galaxy71

I should have asked this earlier. Which girl is interested in me more??? The first girl talks to guys all the time since she is extroverted. It's obvious that she feels comfortable having a lot of male platonic friends. While the second, introverted girl will act hot and cold around me. One time, she will get excited when she sees me. Other times, she seems more interested in talking to one of her friends than talking with me.

I want to know which of these two girls should I ask out first. Both these girls have the same circle of friends. Girl A is extremely extroverted. She introduced herself to me at my friend's house. There have been a couple of times, when she approached me, and started asking questions about myself. Sometimes when she sees me, she will greet me. Other times, she ignores me. Girl B is introverted. A few weeks ago, she approached me and asked me questions about myself. Whenever she sees me, she acts really excited and gives me a big wave. I also met this girl through friends. Both of these girls are still in college.

I actually agree that women should ask guys out more. Yes, some women don't have a problem asking guys out. But you know what, what's the point of this debate? This topic is beaten over and over again. Most of the guys want women to be more aggressive. Many of the women are happy with how things are because they feel uncomfortable with rejection. One side never seems to convince the other side. Instead of having an interesting discussion on how women need to build their flirting skills, some of the people here go off-topic to rehash an old-topic that he has been beaten over and over again. The guys try to convince the girls with logic. The girl respond emotionally about how they feel more comfortable being pursued. What would make a much more interesting topic is how many women are hypocrital when they expect guys to ask them out yet they never attempt to help the guys out by flirting.

Look, women aren't going to ask guys out in large numbers any time soon. Women have been culturally conditioned to expect guys to show interest in them first for eons now. Whether you like it or not, that is the way women are. It is what it is. I just don't know whether complaining about how women never ask guys out will do anyone any good. However, I get the feeling that we might be a little off-topic here. The topic line was how women should improve their flirting skills. Instead of discussing how women can improve their flirting skills, there is this debate about why women won't directly ask guys out. I consider flirting to be something like teasing, body-contact, playful banter, and compliment. Being blunt like asking someone out is to direct to be considered flirting. This leads to my complaint. A lot of women don't know how to flirt. Some women do not act happy or excited around a guy they are interested in. Instead of acting warm and playful, a lot of women act stiff and aloof around guys they are interested in. I've seen a lot of cute girls get more attention from guys than drop dead gorgeous girls, because the cute girls knew how to flirt with guys. Flirting is a social skill that should be learned and improved upon.

Last month, my friend started talking to this attractive, brunette girl. He told me that she had torn a guy's shirt off when playing football. The girl started flirting with my friend as she couldn't stop giggling. My friend mysteriously ended the conversation even though she enjoyed his presense. Some time later, my friend told me why he didn't flirt back with the girl. He told me that he has a feeling that the girl is a lesbian. He said that the girl was into sports yet she acted cold and distant with the guys. Last weekend, I saw the girl with her brother and this blond female.The brunette girl acted cold when she saw us, while the blond girl was friendly and happy to meet my friend and I. My friend told me that the girl seemed to be really close to the blond female when they were playing football earlier in the day. I want to get to know this brunette girl better. But my friend keeps on warning me about how he has a feeling that she might be a lesbian. At first, I thought he was full of crap. But now, I'm not so sure. The girl loves playing sports with guys, yet she acts aloof when she is around them.

I was out with my friend this weekend. My friend started talking to this blond woman. She was somewhat introverted. My friend took a fancy to her. He told her a lot of jokes and stories to her. He seemed a little nervous at first. But then he got more confident as he started telling his stories. At first, the blond woman showed signs of interest when she laughed and asked questions. But then she started looking extremely bored. She didn't seem to have any interest in him. I thought he was wasting his time on her, but he spent over 30 minutes trying to converse with her. Later that night, when my friend and I were leaving the building, he started talking to this extremely beautiful, brunette woman. He told me that this woman tore a guy's shirt off when she was playing two-touch football. How many women do you know play football with the guys? The girl started giggling when my friend started talking to her. She really enjoyed the conversation, and wanted him to stick around. My friend introduced her to some other guy. I learned that the girl is new to the city. The girl was gorgeous, smart, and adventurous. But for some unknown reason, my friend ended the conversation abruptly without getting any contact information from her. He ended the conversation when the woman was showing all these signs of interest. In the car, my friend kept on raving about the blond who completely dissed him. Instead of talking about an amazing, beautiful woman who flirted with him, he spent a good amount of time talking about the first girl who acted bored and indifferent around him. I don't know what the hell he was trying to do. He got fixated on a regular woman who ignored him, while he completely ignored a charming, beautiful woman who enjoyed his presense. It just doesn't make sense.

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I also to need to mention something that one of my close riends told me. He said that it was possible that she was never interested in me in that way to begin with. Yes, most people who have given advice on this situation believe that she was upset that that I did not reciprocate interest. But I can't assume anything here. As my friend said, it's possible that she was only being friendly with me. Frankly, I don't believe his interpretation of the situation is correct. But it makes me pause to realize that I have to be extremely cautious in approaching a girl who already blew me off and who does not know me all that well.

I have started several threads on this girl. It's time for an update. This girl tried to start several conversations with me. One night, she literally chased after me. She kept on hinting about how people should keep in contact with each other. The girl was extremely giddy and excited. We exchanged phone numbers. Unfortunately, I made the mistake of waiting two weeks to call her because of illness and low self-esteem. When I tried to approach her in person, she blew me off. After I left a message on her answering machine, she disappeared into thin air. I got this gut feeling that she was trying to avoid me by avoiding any social situations where she might encounter me. Hopeless as it was, I got rid of her phone number. This week something major happened. I saw her again with one of her friends. In my heart, I wanted to tell her that I was wrong for not calling her sooner, and that I was sorry for any discomfort that she had to go through. But I did not approach that girl as she was talking to her friends. I am really concerned that she might blow me off again, or worse she might chew me out or embarrass and humiliate me in front of her friends. I do NOT know the girl that well. As a result, I have to be very cautious about how I deal with this girl.

I already got rid of her number. Besides, since we barely know each other, I don't think that I should be pouring out my feelings for her. She lost interest in me because I messed up. It's time for me to move on. I guess what really tripped me up was the fact that I am not used to someone as extremely good-looking at her flirting with me. It's my responsibility now to improve the way I act around girls.

1) Yes, I don't what went on in her head and her private life. But I can make some inferences on her behavior based on what I know and based on how other people have interested the situation. The majority opinion seems to be that she lost interest in me after I waited two weeks to call me. 2)Yes, waiting two weeks made her lose interest in me. The coup de grace came when I talked to her in person without telling her why I hadn't called her yet. She looked really uncomfortable. 3) It's over. I cannot change her mind if she doesn't hang with my friends anymore or return my phone calls. She refuses to engage in any social intereaction with me. I don't think being friends with her would have done me any good. Dating is a way for two people to get to know each other better. The friendzone wouldn't have helped in this situation. Guys come up to her and flirt with her all the time. If I don't make a move, she has plenty of other options available.

I realized that I made her feel reallly uncomfortable. She showed interest in me. I didn't show interest in her back in a timely matter. When I tried to show interest back, she had already lost interest and felt so uncomfortable that she not only blew off my phone call, but she has stopped hanging out with my friends. She has disappeared into thin air in order to avoid me. Looking back at what happened, I realized how I kept on making mistake after mistake. When she first met me, she decided to approach me and start a conversation. I thought she was just being polite when she was talking. I was instantly attracted to her beauty, but I was not confident enough to flirt with her or joke around. Our first conversation was awkward and stiff as there was little smiling between the two of us. I realized that she was just as nervous as me. I thought she was not interested in me in that way because she looked sort of stiff. I never realized how nervous she must have felt. A few weeks later, she inititated conversation again with me. She was kind of shy and reserved when she talked to me. Instead of flirting with her or building rapport with her, I asked her some lame questions about her weekend and her school work. The third time I talked to her, she ran up to me and started flirting like crazy. I felt really startled because I am not used to someone as physically attractive as her flirt with me. Again, I failed to flirt with her or gain rapport with her. After I got her number, I procrastinated when it came to calling her because I was sick and I was so nervous over the fact that someone as attractive as her actually flirted with me. Not only did I wait too long to call her(2 weeks), but I had the audacity to approach her in person after I did not call her. Boy, did she look really uncomfortable. She came up with an excuse to walk away from me. I had blown it. That was the last conversation I had with her. After I tried to call her, she not only ignored my message, but she has decided to avoid me by not going near any of my friends. She has changed her schedule in order to avoid me. One minute, she was nervous thinking of a way to approach me. The next minute, she is thinking of how to avoid me. She has made the decision to cut me off from her life.

I didn't explain why I didn't call her. I just left a message on her cell phone.

I started this thread called "She was running at me" some time ago. This one girl introduced herself to me several months ago. Everytime she saw me, she would start some small talk with me. When she talked with me, she was reserved and subdued. One night, I was by myself reading some bulletins, when I saw that girl run up to me. She looked really excited and giddy. That girl followed me, as she really wanted to talk to me. She asked me all these personal questions and she talked really fast. Then she made the statement about how people should keep in touch with each other. I took that as a hint to ask for her phone number. She told me to call her so that I could spend time with her friends. That weekend, I did not call her because I was pretty ill. I couldn't stop coughing. The next week, I was unable to call her because she was out of town. About two weeks after I got her number, I left a message on her cell phone. I never got a return phone call back. Nothing. Nada. Zip. Not only did she not return my phone calls, I noticed that she has stopped hanging out with the group. I thought she was interested in dating me. She showed all the signs of interest. She was the one that initiated all these conversations. She hinted about how we should keep in contact with each other. She followed me. I don't know why she completely disappeared.

A few weeks ago, this young girl(college senior) approached me and started talking to me. She was extremely good-looking. We had a brief conversation then we parted ways. Every time she saw me, she would say hello. Then a few weeks ago, she started talking to me again. We had a brief conversation again. I didn't think much about her since she acted cold whenever she talked to me. Then this week, something weird happened. I was by myself when that girl was running straight at me. She had a big smile on her face, and she started acting really excited and hyper. She told me that she really wanted to talk to me because she hadn't seen me in a while. I felt really uncomfortable, because I am so used to her acting really subdued and introverted. The girl was asking me all these questions about my personal life. She talked really fast. As she about to leave, she told me that she thought it was really important that people should keep in touch with each other. She asked if I kept in touch with the people I know. I got the feeling that she wanted to give me my phone number. I then asked to exchanged phone numbers with each other. She then asked me to call her so that I could hang out with her friends. I would like to know what happened? Was she trying to flirt with me? That girl is really subdued yet she started runnning when she saw me, and she acted really hyper.