seanstrina

I'm confused, so you mean that even if your name is on the title, you can't go to the DMV to change it even though there is proof you are on the title? That's very strange way of doing things. But I mean, you can always cancel the insurance and/or get your name off the insurance and then that would be the tough call again. If you let the car go back to the bank, both of your credits would be bad and neither one would have the car. Or if you paid on it to keep your credit going, you were just told that you can't touch the car, that's why it's a hard call. If he won't give you it now, I don't think he'll give it to you later even though he's leaving you to pay for it for him.

yikes! That is a tough one. If they repossess the car, your credit goes horrible. But if you don't let them do it, your stuck paying on a car that you can't even touch. That's a tough decission. It's either your credit or pay on a car you will never see.

That doesn't make any sense to me. If you have the loan in your name, that means that he doesn't have the title yet, the bank does. Couldn't you go to the DMV and tell them that you need to have the Jeep and give the license plate number to them, and tell them that you are now the primary driver. If he decides to not give you the car back then, you would be able to get him on stealing a vehicle. You shouldn't have to deal with him driving it when you gave him money, that he spent on the girlfriend. I am in a similar situation. My car is in my ex husbands name because my ex ruined my credit after we were married and I am the primary driver. I make the payments but he won't let me refinance the car in my name so I'm going to give the car back to him. He can very easily go to the DMV and tell them that I am no longer the primary driver and the information would change according to the loan information. Each state is different though, so you might want to check if you can do that.

Tommy, It's not that she's unfortunate to have you, it's because that's all she knows of love. I'm trying to do the best of my ability to do the baby steps because we both know we can't expect a miracle overnight. I heard a thing today on the radio that said, "why let anyone from your past bring you down, do you want them to know that they succeeded ruining your love life after them?" And when I heard that, I stopped and thought, that's exactly what I'm doing. I'm letting them win. I like the idea of counting how many times he smiles at me, and compliments me, I think I will do that. And I really liked the idea of thinking back when he smiled at me for the first time, or kissed me for the first time. Thank you so much for your ideas and your own personal reflections. Give me hope, Give me strength cause everyone knows it's the hardest thing to do, erase memories that help build you stronger.

I used to be in that situation too, be very careful, tread lightly. My ex wanted to go back out with me, but didn't want to ask because we would end up the same place again. We went back and forth with each other for about 5 years. In the end, I found out the only reason why he wanted to go back out with me was because he was lonely and couldn't find anyone else at the time. Yet, this is the guy who almost called off his soon to be wedding because he stated that he still had feelings for me.

I'm married to a wonderful man who loves my son and I a lot. I have been hurt really bad in the past. Since I was 13, 12 years now, I have been in relationships that I was cheated on, back stabbed, and only loved because I was pregnant with their child. I can't seem to let go of this past because I find it to be the only thing I know in a relationship and it's comfortable to me as much as it may seem horrible. My husband is very cute and very sweet that makes girls go crazy over him. But everyone from strangers to the computer chatting knows he's married and they enjoy talking to me as well. My insecurity flares up and I start thinking about the past and putting it into my marriage. I'm so scared that I will lose my husband, or make him stray away. Yet no matter what I do, I can't find to let it all go, any one have any advice before I lose my mind? Please help! Trina