters apart and living under the same roof... I thought that the solution to the problem was to end our 3 year relationship and for us to go our separate ways... So I broke up with him, he moved out and I moved back to my Parents 250 km away... The moment I left and moved away i realised that I had done the wrong thing, It wasnt him that I stopped loving it was the situation.. Rather then breaking up I now know that the solution would have been as simple as changing me job and our relationship would have been fine... I have explained all this to him, and he says that he loves me but he is hurt and doesnt want to be in a relationship.. He doesnt want to get back together... I have tried for the last 3 mths everthing i know to encourage him to get back together but all I keep getting from him is that he needs hhis space... The problem is, He tells me that he loves me, we speak on the phone all the time and we catch up and spend time together every couple of weeks... I dont understand... It seems to me I am good enough to take to bed but im not good enough to get back with... We have had this weekend planned to spend together for weeks, and he tells me today that he now has a family friends birthday on sat night and he cant make the weekend... However he can still do friday night... This is after the accomadation and everything has been booked and paid for... I dont undeerstand him, i dont understand what he wants... The only sense i get out of him is.. That he wants space, but he wants me to wait fo him.... Confussed, hurting, and .... well....confussed... What do i do