browneyedgrl

Thank you Iceman26. I do know that my mother should stay out of it. I have gone around and around with her about it. Her and I don't see eye to eye. His family won't stay out of it either, it is getting messy because people won't let us deal with it. His family shuns me and my daughter because they don't know what is really going on. He and his brother stole some items together on two different occasions and told myself and the other wife that they had spent the night at their parents house (which they did not). His parents don't know this, so they think everything is my fault. Again, thank you for your thoughts.

I thought I married Mr. Right. I thought he was honest, loyal, faithful and loved me very much. We were married one and a half years ago. From the first night I met him and the day we were married, I asked him to please not lie to me. I could see his family lying to each other about minimal, trivial things, which I still don't understand. They were not little white lies to not hurt someone they were just lies. Anyways, I honestly believed in my heart that I could trust him. I had never felt that way before with any man I had a relationship with. He seemed so genuine, a real good guy. He helps with the housework and the children, he is supportive and affectionate. He would call me alot and tell me he loved me, he would buy me flowers for no reason at all. Then as it seems to happen, one day, my whole world was turned upside down and now I am trying to pick up the pieces and make the right decision. I saw pictures of women sitting on his lap at a golf trip he went on this last summer (is this considered cheating or am I overreacting). My initial feeling was dizzy with a fist hitting my gut. I never expected that of him. I then find out on numerous occasions he has lied to me, some things not so bad others very bad (in my book). (Read previous post). I have told him that I am moving out, I will go to counseling to try to work things out. I don't know if working things out is what I want, but on some occasions I think I do. I do not want a relationship with someone I can't trust. As I have heard no trust, no relationship. In an argument one night I said to him "You have no conscience about lying, you lie all the time and it doesn't even phase you." His response was silence. He does tell me he doesn't want me to move out and that he loves me. One of my questions is, can someone really change from lying all the time if they truly love someone? How do I know if he isn't lying anymore? One other thing is he has been going to my mom for advice which has put a wedge in between my mother and I. He has lied to her, saying I lied to him. Which I have not, that would be incredibly hipocritical of me. I just don't know which direction to turn. We have not been married that long. It can either be a good thing or a bad thing, good because I caught all of this early and bad because I never thought I would get divorced. I would like to thank you in advance for you thoughts and opinions.

Every woman is different. I have found some men to be better than masturbation, but I have also found some men to be inferior to masturbation. I believe alot has to do with passion and your being comfortable with your own body. Don't be scared to experiment when the time is right for you. You will only know what pleases you when you try it.

I am married (just over one year), he is very helpful with housework, the children (2, one his, one not)etc. I have recently found out he has lied to me about his whereabouts on a few occasions and found pictures of him with girls on his lap while he was on a weekend golf trip. I saw the pictures at his friends mother's house while on our drive to our one year anniversary trip. While he lied about his whereabouts he was stealing items with his brother. I was absoutely shocked. I found out after we were married. In writing this I am seeing more and more reasons to leave him. I don't feel I can trust him. My daughter is bi-racial and I believe he is prejuidiced (he doesn't treat her this way). I just don't know what step to take next. I am at a loss. I am 26 years old. We have a ten month old son together. I got pregnant while on the pill. I am a responsible person and mother. I am really in need of advice.