Moose10531

I just don't understand why you are all saying dump her (even thought I think about doing it). Is it because you think she's got feelings for the other guy? Is that obvious? Or what is the reasoning?

I'm not reading her e-mails. A mutual friend (that I've grown up with and can share everyhthing with) caught attention to some of the stuff (and the last part when they met and he walked on). They haven't been out on a date or anything but I know at one time he asked her and she said "whenever I'm not busy". However, she's really busy and for some reason she ended up telling him about me. Which I can't figure out. But I'm wondering if she isn't sorry that she did tell him about me... by the remark, "It was good to see you but I thought you were mad at me or didn't know it was me because you barely looked at me and went on your way." A friend told me all about that and it shocked me... but in the past when she hasn't been able to repsond to his e-mail or telephone calls or whatever she's stated, "just please don't be discouraged if I can't get back with you immediately". And I'm pretty sure she tries to encourage him to be better.

And as bad as I hate to admit it, I don't think she considers me a part of her future. She's sweet to me and all but she's told others that she has fantasies of meeting somebody and being married (several years from now -- she has other things going on right now). Another friend of mine is telling me what all is going on (she's a friend of hers) and I'm thinking she might be happier with the other guy and I know she's still communicating with him. In other posts of mine I said she had sent e-mails to him, talked to him on the phone, and always seemed to be encouraging and stuff (and not wanting him to worry about stuff)..... there's a lot more detail in the other post. Recently, she saw him (so I heard) and basically only a "hi" was exchanged... he had already found out about me. Apparently he couldn't take it any longer (I KNOW HE CARES ABOUT HER) and sent her an e-mail telling her how beautiful she was and how good it was to see her (and went into detail on her eyes and hair... being pretty)... and she responded, so I heard, with a "if you want to communicate with me and we are too busy to sit down and talk and you want to use e-mail I'm all for it... I don't mind listening to your problems and having conversations with you. I promise!" She went on to say she was happy his dad was doing well (he was sick) and then went on to say "it was good to see you too but I thought you were mad at me or didn't know it was me because you barely even looked at me and then went on your way". That, alone, proves to me she was somewhat worried about him and does care about him in some way or she wouldn't care what he thought. Oh yeah, more of the encouraging stuff, too. What's going on here guys? I've dated lots of people up here in Jersey before but this is the only one I just don't know about. It's like she cares so much for him and he does for her but they are scared of something. Do you think the fantasy I siad she talked about earlier to a friend is him?

shes got to have feelings for him but im just trying to figure out if there might be something to her actually liking him. if she didnt like him she wuldnt talk to him on the phone (or if she really really cared abotu me she might not) or respond to most of his email and stuff. not that i care that she wants somebody to do really great in life (or seems to want him to by encouraging him) but if she really thought of me as something serious woudlk she do this?

hi, i'll be the first to admit that me and my girlfriend don't see each other like i wish we would. she's extremely busy and i feel like she does make some time for me. when something upsets her she'll call me just to talk or something. but she's known this other guy for a little over a year.... i would consider my girlfriend to be friendly but im not really sure what's going on between her and him. i KNOW they havent been out on a date or anything... but i know he's asked and she has said yes, when i have the time. i know he called her one day this summer and when the signal died she imeedately called him back. she really seems to encourage him alot (or maybe she just doesn't want him to be worried or upset). i know at one point she simply asked in an email to him "just please dont get discouraged if i dont return your call immediately and not to stress out if it were several days before you hear from me." and then she assured him she was busy. she seems somewhat willing to talk with him abotu things that i know she isnt really interested in. they dont see each other often but from what ive heard she really seems to smile when she sees him. often she'll make remakrs like "dont worry about stuff and god love you and this is what he says about worrying." he recently found out about me and basically told her they shouldnt go out with her havign a boyfriend (he didnt know) and she responded by not telling him to feel bad (sevearl times) and basically said it wont hurt if we go out for coffee or something. she hasnt said a hwoel lot about her past to him but she has some. shes pretty aware of his life too. what's going on? am i losing her? does she have interest in him?

i dont know what to think really. i just think she must have some sort of feelings for him. all the stuff i know is soming from a pretty good source. i kow sometimes it takes her quite a good time to respond to him but i dont even see her much and i know she sort of considersme jealous. her and him really met by chance and its amazing that she seems responsive. she seems interested from what i hear in some of the things he does and i know for a fact she tells him stuff about herslef like her plans and what she believes shell be doing someday. i dont think they have went out yet acording to the person i talk to but i know that shes told him she woulndt have told him she would go out with him without she would have wanted to and would have been uncomfortable. all its really going to be is something simple but i still cant see why shes always encouratging him not to be bothered or stuff. u think she really is interested in him? i dont know. i know she calls me in alot of situatons when stuff happens but she deonst really see me much at all and i think its bizaree she basically just prays for and encourages him. the only thing i really know is that he has told her that he cares for her and stuff. thats all i know. shoudl i forget her?

and i know that hes a sports fan and sort of a car guy and shell always sit and listen to him talk about stuff like that or nascar or racing or whatever (and she doenst like it) but shell laugh and smile all the while while talking to him or listening to him talk about it. am i just being too paranoid? all i want is an honest respond to all of this that yall are talking about. i dont knwo the guy but i know that alot of peple ive heard talk about him say stuff about his looks being good and stuff.

hey, im new to this place but ive got a very strange set of things going on. my gf never (not much) has time to be around me and isnt around the other guy either. but i feel like she might have feelings for him. she will respond to his email and phone calls and will tell him things like not to be worried or discouraged and i know shes told him shell go out with him if she hasnt already. i know the things they do are simple but i know that when he found out about me he constantly remarked he was sorry for asking her out to which i know she replied you shouldnt be sorry and i wouldnt have went out with you or told you i would if i thought you were to demand or whatever. she constantly lecutres him on improvement of his life and all the reasons why god loves him and that god or her doesnt want him to worry or be stressed. i know shes thought about moving before and have also heard shes told him not to worry about her moving bc its not set in stone and would be several years cfrom now anyways. i know she doesnt respond first things to his calls or letters and he doesnt send them or call her really often so it might not be a bad thing but its jsut that when she does if he has said anyting about wondering about her or missing seeing her shell respond something about seeing each other again and shell ALWASY tell him not to get discouraged if she doesn't call back really soon. and i know she doenst want him to become stressed out. i know she remembers stuff about him bc ive heard her talk about him before and knowing where he works and some of the things he does. she tells him simple stuff about her such as where shes from and about her church and other stuff. i just think she has some sort of feeling for him bc its like she constantly tries to encourage him and sort of occupies herself when shes talking to him or around him with making ANYTHIGN that might be wrong in his life better. whats going on here?