lunatic

yes i have asked him foe oral , and all i get is later wheni come from work he comes from work he goes to bed, so thats out, so i just give up on that one

That is the biggest BS I have ever heard of. If I were your guy and I was told that your not happy with me sexually I think I would have a heart attack. I pride myself on being a good lover and that would destroy my confidence. Sorry if this comes off a bit snobbish but, If I were with someone and she wanted oral I would be down there before she finished her sentence.

I believe you have some thinking to do here. Are you willing to deal with this or are you tired of being used. I personally think he is being selfish here. I don't want to hurt you but, I think he may not be happy in this relationship and is using you for sexual relief. I could be wrong but, my intuition is telling me something is NOT right here.

(Either it will a.) send a strong message, or b.) turn him on enough to want to pleasure you)

 

BellaDonna

I am puzzled as to why it would have to go this far. I would say to heck with the "toy" and say no to the BJ. If you want to send a message to him that your not happy then cut him off completely till he gets it. The only suggestion I would make is to tell him that this is because your "needs" are NOT being met.

If this man is not reciprocating then it might be a deal breaker (to me it would if my SO was not even trying to please me).

You deserve better than that and I for one can tell you that I know many single people out there. I am sure there is another man out there that would make you his pleasure palace. Taking care of his lady is a priority and that lucky woman could be you. If he is not willing to meet you half way then the relationship is already dead. Think about what you want and if this is something you "CAN" deal with. I know I would not be able to deal with being rejected all the time.

I think they remember the "good times" , see things through rose-colored glasses, or are simply in denial that a person they had put so much hope into could treat them so badly.

I think Bella makes a really good point here. I do think we tend to put the SO in a place above everyone else. I think we also long for the days before we saw the darker side of that person. My case was a verbally abusive drunk.

I think we do put someone we allow into our lives on a pedestal. It is entirely possible that we do this subconsiously and when everything comes crashing down at the end. It is hard to see the trees thru the Forrest. It is hard to pack away feelings and memories of someone you care about that quickly. I guess that is why sometimes we focus on an abusive ex.

Although it is also a possibility that it is a form of Stockholm's syndrome.

I know what your saying but, I don't have any answers myself. For some reason I know in my mind it is better to be alone than with an abusive drunk. Then again I miss all the times we had together when she was not "drunk". I guess in the persons heart they are having troubles seeing the obvious because of feelings. I don't know and I would say that this question would have a different answer by different people. That is if anyone actually CAN answer this question.

Your guy sounds like a selfish brat. Relationships are a two way street and not located on a single lane one way road.

If he is not giving you what you need then you have to analyze the situation and determine if this is something you CAN LIVE with. Personally speaking from my experience when the sex is gone so is the relationship not too much after.

Good luck and if you need to talk PM me.

Hub

Hey don't forget about blogs too. Any public area on the Internet you share personal stuff takes a huge chance of being misinterpreted by your employer. I am with Bella here on being anonymous as much as possible. I too have a my-space site but, I don't share any thing with the public and I have a pretty bland site. I hide my friends because they have been known to show the party animal side of them too often.

Be careful about what personal stuff you share and even more careful about what activities you show in the pics (esp. illegal stuff).

Please break this post up into Paragraphs. You will find not only does it make this thread easier to read but, you will get more responses from the members here.

Thanks,

hubman

Weird. It didn't happen when I was having an orgasm, it was right before...

 

I think is funky, but I don't understand how come is a blessing really.

 

I guess I just don't get it

 

What is there not to get? You have a special gift that was passed down to you.

 

Lets look at the facts here quick!

 

1. Not all women are able to achieve an orgasm.

2. Not all women can not only have an orgasm but, have a squirting one at that.

3. Not all women are that comfortable with their sexuality to allow themselves to have an orgasm that intense because they are afraid they are going to pee.(that is what I have been told it feels like right before it happens)

 

I am one of those men that would be blown away if this happened while we were intimate. I say enjoy your special gift!

No! Please! No deleting!

 

Insight? Facts? Anyone?

 

I'm really not ready yet to make jokes about it.... I was just being sarcastic cuz I need to know how am I supposed to take this...

 

 

 

I have a suggestion for you. Why not consider this a gift and enjoy it! I have been with only one woman who squirted and it was pretty insane when it happened. She thought she peed but, it did not look or smell like pee. I know it wasn't pee and I tried to explain to her what happened as she was having an orgasm when it "happened".

 

Remember that most women have problems having an orgasm. Let alone a squirting orgasm! I think that is a blessing in itself so why not enjoy what the powers to be granted you.

 

In other words ENJOY the FEELING and the ORGASMS!

Hello and welcome to Enotalone.com

I have added paragraphs to your post. Thus making it easier to read your post and increases your chances for more responses. In the future please post in paragraph style in order to make it easier on the eyes.

first thing is that i dont want to move on, my well now ex-fiancee (he dumped me), i love him so much and to be honest i always thought he was the one, there is no one i have ever loved more than i love him and no one i wanted more than i wanted him. i am so heartbroken and i wish he loved me or to at least show some kind of emotion towards me. i need to move on in the sense that i need to get over him and stop getting all depressed and crying. i wish i had never fallen for him because now i dont know how to stop loving him, missing hima nd wanting to kiss hima nd hug him.

that's all for now i guess.

Thanks

-Aminta

OK I will admit I have not read your other posts on this and will take everyone Else's opinion that you are better off.

Here are the things I have learned from my past.

You are allowed to be hurt as you were planning to spend your life with that person. This is the same person whom you were willing to commit to in the marriage bond. It is totally normal to be sad and upset as your life is completely different than it was when you were together.

with that being said you have to do strict NC ASAP! No matter how much it hurts or how much you want to call DON'T!

With time it does get better and you will look back with feelings. I agree you will always have feelings for that person. You have to remember this "You are better off and this is HIS loss"

Good luck!

Be strong and forget him!

hub

I cheated on him though and I think that probably hurt him but he won't admit it.

You know I am not one to judge you here but, if this were me I would BE HURT! You know what if you cared for him so much then I think you should be chasing him around since you cheated. If he means that much to you well you know what you need to do.

Sorry but, if this were me I would have bailed out on you already. Why did you stray from this man if you love him so much? What was the status of the relationship before you cheated?? There really is no excuse for cheating in my book.

I have followed the advise given about not keeping in touch, (This no contact) but to be honest I cant see how this lets the person know you want them back. Or want to win back there love. It appears to give the opposite impression. that you don't give a {mod edit} about them.

I want you to read my post on No Contact. From what I can gather you have the wrong ideas about NC. No Contact is a tool for you to take control back of your life and emotions. Not a tool to win them back. Although winning them back can and does happen at times but, I would not count on it.

I would say you manscape a bit. You know trim things down there to make the area more comfortable and neat. Shaving can be a BIT ITCHY after a few days. EEEKKK!!!

I agree with the others on holding back on the oral till he figures out why. I am a giver and I love to receive but, I would never expect my SO to do anything for me unless I please her. I don't understand how a guy would not want to see his lady squirming around while having an orgasm. I think it is such a huge turn on to see her in the throws of an orgasm.

Maybe that is me but, I would hold out till he figures out what is good for the goose is also good for the gander. I always felt it was a two way street when in a relationship and in the bedroom is also part of that street.

Talk to him about it and how it bothers you. If he does not seem to care then you have two choices here.

1. stop giving him oral

2. leave his lazy butt.

Hello everyone on Enotalone. It has been a while since I have visited this site.

I am having a new drama, see there is a woman whom I dated briefly during the summer. Well there was no possibility of anything further happening since I was not feeling it with her. She harassed me for a few weeks after I told her I did not want to date anyone. Well now I have started seeing someone else and somehow she has found out. Now she is bothering me in instant messenger and over the phone. I don't know what to do to let her down nicely even though I don't feelI owe her anything.

How can you let someone who is crazy obsessed with me down in a nice fashion? I don't want to hurt her feelings as who knows what will happen since I think she is very unstable person.

HELP!!!!

Planned parenthood is great, excellent advice hubman.

 

Go to link removed to find a clinic near you.

 

You can read about the STD's/STI's at:

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Thanks R2S! I have used their services with an ex a long time ago. I think they have the best programs for young adults there.

Goto a Planned Parenthood center. There you can get tested for STD's and they are reasonable with their prices.

When in doubt get tested is my motto.

I have a suggestion for you. Why don't you try to RELAX and stop worrying about the orgasm for a while. Did you know that worrying about it will actually cause you to NOT have one?

I'm having the same issues. First the woman likes the fact that I can go forever but then she starts to wonder whats wrong. I gave up on ejaculating every time we have sex and I also stopped masturbating which helped a little bit. Many women don't have orgasmns every time they have sex so you as a man can do the same

 

 

Although that is a true statement that women don't always orgasm from sex. If I was not able to orgasm from sex 99% of the time I would go running to the doctor to see whats the matter. I know what your talking about but, if your into her mentally and physically then there really should be no issues unless you had some alcoholic beverages before hand(even then I would still have no problem and would worry if I did).

Of course, having s_x with someone who is incapable of consenting - i.e. she is passed out (or he is!) for whatever reason - drunk, wasted, sick, whatever - is also not the "victim's" fault. However if the person was not forced to drink then the decision to get drunk - and the potential consequences of those actions - impaired judgment, etc are the drinker's responsibility.

^^ I totally agree and I did not even think about that Batya is on par with her comment.

See this is my problem with this topic. First off, I have never NOT known what I was doing while I was drinking. I always know what I was doing but, my inhibitions are lower so I tend to do things I would NOT normally do. Two, in all the years of drinking I have done I cannot say that I did not know what I was doing or when enough was enough.

If she had sex with someone she would not normally would and she was drugged or forced to consume the beverage then i would agree that its the guys fault. She is as much at fault for her actions as I am for her actions. He has nothing to do with it even though I know what happened was probably what he WAS HOPING for.

If he did not drug her or tie her up and pour the booze down her throat then it is her fault. No one can force a person to do something they don't want to.

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