aphrodite1211

Calm your emotions first so you can think straight. One of the characteristics of a relationship that has not matured yet is the constant need for each other, being pulled and torn by emotions running high and constant break ups and reunions. Try and get over your neediness. This seems to be a central issue in your life right now. Do you feel that way? Ask yourself, Do you feel controlled by your emotions all the time? Make a plan for yourself. Think of the person you would like to be, the qualities this person has. Make steps towards this goal. What can you do to start becoming this person? The best advice I ever got when I was mad about relationships and boys was "Fix yourself first and you will see, you do not need to look, they (boys) will come to you, they will flock, you will even be in a position to choose"

My name is aphrodite1211 and I am an addict. I used drugs to escape and used it to open my mind to a greater consciousness and spirituality. Guess what, it did help me escape and it did lead to greater consciousness and spirituality, but I got addicted because i recognized the drugs as the one reponsible for these good feelings. I got sick, unhealthy and had no direction in life. Always looking for something not knowing what. Then I realized what I am looking for is the eternal bliss and goodness (like when you get high on weed...my fav or shrooms...also my fav) and this eternal goodness and bliss is within me and within everyone and I don't need drugs to discover it. In fact, drugs made me unhealthy and confused when i used it to the extreme. Some religions use drugs for spiritual purposes but not like we addicts use it. After a year i smoked again and meditated, that is when i realized i did not need weed to open up to the world where everything is "all good". I thank the weed for the experiences I had and told it I did not need it anymore and parted with it. It is a slow process, you need to be patient. At first everything makes no sense and you feel all sorts of things or you feel nothing. Keep at your path and when the impurities have dissolved, the light becomes clearer

Keep looking forward and leave the future open - for your relationship with this guy and with others. Tell him how you feel at this stage which to me is - you are comfortable being friends but not ready to entertain a relationship. You both need time to digest and reflect on what has happened to your relationship. You need time to heal. Why not try being single for awhile? Keep the future open whether it be with him or with another more suitable man, don't worry about it. Don't postpone the rest of our life seein if this relationship will work. If it will, it will. You need time right now. So chill....

Just be his friend. Don't get too emotionally involved because he is very vulnerable at this time. It may take 6 months or so (depending on the quality of his previous relationship) because he will be ready for to start a healthy relationship. Keep your opions open. There is no ONE Mr. Right, there are several!