RagingBull

Hehe, I kinda feel the same way. Part of the torture before the breakup was that she flirted with every one at a party that we were both at except me, which was pretty heart-breaking to me at the time. I can't say that I'm not scared, but I'm looking forward to the day that I can start dating again without baggage and be able to have "normal" relations with my ex without feeling sad. I"m starting to find out who my real friends are. So I'm healing alot faster than I thought. I'll still have my moments when I wake up in the morning and feel an emptiness from the fact that she's gone. I think I'll still be in love with her but I'll just move on. She did bring out the best in me. I've never been so charming with another woman in my life. Unfortunately, her problems also brought out the worst in me and I wasn't mature enough to deal with it. I'm just tring to figure out the best way to obtain closure. My breakup wasn't a simple, "It's over, good luck"; but more of a sadistical drawn out torture, hehe. Seriously, I've told the story to some of my friends and they were shocked. My real problem is I'm not exactly sure what to do with my ex. She is a good friend of my circle of friends so avoiding her completely is not easy. She was my best friend and I think she's trying to restart that particular relationship. Hmmm I guess I have more thinking to do.

Thanks for the support. I'm just still in shock at how inbelievably brutal and insensitive she was in the final days of the relationship. I had my heart broken so many times I had to initiate the breakup. I haven't talked with my ex about the relationship since. I doubt I'd get an honest answer from her. I just don't know when the lies began. The sad thing is that I still love her.

I recently went through a painful break up with my girlfriend. It was more difficult for me because she was also my best friend. Near the end of the relationship things went really bad and she stopped talking with me. I was crushed. I also have reason to believe that the break up was mostly my fault. After the breakup she started to talk to me a little online and told me that we can still remain friends. Even though she treated me horribly at the end of the relationship, I still love her. I get upset if I see her in person so I avoid being anywhere near her. I'm also hiding from her online at the moment. I'm still hurting and I dont' know what to do.

I'm going to go with the theory that his girlfriend didn't like him talking to other women. One of my exes was particular about this. I once got in alot of trouble while IMing with a new female friend I had just met online. My ex said nothing. Later that night, she really let me have it. I avoided women online ever since until we broke up, which was the stupid thing for me to do. There isn't much you can do if he's avoiding you. I can only say find a new friend in the mean time until things improve.

My first call was very awkward. I was nervous cause she was really shy. Didn't feel like doing it again, but it was much easier to talk the second time.

Same thing happened to me very recently. It scared the hell out of me that a girl I haven't met in person wanted to move in with me even though I was in very much in love with her. Unfortunately things started to go downhill fast shortly before my trip to visit her and we broke up. I learned alot about her when I met and suggest that you make the trip, but be prepared because things may take a turn for the worst as it did in my case. Best of luck.

Be warned. I just broke up with my GF whom I met online and fell in love with. I thought she was the one. The relationship ended badly after meeting in person. It is very difficult for me to get over it because she was also my best friend. She is willing to talk to me after the breakup, but I'm not yet ready to talk to her yet. I know it's difficult but be very careful.