littlekitten

Thanks for everyone's advice. I will keep ignore him for a month and start my new life at that same time. The most difficult is that we have same friends. It makes them very difficult too. My best mate is his best man's girlfriend. If we meet each other accidently. Is it best to treat him like everyone else? Thanks again!

My boyfriend had a affair with a girl a month ago. Then I left him with a broken heart.I didnt want to see him though I have to pick my stuff I left in his place. He strated to call me,txt me and chat with me in the internet.He told me that we had great time together and I am the nice girl which deserve the best. And he wants to keep the relationship with me,etc. I went to see him yesterday to get my stuff back. And I txt him in advance.He said it was ok for him. That was a nightmare to me. When I saw him, I found out I still have feeling to him. Then I tried to be cool and when I was packing my stuff. I saw that new girl coming upstairs. I lost control suddently, I was very upset and cried a lot. Then I left his house. He sent me a txt at 11:30p.m to say he is very sorry for what happened and ask me 2 forgive him. I dont know what I should do? I really had a very good time with him but I cannot bear he goes out with another girl. I know he will ask me out for coffee cause he did a few times before and I refused. Do you think we could be friend? Or I just need to keep my chin up not to see him again. I deeply love him thus why I am cofused.

hi, I have the same experience. I'm still suffering from that now.My ex broke up with me cause we have no same future. And we still see each other very often , having sex.He treats me very well apart from that he doesnt want going out with me with friends.He thought that will make our friends think we are still be together thought we are doing exactly same things as we did before. Sometimes, I still think I am used for sex by him.It makes me angry and sad. I tried to think it possitively. Now, I give myself chances to meet new friends and move on.And at the same time, I keep this unhealthy relationship with him because I cannot help tp say no to refuse him.That is very bad. But it is the way I try to cool down myself slowly. I really understand you.

I got everyone's points.But if he still keeps talking to me by phone or internet, what do I do?Totally ingoring him? I am tired of thinking this.

Hi, thanks for everyone's reply before. Briefly, my story is that ex broke up with me for silly reason and we kept seeing each other even having sex sometimes for 2 months till now after we broke up. I got the advice that my ex just wants to keep me in his pocket so I visited him one day and told him I dont want to have sex with him because I dont want to a 'open relationship".He said he would resepect me and also he told me he felt guilty becasue he treated me very badly in this way. It happaned 1 weeks ago. Then he kept phoning me on Moday and Tueday trying to chat with me.And we got a chance to see each other on Thu.He kissed me and huggered me like we were together. Then he phoned me 12:20 p.m at that day saying wants to watch movie with me.I was sleeping so I told him I couldnt make it. His action real confused me.Please give me some advice.

Thanks for everyone's reply.I think I know how to do now.

I had been with him about 9 months before we broke up near two months ago.I thought I loved him so much and there were all happiness to me in the whole 9 months.On day, he told me he needed to think about our realtionship cause he felt uncomfortable with me sometimes.Then we argued after that, then broke up.I had a very bad time after that.But I still love him. He started to call me for coffee and dinner after 2 weeks since we broke up.Even we had sex several times, and we had very great time.It recalled my memory.It seems we are still together.But I didnt know what he really meant. I want to come back together with him again because we hadnt got any problems in our relationship to me and I still fall in love with him. But I dont want to be only sex parterner of him. He asked me for sex last night.And he told me he just wants sex not making love with me.It really hurted me.I said "No!" I dont know what to do and how to do.I still want him back if I have 50% chance but I dont want to be used for sex. Please , help me to figure it out.