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After reading the messages from this post I can't help but give my opinion (I'm getting back to the initial topic of the post). I am one of the "exceptions" that would ask a guy out. I've recently been having strong feelings for a classmate from school, and because he didn't have the balls to do it, I asked him out on a date one Friday night. He accepted with no hesitation, and we had a great time. I asked him out again for last week, and he agreed. He actually didn't show up to work on that day last week for me, and he does love his job. Although I didn't mind asking him out, I do wonder why he doesn't ask me out for another date. He accepts with no hesitation when I ask, and we had a great time when we went out those two times, BUT he doesn't call. 'Is it because we are taking a class together that he doesn't call' or 'is it because he's just not interested but can't resist to flirt with me' I ask. We've also spoken about relationship topics such as if he is with someone or is seeing anyone, so I know that he isn't with someone else... according to him. To get to my point, my opinion is that some girls are afraid of asking guys out because they don't want to be put in a position where a guy will think of them as desperate or needy. That's the reason why I don't want to call him, because I've asked him out twice, so I don't want to go out on a limb and look desperate by calling him. Yeah I was afraid of getting rejected like everyone else, but I knew that I had to ask him out to see if he was interested. I mean, the worst thing that can happen is him rejecting me. So what, I'll move on. So now that he still hasn't asked me out, I am getting more convinced that he isn't interested in me that way (because he would've at least called or asked me out if he would've) and that he's "playing games" with me as his toy mouse. So if guys don't have the balls to ask a girl out, most likely the girl will think that he isn't interested in her. In my case, I'm just trying to move on. This is my opinion, not a statement. Sorry about the vent. Forget everything I said.

The reason he hasn't called was because he was shy enough to admit that he is broke! I got to see him (Nick) yesterday when running out of a bookstore and wanted to confirm whether we were going or not. At first he said he wasn't sure because he might start a full-time internship starting next week, and he wasn't sure about having the money to take us to the art convention. OMG, that was it! Sooo... I'm buying our tickets to go to the convention on a Saturday, and he's gonna pay me back when he can. I'm going out of state this week and the next so he handed me his E-mail!! Yay! \ All I'm hoping is that he wouldn't cancel on me, leaving me with two tickets. [-o

Hi guys! I just stumbled upon this website when looking for some advice, but I'd rather get others' perspectives. I've had an interest over a quiet guy for a few months now, and it's taken him a few weeks to be really comfortable around me. Even his younger sisters didn't see him this comfortable around another woman (BTW, we're both 20 y/o). We both love certain comic books, which is why he was able to hold conversations with me these past few days. So after taking our quantum final, I've decided to ask him if he would take me to a certain art convention during the break if I wanted to go, in which he responded that he would. I really wasn't asking him out, it was more hypothetical, it was an "if" question (I was afraid of rejection). He got my number by the end of the day, and I told him to call me so we can set up a day to go to the convention, held in two weeks. We only had that one class together (quantum), and because we are different majors, we are not going to take any other classes together. So, pretty much there's no way for me to contact him. He got my number early this week (Tuesday), but I haven't heard from him. So since finals are over, I have a lot of time to ponder on why he hasn't called. I thought there was some attraction going on, but then again, I could've been seeing things I WANT to see. I really appreciate others' opinions. Is it too soon to tell? Still soon for him to call? Or was he just being nice and is not going to call, hinting that he isn't interested? I honestly thought that he was interested knowing that he was no longer really shy around me, but anyways… advice please?